Online dating / kids

[moog]

This isn't about me per se but it is about my husband and his ex-wife. During the latest kid-exchange, she randomly told him she is now on Match.com. We don't know why because they aren't friends or anything.

So of course I go to look at her profile for giggles and besides pictures of herself, she has one of their kid. It's pretty recent (and the kid isn't a baby/todder) so it's identifiable.

My husband is not happy about this but isn't sure he wants to mention it.

So if you have kids, do you put their pics on a dating website? Is this normal or no?

[callunafirefly]

I do not and it does bother me when guys do. Not only because I don't think they should post pics of their kids, but also because I think it comes across as trying too hard. If my exH had a picture of my son on his profile, I would tell him to remove it.

[sparkles17]

I would not put pictures of my kids on a dating site. As a matter of fact, I wouldn't talk to a guy with pictures of his kids, it just isn't appropriate.

[moog]

Ok glad we aren't just paranoid weirdos. I think I'll urge him to speak up then.

[BookLover]

Putting a kids picture up a dating site is a no go. Showing you have a kid in a picture is just screaming for a child predator to get in contact with her.

I never made contact with a guy who had a picture with his kid.

[housegeek]

I agree with above, on a dating site, mentioning you have kids, good, posting pictures, stupid.

[moog]

Thank you all very much!

[stephbfan]

May 14, 2012 19:28:11 GMT -5 BookLover said:

Putting a kids picture up a dating site is a no go. Showing you have a kid in a picture is just screaming for a child predator to get in contact with her.

I never made contact with a guy who had a picture with his kid.

This!
I would request the ex wife to take the picture down.

[turtle1120]

While I don't agree with putting pics of kids on dating sites, I don't think you can ask her to remove it. I mean, why were you even looking at her profile? You and your husband are married and had no business being on Match other than to snoop on her.

Again I don't think it's a good decision on her part ,but I don't know that it's a fight worth fighting. You can't make her take the pics down.

[doriswe]

May 15, 2012 9:30:44 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

While I don't agree with putting pics of kids on dating sites, I don't think you can ask her to remove it. I mean, why were you even looking at her profile? You and your husband are married and had no business being on Match other than to snoop on her.

Again I don't think it's a good decision on her part ,but I don't know that it's a fight worth fighting. You can't make her take the pics down.

This is what I wanted to say, but wasn't sure how to say it nicely!

[lovelybb]

May 15, 2012 9:40:57 GMT -5 doriswe said:

May 15, 2012 9:30:44 GMT -5 turtle1120 said:

While I don't agree with putting pics of kids on dating sites, I don't think you can ask her to remove it. I mean, why were you even looking at her profile? You and your husband are married and had no business being on Match other than to snoop on her.

Again I don't think it's a good decision on her part ,but I don't know that it's a fight worth fighting. You can't make her take the pics down.

This is what I wanted to say, but wasn't sure how to say it nicely!

I agree... she did mention it to him though so maybe at the next exchange, he could casually bring it up and say something to the effect of "I hope you didn't post any photos of the kids up"

[stephbfan]

She told them she had a profile on match! I think just because of that, she opened that door for them to comment on it.

[moog]

My husband didn't snoop nor had any interest in it. *I* did. She has a history of posting very bad things on facebook about him (found out through family) so yes, I did go look. She is the one who outright told him she was on there and actively looking for someone.

I know many would say I'm wrong for looking. That's a fair criticism, perhaps I shouldn't have. I only did so because she told him, I don't go trolling for her daily or something.

Anyways, I am glad for the perspective from either side. It's up to H if he wants to speak up.

ps. I didn't create a profile just to look. I had one from 5 years ago with an email I never used & you don't have to pay to see profiles.

[prettyinpearls]

No, I wouldn't post a photo of DS on a dating website and I'd be LIVID if XH did.

[achase123]

May 15, 2012 15:00:52 GMT -5 prettyinpearls said:

No, I wouldn't post a photo of DS on a dating website and I'd be LIVID if XH did.

When SD and I first split he had a picture of himself with P on his match profile. Fortunately it was super blurry and poor quality so you couldn't even really tell if the baby was a boy or a girl.