It's almost like making your baby go hungry during a growth spurt because you only want your baby to eat every 4 hours. NO. Your baby is hungry. Your baby can't help that he or she is hungry. FEED YOUR BABY.
She was like "y'all are making me feel bad now" I mean what the eff did she think the response would be? Maybe they need to take some parenting classes or something. Who thinks spanking a baby is okay? It's almost like making your baby go hungry during a growth spurt because you only want your baby to eat every 4 hours. NO. Your baby is hungry. Your baby can't help that he or she is hungry. FEED YOUR BABY.
i remember once my niece (my husband's sister's daughter) was 3 and telling her mom she was hungry and asking for a piece of bread to eat (my SIL and I were on the phone at the time) and she kept telling her no, that she had just had a banana and that they were having lunch in about an hour.
after the third time of my niece asking to eat the bread I asked my SIL why she couldn't have it, because she is obviously hungry. and she told me "she doesn't need it right now. and, you know, i don't want her to get fat."
i almost died. and then told her she was terrible.
and i know this has nothing to do with your post, but it reminded me of the story because its just as cruel (well, your c&p is crueler) and they also spank their kids. and not just spank, but multiple spanks (it happened once at my house, with her husband hitting their son (who was four at the time) thirteen times in a row. and she also used to frequently tell him that she was going to call the police to come and take him to jail if he didn't start behaving.
i remember once my niece (my husband's sister's daughter) was 3 and telling her mom she was hungry and asking for a piece of bread to eat (my SIL and I were on the phone at the time) and she kept telling her no, that she had just had a banana and that they were having lunch in about an hour.
after the third time of my niece asking to eat the bread I asked my SIL why she couldn't have it, because she is obviously hungry. and she told me "she doesn't need it right now. and, you know, i don't want her to get fat."
i almost died. and then told her she was terrible.
and i know this has nothing to do with your post, but it reminded me of the story because its just as cruel (well, your c&p is crueler) and they also spank their kids. and not just spank, but multiple spanks (it happened once at my house, with her husband hitting their son (who was four at the time) thirteen times in a row. and she also used to frequently tell him that she was going to call the police to come and take him to jail if he didn't start behaving.
ugh, i can't stand her.
If I fed Finley every time she claimed she was hungry, I might as well set up a trough of goldfish for her to graze on in our living room.
i remember once my niece (my husband's sister's daughter) was 3 and telling her mom she was hungry and asking for a piece of bread to eat (my SIL and I were on the phone at the time) and she kept telling her no, that she had just had a banana and that they were having lunch in about an hour.
after the third time of my niece asking to eat the bread I asked my SIL why she couldn't have it, because she is obviously hungry. and she told me "she doesn't need it right now. and, you know, i don't want her to get fat."
i almost died. and then told her she was terrible.
and i know this has nothing to do with your post, but it reminded me of the story because its just as cruel (well, your c&p is crueler) and they also spank their kids. and not just spank, but multiple spanks (it happened once at my house, with her husband hitting their son (who was four at the time) thirteen times in a row. and she also used to frequently tell him that she was going to call the police to come and take him to jail if he didn't start behaving.
ugh, i can't stand her.
While it is totally crappy to spank a child at any age, especially a baby...if I fed Finley every time she claimed she was hungry, I might as well set up a trough of goldfish for her to graze on in our living room.
no, i totally get that. but you know how you can tell when kids are genuinely hungry and just wanting to fiddle with food because they are bored? she kept asking with such a sound in her voice that it was like she was pleading just to eat something (like "but mommy, i am really hungry. can i have lunch now then?" and when she was told no lunch, she'd go away for a few minutes and then come back and ask for a slice of bread again.
While it is totally crappy to spank a child at any age, especially a baby...if I fed Finley every time she claimed she was hungry, I might as well set up a trough of goldfish for her to graze on in our living room.
no, i totally get that. but you know how you can tell when kids are genuinely hungry and just wanting to fiddle with food because they are bored? she kept asking with such a sound in her voice that it was like she was pleading just to eat something (like "but mommy, i am really hungry. can i have lunch now then?" and when she was told no lunch, she'd go away for a few minutes and then come back and ask for a slice of bread again.
Even my three year old is smarter than that. Ella bit me (HARD) today while nursing and I said "Oh my God, ELLA!" and Lucy said, "Remember, mommy, Ella is just a baby. She doesn't know that biting hurts you."
Maybe I should have spanked her? KIDDING.
This made me melt. My DD says this shit to me all the time when her baby brother smacks me in the face. Kills me every time.
Even my three year old is smarter than that. Ella bit me (HARD) today while nursing and I said "Oh my God, ELLA!" and Lucy said, "Remember, mommy, Ella is just a baby. She doesn't know that biting hurts you."
