Inlaw wwyd

[Deleted]

I would get divorced.

[spk926]

YOU are the parent! Why are you forcing your child to sleep overnight somewhere when he doesn't want to? Am I missing something here?

[vanillacourage]

What?

You're their mom. Go get your kids.  

[speckledfrog]

Clarissa, for heavens sake. Your kid wants to come home and sleep in his own bed. Why on earth are you leaving him there?

[speckledfrog]

I'm not convinced that he's in his own bed right now and you're yanking our chain for funsies.

[Deleted]

No. You are fucking kidding right?


LOL. This has to be mud.

[SKP82]

Uhm what? Your child should not be forced to stay at the grandparent's house. That is not cool.

What reason are the others giving that he should have to stay?

[Deleted]

Jan 26, 2014 22:35:01 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

I'm not convinced that he's in his own bed right now and you're yanking our chain for funsies.

This is what is happening. Lol.

[isabel]

Uh, what? You're going to force your kid to sleep in some rental house with people he has just met? (Maybe he's met them before, but still. Doesn't sound like he sees his grandparents very often.) Go get your kid!

[stinkyfeet]

Um. Go get your kid!!

[daisybuchannan]

I'm going to assume this isn't an actual question, and just an odd way to start a thread here and get things going.

[Deleted]

Guys. This is Clarissa.

This isn't real.

[DotAndBuzz]

Go get your kid. Let them be pist. In this case, kid trumps grandparent. It isn't like your 6 year old is complaining about not wanting to have dinner with them, and he should just suck it up and deal. Spending the night somewhere is a big deal, and I don't think he should be forced to stay away from his parents if he is truly uncomfortable.

[Sloane]

They want your kids to sleep there every night for 6 weeks? I wouldn't want to not sleep in my own bed for that long either, especially when it was 10 minutes away. Not to mention the logistics of clothes, school stuff, food, etc. Am I misunderstanding this?

[speckledfrog]

TBH, ever since she said her ILs got her kids citizenship in their home country, I've been waiting for clarissa to saw she narrowly rescued her kids from being ferreted out of the US.

[pantsparty]

Oh, YOU.

[Deleted]

Between this and the Grammys I hate everyone tonight. Go get your damn kid.

[shell24]

Jan 26, 2014 22:36:19 GMT -5 @cse1960 said:

WTF is wrong with you? Go get your children.

Seriously.

[TrickyBob]

You know how you stood up, kind of, about your cell phone bill? And that was a big issue with deadlines?

How about you show your kid the same kind of importance and go get him. Now.

[Deleted]

Who cares what they are insisting. Who cares if they are offended. Who cares how long they will be around. Your kid is scared and wants to sleep in his own bed. Why are you letting anyone else tell you where your kid will be spending the night?

[ProfessorArtNerd]

Can I send Lucy in his place? Cause she's bugging me

[DotAndBuzz]

He's allowed to have an issue with it because 1) he's 6. That's kind of young to be spending the night away from home with people he doesn't know really well, and 2) because he's a different kid than his sister.

And I do get the pressure from grandparents to let them spend tons of overnight time w/ the kids. My ILs do it too, and MIL sucks. She's mean, and N is starting to pick up on it. She's told me she likes to be with my parents better, and the last time we left them w/ ILs for a few days, both kids were acting out by the end. That won't be happening again for a long time, if ever. It is hard to stand up to the ILs, especially if you never see them, but I just don't want to put my kids through that. Don't force it on him. Seriously. It is ok to let your ILs be mad at you here.

[cleo29]

I would not make my child stay where they were not comfortable, grandparents or no. C was supposed to spend a day with my mom this past fall, got to my mom's house and she started to freak out. I mean just a screaming mess. I didn't push it. It was worth it to me or my mom.

I can tell the difference between being sad to see me leave but I know within five minutes of me being gone, if not less, she will fine and her for whatever reason not wanting to go. Your the mom, they can't tell you what to do with YOUR child.

[cleo29]

Jan 26, 2014 22:44:21 GMT -5 @clarissa said:

We're halfway in. He goes back and forth, but it is only now that it has become an issue. They heavily favor his sister.

Well,  this alone makes me angry on his behalf.

[dizzydee]

Do they attend school? That would be my way out of it. My kid needs a routine, school is important, they sleep in their own beds on school nights. They can have them on the weekend.

[CurlyQ284]

This makes me sad. Poor kiddo

To answer your question I wouldn't allow the kids to stay there every night for 6 weeks. I might agree to weekend nights only and ONLY if the child wants to go.

[karmasabiotch]

Sleepovers are supposed to be fun. If he's not ready for it don't force it.

[stephm0188]

This is mud.
But if it isn't... doesn't this kind of demand from them ping your craydar just a bit? Seriously, wtf.

[txgrandma]

Get your child. Poor baby! Are they heartless?

[cleo29]

Jan 26, 2014 23:20:52 GMT -5 @clarissa said:

Mud because I made him stay one or 2 nights at his grandparents when he didn't want to?
I could blow your minds with my life. Damn.

I won't make him do it again, thanks! I have been arguing this same side all day! My husband didn't agree and he usually does.

Does your H agree with you but say otherwise to them? Or I guess leave you to be the heavy when it comes to fixing things or I guess laying down the law, for lack of a better term.