My MIL watches my 8 month old son at our house one day a week. I just found out she takes him in the bathroom with her. I find it inappropriate and it makes me very uncomfortable and will be putting an end to it before she watches him again, but I'm curious to hear if others would feel the same?
No. This would not bother me AT ALL at 8 months old. 8 years old might be a different story.
Why do you think it makes you uncomfortable? Is there something about your MIL? Babies in the bathroom in general (germiness, etc.)? Do you have a "safe spot" for him to go when she needs to use the facilities?
I guess I may be dense, as I do not get this one bit.
Post by urbancowgirl on Apr 1, 2014 15:16:17 GMT -5
That would not bother me. I've been taking DS (9 mos.) into the bathroom with me on occasion since he started crawling. I figure he's too young to suffer any permanent damage from it, lol.
I babysit a 9m old and I take her in the bathroom with me. I don't have an exersaucer to put her in but she's quick and into everything so I don't want to leave her alone. Usually my 2 yr old comes with us too so it's just a big party!
I have no problem taking him in with me, but I'm his parent. Maybe it's just my MIL that makes it weird, I just don't think he needs to be in there with her.
ETA: my MIL once made a really gross comment about my babies penis in an ultrasound picture, and it made me go all mama bear and I'm feeling the same way now. Gut feeling I guess, it's interesting that no one else is bothered by it.
I WISH my baby wouldn't insist on being in the damn bathroom with me! She screams bloody murder if I go without her & I can't concentrate/relax (lol) with a kid crying/screaming outside the room. It's super duper annoying now that she pulls up on me while I'm on the pot or stands there freaking if I don't let her unroll the TP.
This wouldn't bother me at all. I actually would assume this is what they did. I take DD (13 mo.) whenever I go to the bathroom or she screams her head off.
I have no problem taking him in with me, but I'm his parent. Maybe it's just my MIL that makes it weird, I just don't think he needs to be in there with her.
ETA: my MIL once made a really gross comment about my babies penis in an ultrasound picture, and it made me go all mama bear and I'm feeling the same way now. Gut feeling I guess, it's interesting that no one else is bothered by it.
Are you worried that she is touching him inappropriately or something? Becaase if you are, I wouldn't let her watch him at all. If you aren't, then I don't know why bringing him in the bathroom would be inappropriate.
Thanks for all the different perspectives, it doesn't change my mind at all but I appreciate seeing that I'm probably being uptight about this. I'm not worried about her abusing him at all, but something about it just doesn't sit well with me. I can't quite put my finger on it. I think partly it's bitch eating crackers, but I wouldn't want my own mom doing this either. His crib is right across the hall, and he has a bouncer that he generally likes so there is definitely someplace safe to put him for a few minutes.
I have no problem taking him in with me, but I'm his parent. Maybe it's just my MIL that makes it weird, I just don't think he needs to be in there with her.
ETA: my MIL once made a really gross comment about my babies penis in an ultrasound picture, and it made me go all mama bear and I'm feeling the same way now. Gut feeling I guess, it's interesting that no one else is bothered by it.
If you have a gut feeling about your MIL then I would question why you have her watch your son?
I don't remember when it started, but when my daughter was an older infant she would lose it if she was awake and couldn't see me. I actually kept a bounce chair in the bathroom so I could shower, or go without the yelling. Why upset the kid if its not needed?