At the dinner table, Edith says she needs a new family.

[Jermys]

I don't know his parents because he rides the bus to daycare and his parents aren't there at pick up and drop off. Her entire class is invited to her birthday party, however, so we shall see if he attends.

[daisyheadmaizie]

What a little jerk face.

[meggers5]

Antoine needs to shut his trap.

[cville]

Antoine needs to keep it to himself.

[Deleted]

Mar 17, 2014 21:02:17 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Mar 17, 2014 20:57:14 GMT -5 whattheheck said:

Good for her. But also, the fact that this kid is commenting on your kid's booty as well as the bootys (booties?) on the rest of your family is a little disturbing.

Honestly, this may have been something that she threw in so she could use the word booty.  She loves that word and brings it up in all body related conversations.

She and G should hang out.

[DotAndBuzz]

Definitely email the teacher about this.

[cville]

Mar 17, 2014 21:38:07 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

Mar 17, 2014 21:02:17 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Honestly, this may have been something that she threw in so she could use the word booty.  She loves that word and brings it up in all body related conversations.

She and G should hang out.

L cannot go to this gathering. She's turned into the "potty word" police, and has an overbroad definition of potty word, to include "behind" (used in any context) and the letter P. It's like living in 1984, except with better clothes.

[Jermys]

Mar 17, 2014 21:42:24 GMT -5 cville said:

Mar 17, 2014 21:38:07 GMT -5 @stellasmom said:

She and G should hang out.

L cannot go to this gathering. She's turned into the "potty word" police, and has an overbroad definition of potty word, to include "behind" (used in any context) and the letter P. It's like living in 1984, except with better clothes.

She would be SCANDALIZED by Edith.  Whose favorite joke is "Knockknockwho'sthere? DIRTY UNDERPANTS!  HAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!"

^o)

[Deleted]

Antoine is...not very smart.

[cville]

Mar 17, 2014 21:43:32 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Mar 17, 2014 21:42:24 GMT -5 cville said:

L cannot go to this gathering. She's turned into the "potty word" police, and has an overbroad definition of potty word, to include "behind" (used in any context) and the letter P. It's like living in 1984, except with better clothes.

She would be SCANDALIZED by Edith.  Whose favorite joke is "Knockknockwho'sthere? DIRTY UNDERPANTS!  HAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!"

Lol. L would pass out, fainting couch style. Then she'd come to and regulate.

[eb777888]

Mar 17, 2014 21:19:38 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Mar 17, 2014 21:17:25 GMT -5 Ohhmm(bligo) said:

Teach Edith to respond, "Antoine. You are an asshole."

She told him after the Ninja Turtle Shirt Incident that he was full of crap.  And got a small talking to for using an "at home" word at school, but not for the sentiment.  Because he is, in fact, full of crap.  

Hahahahaha!! I love that you have "at home" words, too. 

[FastHands]

I can't really focus on what a shitty thing it was for him to say, because the stand-out message for me is what an awesome the relationship you have with E. There will always, unfortunately, be Antoines. But before long, E won't even need your help to set them right. And maybe even teach them something valuable!

[Jermys]

Mar 17, 2014 22:20:19 GMT -5 FastHands said:

I can't really focus on what a shitty thing it was for him to say, because the stand-out message for me is what an awesome the relationship you have with E. There will always, unfortunately, be Antoines. But before long, E won't even need your help to set them right. And maybe even teach them something valuable!

This actually brought tears to my eyes.  Thank you.

[sugarbear]

I don't even know what to say, that would be remotely appropriate. Or that SueSue didn't already say.
I'm sorry
Edith is lucky-- so incredibly lucky-- to have you.

[trafficgirl]

a) Antoine is already an asshole at five. I'm hoping he grows out of it.

b) E is freaking kick ass for questioning him and having such strong values

c) YOU are super kick ass for teaching E to trust her gut and have open communication with her family. Kudos Jermys.

[txgrandma]

Antoine is being raised in ignorance, and Edith can explain how special her family is because she was chosen. Your family matches in the things that count..love, loyalty, caring. This little boy needs a lesson about the color of a person's skin doesn't matter. Who better to teach the boy than Edith?

