@stpete - have they talked with you about what they can do to preserve her memory? We lost our beloved kitty this past summer and we have his ashes in a box. They also gave us some forget me nots we are going to plant this spring.
Big hugs to you. I really am so sorry. As sad as you are, I think you should keep your plans tonight. Being around people who love you and who would totally toast to Lula tonight might help.
I'm going to plant her ashes and a magnolia tree in my front courtyard. I'll have a little memorial for her with some friends and family. I might get a stepping stone type mold and put her dog tag in it under as well.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I don't think it matters how long they are with us so don't let yourself think for a second that only having her for a little while means you need to grieve less than someone who had a pet for a long time.
Did you take her to Blue Pearl? I fucking hate those assholes.
The emergency vet was vca Noah's place on 62nd. They actually charged me $300 for unsuccessful cpr. Fuck them. I just don't have the energy to fight or care about the fucking money.
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I'm not going to tell you how to grieve, but I would lose my shit if they tried to charge me after that. For anything. And I am also a bit WTF that they didn't perform the autopsy for their own knowledge, at no cost to you (unless they offered and you said no).
I've been thinking about you this morning and saw your update. No way are you over reacting. I still have full on break downs from time to time about the dog we lost in April last year.
I am so, so sorry. I wish there was something I could do for you. So many hugs.
Post by midnightmare81 on Feb 8, 2014 11:39:34 GMT -5
I'm so sorry Your reaction is not an overreaction at all. I put my 31 yr old horse down almost 2 years ago. It wasn't a total shock since I knew it was coming time and planned to do it the next time the vet was out. It just so happened that when I made that decision the next time would be the next day. I didn't have much time to really prepare but knew I had to do it. I cried for weeks. Changed my route to everywhere since the barn was on my way to town. I just couldn't bear to drive by and not see him in the field. Anytime I think of him I cry again. It will get easier but there will always be a space in your heart that just feels empty.
I'm sitting here crying for you. It sounds like there was nothing they could have done and it was just one of those 1 in however many times they have a reaction to the anesthesia. Your right, blame will not fix anything at this point and likely only cause you to hurt for longer. I'm glad you had insurance though. Hopefully that takes some pressure off you to grieve without worrying about paying a large bill. Take care of yourself.
I would ask if she was kept in a heated cage. If she wasn't then no shit her temp didn't come back up. Some dogs have a hard time regulating their temp after surgery, it can be common, but you either put them on a heating pad or most places have heated cages they recover in for several hours. I'm guessing she was moved pretty quickly after surgery because they were closing?
Post by alicenelson on Feb 8, 2014 12:01:55 GMT -5
Your grief is real and in no way an over-reaction. Hell, I blubber-cried when I saw your last pic with her just a few minutes ago. Again, words can't express how sad I am for you.
I would ask if she was kept in a heated cage. If she wasn't then no shit her temp didn't come back up. Some dogs have a hard time regulating their temp after surgery, it can be common, but you either put them on a heating pad or most places have heated cages they recover in for several hours. I'm guessing she was moved pretty quickly after surgery because they were closing?
They put her in the warmer as soon as I arrived.
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Good. I know it's hard NOT to blame someone, but to be honest it was probably just a fluke thing. I think the bill is a little outrageous, but since you had insurance, I wouldn't complain either, pay your portion so you can move on from the ordeal.
And I would definitely go out tonight, it will be nice to clear your head a bit. And I LOVE magnolia trees!! It will be regal and beautiful just like Lulu.
My eyes are swollen this morning, I cried every time I woke and thought of her. I feel like I lost my best friend. This has to be an overreaction, but I'm so hurt.
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Not at all. This is a terrible tragedy, and a huge shock. I would be reacting the same way. ((((((hugs))))))