Anyone currently thinking they are one and done? I'm pretty sure we are one and done, although I guess it's possible that could change a few years down the road. I can see that there can be a lot of benefits, but it still makes me kind of sad to think we are done and E won't have a sibling.
If you're thinking you are OAD, what are the reasons? Are sadness?
Post by karebear219 on May 7, 2014 17:11:04 GMT -5
We are still in the maybe stage. I definitely have sadness over thinking bkb won't have a sibling. It hurts to even think about it. I just can't imagine having two kids and being pregnant again.
I'm two and done, and have sadness. Even though I always knew I wanted two, and I have two, just the thought of never being pregnant, carrying the beautiful life inside you, etc. makes me so sad.
We are likely done and if we have another it won't be for 4-5 years. Right now I can't imagine splitting my time and attention between two - I want it all to go to my little guy. I also really want to be able to travel with him and put him in whatever sport/activity he wants, which would be tight with two. Another big reason is that I have a sister but we have never been close, and she is kind of a huge mess, so I don't feel sad about not giving B a sibling at all.
I can't foresee how we could afford another baby. I don't mind being pregnant again, but I also would really like to not have to gain and lose weight again. I suspect I'd have a second c/s and that is not something I want to deal with. Most importantly, I'm not sure our marriage could survive a second pregnancy/baby/sleepless nights. And I know we can give E so much more if we just have one.
But, I have close relationships w/ my siblings and so does H. I feel like E would be missing out. And, I always pictured having two kids. I think I may feel like something is missing. And it's sad to think that I'll never have another little baby again.
I think there is a very small chance we will both decide we want another one, but it would be several years done the road. I've been giving away or loaning a lot of baby stuff and it makes me sad. I'm keeping some stuff just in case. But, really, we're probably done.