You have done such a wonderful job with Edith. With a little coaching, I bet she could "diversify" A. He knows only what his asshole parents have taught him..
Who knows who else may be listening? Changing one person at a time.

Edit added a sentence

[BunnyMacDougal]

Hurrah for you!   I, as a mom, would be so hurt and sad that some little fuckwad had said this to my daughter.

You're awesome for knowing what to say and I might add that you have done a fabulous job in general as evidenced by her response.

My kid and I don't match either.  She'll say things like I should be so-and-so's mom because we match (pretty much the language she uses), but no one's ever made the comment to her in an impressionable way before.

I'm going to use your line if that happens!  

[BunnyMacDougal]

Mar 17, 2014 22:11:44 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Mar 17, 2014 21:19:38 GMT -5 Jermys said:

She told him after the Ninja Turtle Shirt Incident that he was full of crap.  And got a small talking to for using an "at home" word at school, but not for the sentiment.  Because he is, in fact, full of crap.  

Hahahahaha!! I love that you have "at home" words, too. 

Yes, me too.  H currently has C in hysterics over "grab ass".  She could NOT believe it was a thing, and then the next few days were literal grabbing of asses.  Now she just likes to say it.  Sigh.

[Jermys]

Mar 17, 2014 23:07:53 GMT -5 killercupcake said:

I know I posted something similar on your FB, but since FB can't accommodate gifs yet, I'm putting it here. 

Teach Edith this for the next time Antoine says something else stupid. 

I am TOTALLY going to teach her this.  

[Deleted]

What a jerk.  He can keep his opinions to himself.  

What a bully.

[sewpinkgal]

What an ass.

At least one child is being raised right in this situation. I'm just sorry that E keeps having run ins with the jerk.

[aussiecrush]

Antoine sucks. I think I'd teach Edith to say no one asked you. Also, you are an awesome mom.

[underwaterrhymes]

I won't comment on Antoine because he's five and there is time for him to sort his shit out. Hopefully as he gets older he'll be more accepting.

But I love how you and Edith relate with one another. You are such an awesome mom.

[wambam]

Antoine needs to be drop kicked. And his parents need to be pushed off a tall building.

[Waffles]

Sounds like someone needs to have a little chat with Antoine about equality and diversity. I'm gonna guess his parents aren't going to be it though

[cinnamoncox]

Shit, two of my kids are twins and "don't match". Like people ask if I'm "sure" they're twins :/
Kids can be so unkind, really without intention. I'm sure he just thought he was razzing her, I can't really hard core name call a five year old, however it does need to be addressed, because he clearly isn't being taught about different=ok at home, so he will need to learn somewhere.
I thought you lived in a more diverse area, I guess a) I was wrong or b) diverse =/= tolerant.

I'm sorry. E sounds delightful and you know you're a great mom, you don't need me to tell you that
I hope this resolves soon, I don't like the idea of her in school dealing with his bullshit instead of learning and playing.
Good luck, how shitty.

[Saint Monica]

Antoine needs to come over and spend some time with the Jermys family. It sounds like he needs some love and attention.

[snickers]

[Knight]

Mar 17, 2014 21:43:32 GMT -5 Jermys said:

Mar 17, 2014 21:42:24 GMT -5 cville said:

L cannot go to this gathering. She's turned into the "potty word" police, and has an overbroad definition of potty word, to include "behind" (used in any context) and the letter P. It's like living in 1984, except with better clothes.

She would be SCANDALIZED by Edith.  Whose favorite joke is "Knockknockwho'sthere? DIRTY UNDERPANTS!  HAAAAAAHAHAHAHAHAHA!"

J will scream, "UNDERWEAR PANTS!" at every opportunity because it makes Sam laugh. 

[Deleted]

First of all fuck Antoine's parents. They suck.

Second- Edith is the shit. Seriously, you are raising the coolest girl ever.

Third- My Mom and I " don't match" I am really really white, and she is dark and olive toned. I got asked OFTEN if I was adopted. People always assumed she was my stepmom too ( FFS people ). I also used to nanny for a family where the Mom was AA and Southern and the Dad was pretty pasty and super crusty British. They lived outside of Boston. The kids were both fair with blonde hair and green eyes. People always thought SHE was my nanny ( dude I was 24!!) and I was the Mom. It was so annoying.

Seriously the world needs less Antoines