Can I whine for a minute?

[prettyinpink]

I'm really frustrated. I have my appointment with the breast cancer specialist this morning. E was suppose to be able to take off to go with me and then his work decided that they have too many people taking time off next week for the 4th so they have to work mandatory over time and can't take time off this week. It just makes me so mad. I'm sure if I was having a baby they would let him leave but because I'm only going for a consult with a specialist he can't come :-(

I don't like going to these things alone. Ugh.

[meltoine]

Hugs. That blows.

[audette]

Do they know _what kind_ of specialist you are going to see? This isn't your run of the mill kind of appointment...

[prettyinpink]

Jun 26, 2012 11:37:08 GMT -5 audette said:

Do they know _what kind_ of specialist you are going to see? This isn't your run of the mill kind of appointment...

I'm not sure. My husband hates to inconvenience people which generally means that I'm the one that ends up inconvenienced, so probably not. And honestly he'd only been gone about 2 hours, its not like I'm asking him to take the whole day off.

He did say to call him when the appointment was over or if I needed to talk before hand. I just wish he was going to be there to hold my hand.

Sorry for being so whinny.

[audette]

This is not being whiny, this is wanting someone supportive with you.

Heck, I'm hoping I can drag my husband to my next specialist appointment. I felt really steamrolled at the last one, like the specialist wasn't hearing my concerns, and I figure I need an extra advocate there for me. If I can make it work, I want DH with me.

[ilovelamp]

You're not being "so whiney", this is a totally legit reason to be upset. I'm sorry that sucks

[prettyinpink]

Jun 26, 2012 11:48:54 GMT -5 audette said:

This is not being whiny, this is wanting someone supportive with you.

Heck, I'm hoping I can drag my husband to my next specialist appointment. I felt really steamrolled at the last one, like the specialist wasn't hearing my concerns, and I figure I need an extra advocate there for me. If I can make it work, I want DH with me.

I know we went for different reasons but this is the exact way I felt at my last one. E was at that one so I was hoping that at least having him here for this one would be helpful too. When I start to panic I start to shut down and I don't listen that well so I was hoping for that extra set of ears.

[amaristella]

I'm sorry hon, is there anybody else who can possibly go with you for moral support? I know for me it helps to have a friend go in DH's place when he's unavailable. I just need to have someone that I trust and am familiar with.

[audette]

Jun 26, 2012 11:55:05 GMT -5 amaristella said:

I'm sorry hon, is there anybody else who can possibly go with you for moral support? I know for me it helps to have a friend go in DH's place when he's unavailable. I just need to have someone that I trust and am familiar with.

This is a good idea, especially as you mentioned in a pp that you felt steamrolled at another appointment. It means sharing some health information with a friend that you might otherwise not share, but sometimes you just have to do what you need to do.