Post by thedutchgirl on Nov 17, 2013 18:24:30 GMT -5
With my side of the family, an evangelical go-Jesus-type prayer is said by someone (other than me). With H's family, we do like @amoosed and say something that happened this year that we are thankful for.
The only time grace was ever said at meal in my family was if my grandpa was there. He died last year, so that will be the end of grace at holiday meals. I'm sorry my gpa is gone, but I'm not sorry I'll no longer have to suppress my atheist eye rolling.
Post by balletofangels on Nov 17, 2013 19:15:22 GMT -5
We don't, but Thanksgiving has been 50ish people at my mom's and a buffet. A lot of random circumstances mean that it'll be only 13 people this year which is so strange, but will also be pretty awesome and I'm guessing we still won't do grace. DH's parents do before every meal 365 days a year.
Yes, we pray but we pray before every meal. Alternatively, you could just do a toast before the meal. At some point we do go around saying what we're thankful for.
Post by sailorgray on Nov 17, 2013 21:34:03 GMT -5
Yea, usually the host/ess will say it wherever we are. We also say it before every meal at home (and out), but that is done by either a 4 year old or a 2 year old. We are hosting christmas this year and will prob have our kids do it. It's short and sweet.
Not thanksgiving, but at Easter a few years before her passing, my nana asked if she could read a poem she had written. She was well into her 90's and very spunky in her leather pants. It was so funny, cute and out of character, but so her. Maybe you could read a poem...lol.
We used to until one day when we were all ... Sooo, none of us go to church or anything. Let's just call it a day.
This is what I keep hoping will happen with Easter in my family - the only one who goes to church ever is my aunt, and she usually celebrates Easter with her husband's family. So every year I don't mention it and hope no one else will, and then a week before someone inevitably calls someone else and says, 'sooo, what about Easter?' and then someone has to cook a ham.
We used to say grace at holiday dinners when my grandma was alive. After she died, I think my mom tried to suggest we keep saying grace (which is weird, because she's an atheist, and this wasn't her mother), but it eventually faded away. Now we just eat.
We used to until one day when we were all ... Sooo, none of us go to church or anything. Let's just call it a day.
This is what I keep hoping will happen with Easter in my family - the only one who goes to church ever is my aunt, and she usually celebrates Easter with her husband's family. So every year I don't mention it and hope no one else will, and then a week before someone inevitably calls someone else and says, 'sooo, what about Easter?' and then someone has to cook a ham.
We used to say grace at holiday dinners when my grandma was alive. After she died, I think my mom tried to suggest we keep saying grace (which is weird, because she's an atheist, and this wasn't her mother), but it eventually faded away. Now we just eat.
Similar in my family. My dad was the one who identified as religious. After he passed away, we kept doing it for a while to keep things the same, I think, but finally we were just kind of like, yeahh...this is just weird now.
We do a toast. A representative from the hosting family leads it. Secondary toasts from other attendees are permissible as well, but people only ever do them for big stuff. Like when she was super sick my mom toasted to the family for helping out so much after my grandfather (the host) did his. Toasts are short and always end with salut.