My sister's MIL competes with mine for worst place

[thebamker]

Her mil down right can't stand her... which is insanity - if I do say so myself.

My sister had two kids before marrying bil (who I'll call Pete). obviously that is still a problem. but Pete admits that she has hated every person he ever dated. basically - it's her. not my sister.

Sister just made this adorable cake for her FIL (who is Pete's stepfather), it is from the 3 kids. "Happy Birthday Grandpa Jack"

She send the pic to MIL and gets this back:

Great job! He will love it. He is also Pete’s Dad and not just Jack. Jack has been a little sad to think that for the last few years Pete addresses him as Jack and not Dad anymore. Not sure why, but it does hurt him. He is and did more for Pete than his real Dad ever cared to do. Long bad history on that one.

:-|

#1 - the cake is from the KIDS! hence - 'grandpa'
#2 - Pete loves his REAL dad and doesn't share your opinion that he is a shit slice. He loves his stepdad too. MIL is crazy.
#3 - Maybe you should share this story with... oh, I don't know... PETE? not sister. wtf is she supposed to do about it?

her MIL follows any (and they few to begin with) nice comment with dumb ass bitterness. it's unreal.

I did 'at least' her and say that she should be happy that Pete can admit his mom is BSC and stands with you 100% of the time. Thank God.

[sprky79]

Until there's a TV tray involved shey doesn't even compete :-)

[Deleted]

i just realized this about a friend of mine. we were at a mutual friend's baby shower, and her comments on the gifts were so negative. like "cute, but you won't need that for months." and "that's nice. i liked the [INSERT OTHER BRAND] better." "wow, that looks like a soft blanket. you sure have gotten a lot of blankets. we only used one or two."

stfu!

there were 20 people there! and she was saying it in front of all of the other gift givers!

[thebamker]

Jun 27, 2012 10:42:07 GMT -5 cville said:

i just realized this about a friend of mine. we were at a mutual friend's baby shower, and her comments on the gifts were so negative. like "cute, but you won't need that for months." and "that's nice. i liked the [INSERT OTHER BRAND] better." "wow, that looks like a soft blanket. you sure have gotten a lot of blankets. we only used one or two."

stfu!

there were 20 people there! and she was saying it in front of all of the other gift givers!

omg! I'm wide eyed over here. holy crap.

[thebamker]

Jun 27, 2012 10:36:30 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Does she at least get to eat at the table? lol

haha! yes. I think she does.

Funny enough - she has to load up on allergy meds to go visit them b/c the cats make her so sick.

She still gets sick, but not as bad. Basically - by agreeing to visit them, she agrees to have itchy eyes, scratchy throat and snot/sneeze attacks for an entire weekend.

MIL REFUSES to believe it has ANYTHING to do with her cats.

"Jack is allergic to cats too, but he lives with them and has no issues."

[thebamker]

Jun 27, 2012 10:46:38 GMT -5 cjoy said:

Sorry, we couldn't fit Grandpa not-just-Jack-who-did-more-for-Pete-than-his-real-dad-ever-did on the top of the cake.

LMAO! I'm sending this to my sister! hahaha

[Deleted]

Jun 27, 2012 10:46:07 GMT -5 thebamker said:

Jun 27, 2012 10:42:07 GMT -5 cville said:

i just realized this about a friend of mine. we were at a mutual friend's baby shower, and her comments on the gifts were so negative. like "cute, but you won't need that for months." and "that's nice. i liked the [INSERT OTHER BRAND] better." "wow, that looks like a soft blanket. you sure have gotten a lot of blankets. we only used one or two."

stfu!

there were 20 people there! and she was saying it in front of all of the other gift givers!

omg! I'm wide eyed over here. holy crap.

i asked a couple other friends. lots of people were talking, so one of them noticed and had been annoyed too and the other hadn't.

i felt so bad for my pregnant friend, i hope she didn't notice. nothing sucks the joy from an occasion like someone telling you your new stuff sucks.

