A dh vent, its small

[starfish]

 and probably greedy but I hate most of the gifts my Dh gets me. Even if I get him a list, he never gets me, and he is talking about taking a little and going shopping. I can't wear most tops in store, I have a hard time finding good jeans, and he has the worst old lady taste ever. 
  He always buys me clothing, that I never can wear, or want to. Then he gets all mopey that I hate his gifts. I keep telling him to stop buying me clothing and he never listens. Last year he bought me a pair of the ugliest ill fitting pj, the bottoms were to big, and I couldn't button the top over my boobs.  He also got me linen pants with an elastic band. And a giant silver hawk red neck style necklace. With matching earrings I couldn't use because they were heavy as hell. He made such a big deal how I hate all his gifts we ended up having a huge fight. Its to the point, I don't want him to get me gift. I am dreading what he picks out this year.

[polarbearfans]

Do you drop hints? Like commenting on jewelry from the catalogs that come? Or beauty products from the sephora/ulta catalog? I very specifically say items I want too. Like "ooooh! This is on my Christmas list!" Which can be for anyone like him, his parents, etc.

[CheshireGrin]

That sucks. Is there someone who could "volunteer" to go shopping with him, to help steer him in the right direction?

[starfish]

Guys, I give him a list, with item numbers,even links and lots of wants, and he is like a rogue agent to the old lady area. He thinks he has the best taste ever, but this is also the man who has worn tshirts with holes for family photos before we got together, With a half naked anime title on it. He thinks wearing a button down over a tshirt is dressed up. Like black tie he would be the guy in khakis and polo if I didn't dress him.
He tries so hard, but it just doesn't click. He picked out the linen pants because I had a pair of jeggings. He knows I like silver, but didn't put together my huge ass phobia of birds, and lack of love for redneck jewelry.
I made the suggestion of doing something instead of gifts, but I just know there is going to be a belly bearing twinset to match those linen pants or something much worse.

[polarbearfans]

Well it is sweet of him to try lol. My husband gets offended I return all the clothes he buys me, but it isn't be because of bad taste. He buys me expensive items that are very fashionable but not practical because I would rarely wear them due to my job being casual. I guess just continue to return and thank him for the thought but you would rather go out on a special dinner/ date with him.

That's a tough place to be. You tell him what you want and he wants to go off list.

[CheshireGrin]

Yeah, that's why I thought maybe coming from someone other than you, it might finally sink in. Sorry, you're in a really hard place.

[starfish]

Its a big joke in his family, and I think his mom and sister were glad I took over gift buying judging from some of his past gifts. I love him to death but, he gets so emotional for some reason.
Our first Christmas together he bought me a waffle iron, I don't even like waffles, I have used it maybe 3 times, and each time I go to get rid of it, he gets all emotional about our first Christmas. Like if I don't keep this waffle iron, it voids our first Christmas. He cried last year when I asked if he kept the ticket for the stuff, and ended in a huge not talking to each other for the rest of the day fight. Not how I want to spend this year.
The rest of the year gifts are great. He got me a sewing machine, and classes for mothers day. My birthday he took me shopping since I really needed new clothing, and bought me a pair of diamond studs. Something just happens to him at Christmas and his brains fall out, and goes rogue.

[CheshireGrin]

Maybe it upsets him because he feels like he really is trying but just can't get it? In which case following a list would probably feel like a failure to him.

[starfish]

I think that is one issue, he also has hording tendency. I sometimes feel like things mean more to him then it should. Like today we are purging before Christmas for the littles, and he can't pick any toys to get rid of. Even the baby toys, he wants to keep. I am just all the stuff away!
When he gets me something I do like, I make a super big deal how great and awesome this gift is, in hopes it covers up the stinkers.

[Dusky]

H used to be pretty bad about picking clothes until one day I somewhat jokingly told him to imagine what my butt or boobs would look like in a item before he buys it. That advice actually worked for him. He's gotten much better at recognizing what styles I like.

He still can't match worth a damn though, so he can't be trusted to pick a complete outfit.

[panicked]

I get where you're coming from. My husband is usually a good gift giver, but sometimes, the gifts are just weird. I have extremely sensitive skin, so I use nothing with fragrance or color. He bought me a huge bath/body gift set from Victoria's Secret, in the scent I've told him makes me positively ill. (I worked there for awhile) I have found that if I pick out one bigger gift and let him do the rest, it's not so bad and I at least get one good gift. This year, I'm getting a rice cooker. I've told him 592385523940 times to buy the damned rice cooker and if I don't get said rice cooker, he's never getting anything again.

[Mrs. ChanandlerBong]

My H has ideas of what "good gifts" are, like expensive perfume or jewelery, etc. Or nice clothes. Except none of it is my style and he doesn't want to offend me by buying an XL, even thought that's my size! So in addtion to not being my style, it also doesn't fit. he bought me a huge bottle of perfume a few years ago. I didn't even want to know how much it cost. I've maybe used it 3 times. I can't wear fragrance.