I cannot deal with all the !!!! after everything. As though it is some accomplishment that her husband has spanked their baby. The whole thing reads as though she is proud.
Hm, the reactions to the asshole aren't much better.
Her: My H spanked my 5 mo old and it worked! Others: MOM JEANS! Others: VAGINA COSTUME! Others: TICKLING IS ABUSE Others: I PAT MY BABIES BUTT BEFORE BEDTIME! blah blah blah
This is just script development for the movie. Duh!
I don't think tapping a behind (I'm imagining something very light to get attention) is the same as spanking. So I will reserve freaking out.
I can't believe OP was stupid enough to post that on the bump though.
It's possible it really was just a pat, but the fact that she and her H saw the baby as "having a fit for no reason" and felt a "spank" was acceptable is the disturbing part. She even said she isn't going to stop him form doing it again. So they're setting up a culture in their home where it's okay to spank an infant for crying.
I'm not surprised she posted it. People post all kinds of stupid stuff, not realizing how bad it is. That's part of what makes me weep for humanity. These people are so stupid, they don't even realize how stupid they are.
i remember once my niece (my husband's sister's daughter) was 3 and telling her mom she was hungry and asking for a piece of bread to eat (my SIL and I were on the phone at the time) and she kept telling her no, that she had just had a banana and that they were having lunch in about an hour.
after the third time of my niece asking to eat the bread I asked my SIL why she couldn't have it, because she is obviously hungry. and she told me "she doesn't need it right now. and, you know, i don't want her to get fat."
i almost died. and then told her she was terrible.
and i know this has nothing to do with your post, but it reminded me of the story because its just as cruel (well, your c&p is crueler) and they also spank their kids. and not just spank, but multiple spanks (it happened once at my house, with her husband hitting their son (who was four at the time) thirteen times in a row. and she also used to frequently tell him that she was going to call the police to come and take him to jail if he didn't start behaving.
ugh, i can't stand her.
While it is totally crappy to spank a child at any age, especially a baby...if I fed Finley every time she claimed she was hungry, I might as well set up a trough of goldfish for her to graze on in our living room.
Right? If I let L eat as as many Cheerios and Goldfish as she wanted all day, she would never eat a single real meal. Sometimes I have to shut down the food train for a little while.
She was like "y'all are making me feel bad now" I mean what the eff did she think the response would be? Maybe they need to take some parenting classes or something. Who thinks spanking a baby is okay? It's almost like making your baby go hungry during a growth spurt because you only want your baby to eat every 4 hours. NO. Your baby is hungry. Your baby can't help that he or she is hungry. FEED YOUR BABY.
i remember once my niece (my husband's sister's daughter) was 3 and telling her mom she was hungry and asking for a piece of bread to eat (my SIL and I were on the phone at the time) and she kept telling her no, that she had just had a banana and that they were having lunch in about an hour.
after the third time of my niece asking to eat the bread I asked my SIL why she couldn't have it, because she is obviously hungry. and she told me "she doesn't need it right now. and, you know, i don't want her to get fat."
i almost died. and then told her she was terrible.
and i know this has nothing to do with your post, but it reminded me of the story because its just as cruel (well, your c&p is crueler) and they also spank their kids. and not just spank, but multiple spanks (it happened once at my house, with her husband hitting their son (who was four at the time) thirteen times in a row. and she also used to frequently tell him that she was going to call the police to come and take him to jail if he didn't start behaving.
ugh, i can't stand her.
This reminds me of the new Mom at our regular play date who told me she was sad for my toddler because "if she's hungry you should feed her". It was during Snack Cupmeggedon where she was trying to steal everyone else's snack despite having just had a huge breakfast followed by a banana as a snack. She's also 95th percentile for weight so she's not exactly wasting away.
It was obnoxious, rude and annoying. If given the opportunity our kid would eat everything in the house without stopping.
It's possible it really was just a pat, but the fact that she and her H saw the baby as "having a fit for no reason" and felt a "spank" was acceptable is the disturbing part. She even said she isn't going to stop him form doing it again. So they're setting up a culture in their home where it's okay to spank an infant for crying.
I'm not surprised she posted it. People post all kinds of stupid stuff, not realizing how bad it is. That's part of what makes me weep for humanity. These people are so stupid, they don't even realize how stupid they are.
I agree.
I don't think going 4 hours between infant feedings is abuse, BUUT I'm not surprised Verona took this as another opportunity to talk about what a superior parent she is.
I like the "breastmilk digests faster!" line tossed in there too. Lol. Like it can be assumed that almost no one would know that.
I pushed dd's feeds to two hours apart from the beginning. Any more frequent than that and I would have just weaned. It was my personal threshold for someone sucking on me. I'd distract her and walk her around etc. Now, the one time she got truly inconsolable I fed her early, but it only happened once.