[Deleted]

Jun 27, 2012 10:46:39 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Jun 27, 2012 10:46:07 GMT -5 thebamker said:

omg! I'm wide eyed over here. holy crap.

what an effing bitch. I HATE people like this.

I didn't know my sister knew you!

Right after my wedding ceremony-
My sister- "Hey, you had a bee stuck in your veil, I thought he was going to sting you the whole time".
Everyone else- "Congratulations!"

Upon finding out we were having a boy-
My sister- "Ugh, good luck with a boy, they are hard to discipline. And the clothes are not as cute as girls. Bummer"
Everyone else- "Congratulations!"

I seriously don't understand people like this...

[nadasteph]

Jun 27, 2012 10:49:05 GMT -5 thebamker said:

Jun 27, 2012 10:36:30 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

Does she at least get to eat at the table? lol

haha! yes. I think she does.

Funny enough - she has to load up on allergy meds to go visit them b/c the cats make her so sick.

She still gets sick, but not as bad. Basically - by agreeing to visit them, she agrees to have itchy eyes, scratchy throat and snot/sneeze attacks for an entire weekend.

MIL REFUSES to believe it has ANYTHING to do with her cats.

"Jack is allergic to cats too, but he lives with them and has no issues."

My MIL is like this too. She had the worst cold ever last time we saw her. She made 3 babies and a toddler sick and REFUSED to admit/believe it was her. She was coughing in their faces. We now call her typhoid mary.

[mrsjuleshs]

I can't stand people like this. There is no way I could deal with a MIL like that. We would have to cease all involvement in their lives.

[thebamker]

sister wrote back:

It says "Happy Birthday Grandpa Jack" ......(from the kids) What did I do wrong here?

and mil wrote back:

There is nothing wrong with the cake at all. I just saw the Jack and thought I would bring-up Pete calling Jack - Jack instead of Dad.

I told sister to say:

Ok - so are you asking me to tell Pete about it? Because it seems like none of my business and I'm confused about why you're telling me and not Pete.

(obvious psa: she never had any intentions of telling Pete. she just likes to bitch and probably thinks that somehow, someway - this is my sister's fault)

[Deleted]

Jun 27, 2012 10:53:15 GMT -5 calamity said:

Jun 27, 2012 10:46:39 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

what an effing bitch. I HATE people like this.

I didn't know my sister knew you!

Right after my wedding ceremony-
My sister- "Hey, you had a bee stuck in your veil, I thought he was going to sting you the whole time".
Everyone else- "Congratulations!"

Upon finding out we were having a boy-
My sister- "Ugh, good luck with a boy, they are hard to discipline. And the clothes are not as cute as girls. Bummer"
Everyone else- "Congratulations!"

I seriously don't understand people like this...

Why do so many people say this about boys clothes? I don't get it, I see tons of cute boy clothes.

But I had two people say this to me when I was pregnant. One added "I guess it's okay. Everything goes with denim."

[interro]

WTF did she want the cake to say, HAPPY BIRTHDAY GRANDPA PETE'S DAD NOT JUST JACK!

[purrbox]

Wow. The things some people consciously allow to come out of their mouths.

[nadasteph]

Jun 27, 2012 11:39:06 GMT -5 Que? said:

Unless your MIL wore a wedding dress to your wedding, you can all sit down.

Wait.... whut?!? Your MIL wore a wedding dress to your wedding? Like a very obvious, elaborate, new wedding dress?

[kaybee85]

Jun 27, 2012 11:39:06 GMT -5 Que? said:

Unless your MIL wore a wedding dress to your wedding, you can all sit down.

Whaa? I wish I could see a picture of this.

[thebamker]

Jun 27, 2012 12:05:40 GMT -5 Que? said:

Jun 27, 2012 12:02:19 GMT -5 kaybee85 said:

Whaa? I wish I could see a picture of this.

There are no pictures. No fucking way was I documenting that shit. I know I'm an AW but I bring this up bc I feel like I deserve the attention after dealing with that cow.

One of my BFF's MIL did this too. Other bff and I took one look at her and we literally gasped.

It was this huge white gown and it was all sparkly and just over the top.

