Two year old and you and your DH were going through some hard times ( not necessarily relationship wise) etc, would you take someone's offer to babysit for a few hours so you and your spouse could either go out for dinner or catch up on some things, etc. would you do it? If so, given you have a 12 week old, how long would you feel comfortable being gone? An hour, 2 hours?
Post by cinderbella on Apr 18, 2014 20:53:39 GMT -5
Yes, I definitely would. A few hours is nbd.
I guess my answer would depend on if the baby is nursing or not...... Or if he/she would take a bottle. But I think 3-4 hours is a good amount of time.
My 12 week old was a total nightmare. He would scream and scream if anyone else watched him besides me or DH. So, I personally wouldn't have accepted the help because I probably would have received a call in 30 minutes to come home. If I had a normal, happy 12 week old then sure I'd accept the help.
At 12 weeks, no I wouldn't have felt comfortable leaving my baby. But, she was nursing every 2-2.5 hours and wouldn't even let my H comfort her at times.
If you want to offer this to someone, offer it and let them decide if they are comfortable with it.
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I've left my 7 week old son for a few hours with both Grandmas, but he's FF so they were able to feed him. If he were nursing I wouldn't be able to be gone for more than an hour or two.
Does the babysitter know what they're getting into? If so, I absolutely would. My son was EBF and I think at that point I could leave him for a few hours with a pumped bottle on hand. But, if the person offering was just being friendly but had no idea what it means to care for a 2-year-old and a 12-week-old, then I would be more hesitant.
Post by VeryViolet on Apr 18, 2014 21:06:22 GMT -5
I just watched my friends 2 month old and 2yo a few weeks ago and it was nbd. The baby slept almost the whole time and I put on Sophia the first for the 2yo. I would definitely take a friend up on this offer. I wouldn't stay out for forever but I would feel comfortable leaving for maybe up to 3 hours.
If I knew the person and felt trust with them, hell yes. I was crazy nuts, over everything with DD but any future child will be pawned off with whoever is near me (that I know and trust) This sounds like it was offered, accept and enjoy.
Yes. My memory is a little hazy, but I'm pretty sure we went out for the first time when DD1 was around 3 months. I think it was for 2-3 hours, just enough time for a nice dinner about 2 blocks away. Two of our child-free friends watched her, and she cried the whole time, which was so unlike her. She was a pretty mellow baby, but not that night. I felt so bad about it, but they did offer. We were really grateful.
Post by sunshineluv on Apr 18, 2014 21:25:07 GMT -5
I have an 8 week old and a two year old. DH and I have been on two or three dates since she was born. Each time my mom watched the kids and gave her a bottle. She is breast fed but will take a bottle. So my answer is yes, for a few hours.
I'd have been uncomfortable leaving my babies with a caregiver who didn't know them well at that age. I'm totally neurotic, but I know I wouldn't have been able to enjoy myself or turn my mind away from baby-related worries long enough to do any actual relationship work.
I do have a 12 week and 2 year old and absolutely would. I EBF but would be willing to leave for 2-3 hours willing it was the right person. MIL has watched my kids for several hours as needed.
If it were someone I trusted, sure, for a few hours. My son is only 5 weeks but H and I will probably have a date night in a couple of weeks. I pump so he doesn't have a problem taking a bottle or else I wouldn't be able to be gone very long as he's eating every two hours during the day.
Post by bugandbibs on Apr 18, 2014 22:34:29 GMT -5
Without a doubt if I trusted them. My pump and I are good friends so I would have no trouble leaving a bottle. Without that option I would leave for 2 hours after a feeding.
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When I was nursing I could be gone from DS for 2 hours. If I liked the person offering to babysit then heck yeah I would take them up for 2 hours of sitting and sharing an uninterrupted meal with my husband!