Turns out bff knew about it ahead of time and excused it as a cultural issue.

She didn't feel she had any evidence to back up that MIL was trying to steal her day or that she, in any way, knew better and was attempting to be malicious.

Obviously that is not your story, hu Q? Sorry yikes.

[kaybee85]

What kind of dress was it? ball gown/pretty pretty princess? Did she say anything about it to you? I'm so curious about this whole thing.

[Deleted]

Jun 27, 2012 12:23:07 GMT -5 Que? said:

One day I'll type it all out. It's been 8 years, I should have processed it by now. She objected too!

It was a shiny white wedding dress, not a ball gown though. I wore a vintage dress that wasn't white and so this was her attempt to show me the error of my ways.

i am AGOG.

holy shit!

[hubes]

I think that day needs to be today.

[lurkergirl123]

This reminds me of my sister's MIL.

At the wedding she, in reference to her son, said loudly so that everyone could hear, "I didn't bother inviting Grandpa. It's not like this will be his only wedding!"

She also, and I'm not even kidding about this, pulled the chair out from under my sister when she went to sit down at the reception.


Oh, and when she was pregnant with her first son she called and threatened to kick her ass.



She's a crazy drug addict, just in case her actions don't make this fact obvious.

[Mrs.Beagle]

Jun 27, 2012 12:24:28 GMT -5 cville said:

Jun 27, 2012 12:23:07 GMT -5 Que? said:

One day I'll type it all out. It's been 8 years, I should have processed it by now. She objected too!

It was a shiny white wedding dress, not a ball gown though. I wore a vintage dress that wasn't white and so this was her attempt to show me the error of my ways.

i am AGOG.

holy shit!

Could it be? It is possible..... that we have a possible competitor with SueSue for the worst MIL ever?

[Deleted]

Jun 27, 2012 12:23:07 GMT -5 Que? said:

One day I'll type it all out. It's been 8 years, I should have processed it by now. She objected too!

It was a shiny white wedding dress, not a ball gown though. I wore a vintage dress that wasn't white and so this was her attempt to show me the error of my ways.

My jaw is hanging. That is epic crazy.

[Mrs.Beagle]

I'm just saying in all these years, no one has ever come close.

You might be in the vicinity though.

[krismill]

Jun 27, 2012 11:39:06 GMT -5 Que? said:

Unless your MIL wore a wedding dress to your wedding, you can all sit down.

No, but my own grandmother did.

Luckily, it sounds like with you and your MIL - I don't really have any contact with her anymore.

I think your MIL and Sue's should be locked in a room together for all eternity.

[dowagercountess]

SHE OBJECTED?


What did she say?

[WOT?*]

Jun 27, 2012 12:05:40 GMT -5 Que? said:

Jun 27, 2012 12:02:19 GMT -5 kaybee85 said:

Whaa? I wish I could see a picture of this.

There are no pictures. No fucking way was I documenting that shit. I know I'm an AW but I bring this up bc I feel like I deserve the attention after dealing with that cow.

This reminds me of someone on my old home board. IIRC, her MIL wore a wedding gown to her wedding. There were pics and she had the photographer photoshop the dress so it was blue instead of white in her pics. (Did I recall that one right, Dutch/Dexteroni/anyone else who was on that board back then?)

I think I might break out my wedding dress for DD's wedding. It's ivory so I don't think it will be a problem, right?

[Deleted]

Although I agree that Sue's MIL wins for worst MIL. I'm not sure what's worse, having such a heinous MIL or one that just doesn't give a shit about you. I haven't had a real conversation w/my MIL ever. I'll be w/MH for 9 years this year and she has never visited, never called, never really acknowledged me. And she wore black to our wedding.

Also, she goes about her business when we visit (which we rarely do), acting like we aren't there.

[frauschmindy]

Damn, I thought I had a shitty MIL.

Well, okay, I do still, but at least she mostly behaved at our wedding.

[Kristinmo]

Jun 27, 2012 13:15:15 GMT -5 dowagercountess said:

SHE OBJECTED?


What did she say?

Yeah I'm going to need to hear this.