5 Things Nurses want you to know, but can't ever tell you

[sharknado]

1. We cry at home for you
2. We are happy to be your shoulder to cry on, but not your punching bag
3. Nobody wants to get the IV right on the first try more than us
4. We sacrifice for you
5. We love you

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::blink,blink::

[MWOS]

Nurses do not love me, I promise you


**except CheshireGrin

[noodleskooze]

3. Nobody wants to get the IV right on the first try more than us we.

[kirra]

5. More than one nurse has told me that I make her job difficult. That isn't love. Especially since I'm not being an ass, I just have unusual health problems.

3. Given how many nurses have protested when I asked them to get someone else after they couldn't get the IV on the first or second try, I don't know if I believe that one either. For heaven's sake, my veins are difficult. It's not a judgement call on your abilities.

[game blouses]

The nurse who admitted me the other week for DS's birth came back on the day I was getting discharged to see the baby and check up on me, because she said she'd been thinking about me all weekend. She worried that I wouldn't get my epidural because I was too close to transition, but she didn't want to tell me that at the time. I thought that was sweet

[lilybug]

All true! I'm cross training to ICU right now, and I've never been more emotionally drained in my life.

[Norticprincess]

I adore the majority of my onco nurses. I have no clue how they manage that job day in and day out with as much as they pour into every patient. The ones I've asked (I have months in patient with some of them) they live for the good outcomes.

[spitforspat]

OK.

[kayl84]

Nurses like me. I'm pretty easy when I go there because it's the same floor, same people, I even have my fav nurse's # and we snapchat the most random shit. Also I have an aide's number who is like my 2nd mom.

It doesn't hurt that my mom brings in chocolate covered marshmallows, cake balls & good NYC chocolate for the day and another whole same set for the night shift.

[gmail]

OMG DS's PICU and regular peds nurses were freaking AH-MAY-ZING. They were so sweet and kind to him, and one let me blubber all over her.

One even kept him occupied with stories so I could go get some air and calm down.

[SadieBear]

May 8, 2014 16:45:22 GMT -5 game blouses said:

The nurse who admitted me the other week for DS's birth came back on the day I was getting discharged to see the baby and check up on me, because she said she'd been thinking about me all weekend. She worried that I wouldn't get my epidural because I was too close to transition, but she didn't want to tell me that at the time. I thought that was sweet

I had a L&D nurse with me every day of my 3 day induction and she was supposed to go home around 4 pm. I ended up going in for a c-section around 3. I am sure she was late going home but she stayed and went with me into the OR and I am so great full for it. It was much better to have someone familiar with us than a random nurse.

[bonquiqui]

The nurses with my dad were all so amazing, except for one on my dad's last day at the hospital.  They all told my dad he was their favorite patient, because he was always so cheerful, funny, and kind.  

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I was in a meeting where security was going over the active shooter policy. The nurses were instructed to shut their patient's doors and then do their best to exit the building per the exit plan. One of the nurse managers said, "You really think we are going to run away and leave our sick helpless patients to fend for themselves?" I thought that was very touching. Whenever I've talked with other nurses since then, I've asked them what they would do in this situation and most say that ethically they would feel the need to stay and protect their patients.

[katfco]

I still remember some of Abby's NICU nurses and how tirelessly they worked--in fact, one of them ended up being Caleb's NICU nurse when he was born, despite being in a completely different hospital.

[Deleted]

5 is a stretch. Love is a strong word. I really care about my patients. I think about them all the time, even after they've left the ICU. I think about their families when they pass away. I've attended their funerals. I've cried for them and because of them. But I can't say I've ever loved a patient. Thats weird.

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May 8, 2014 18:19:45 GMT -5 @kande818 said:

5 is a stretch. Love is a strong word. I really care about my patients. I think about them all the time, even after they've left the ICU. I think about their families when they pass away. I've attended their funerals. I've cried for them and because of them. But I can't say I've ever loved a patient. Thats weird.

A friend's family member passed away a few months ago. My friend told me that the ICU nurse sent flowers and came to the funeral. It meant so so much to the family. That is so special that you have done that as well.

[lightyears]

1. i have definitely cried at home for patients. i have also spent the entire night awake and called the night shift at 3am to check how patients were doing.

5. i can only say that there was one patient i ever really LOVED. i took care of him for months and months and months on end until he passed. and he was always pleasant, gentle and always kind. his family was wonderful. i still think of him often.

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May 8, 2014 17:43:04 GMT -5 kayl84 said:

 good NYC chocolate

lolz wat?

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Of all the nurses I've met, DH's oncology nurses (especially the ones when he was inpatient) have been the most awesome people ever. We loved them & DH wrote their names down to praise in the hospital survey later.

[Deleted]

All are true for people in my profession too (except for the IV one. PTs don't do IVs). I think the same must be true of any health care professional. 

[Moe]

The few times I've been hospitalized, my biggest issue is that I want to buy the nurses, all the nurses, the world, and it would cost too much to buy them something that denotes my gratitude. Seriously.

[LeggsBenedict]

there is one nurse who really, really loves me. she is my mother.

[lightyears]

May 8, 2014 19:27:48 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

there is one nurse who really, really loves me. she is my mother.

dude, my mom is a nurse too.

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May 8, 2014 19:29:05 GMT -5 lightyears said:

May 8, 2014 19:27:48 GMT -5 LeggsBenedict said:

there is one nurse who really, really loves me. she is my mother.

dude, my mom is a nurse too.

Mine too. I went to the ER once when I was a kid... It was because my mom was at work and my dad freaked out. LOL. She was pissed!

[mellymel]

My Dad had some truly amazing nurses in oncology and in the bone marrow transplant center. They made his last days better, comforted us, and gave us hope when we needed it, and cried with us when he died. I'll never forget that.

[lightyears]

May 8, 2014 19:30:38 GMT -5 @kande818 said:

May 8, 2014 19:29:05 GMT -5 lightyears said:

dude, my mom is a nurse too.

Mine too. I went to the ER once when I was a kid... It was because my mom was at work and my dad freaked out. LOL. She was pissed!

my mom worked in the ER for awhile.

i remember one day where my mom had to take my brother in, on her rare day off, for something serious. she left me and my other brother at home with a sitter.  and then something happened to my other brother and the sitter took him in. and my mom was like, running from one end of the ER to the other. lol. poor thing.

[emsumm]

May 8, 2014 17:37:25 GMT -5 spitforspat said:

OK.

I don't get it.
It's nurse appreciation week.
So.

[noodleskooze]

I'm still sad I never got to thank and say goodbye to the nurse who was with me for most of my labor. She was so sweet and funny, and when I was rushed into surgery after delivery, she answered all my drugged-up, silly questions and calmed me down.

[kirra]

May 8, 2014 19:35:12 GMT -5 Que? said:

May 8, 2014 16:39:57 GMT -5 kirra said:

5. More than one nurse has told me that I make her job difficult. That isn't love. Especially since I'm not being an ass, I just have unusual health problems.

3. Given how many nurses have protested when I asked them to get someone else after they couldn't get the IV on the first or second try, I don't know if I believe that one either. For heaven's sake, my veins are difficult. It's not a judgement call on your abilities.

So this means that there are no nurses who feel the way Sharknado does? I'm sorry you've had those experiences, but the OP was trying to do something nice, for people who really deserve it.

Of course there are many nurses who feel the way that Sharknado does. There are also nurses that don't.

I'm also sure there are many people who have had mainly positive experiences with medical professionals. I'm not one of them. I've spent years being told that I'm lying to them or a hypochondriac or an emotional female when it turns out that I have a genetic disorder no one caught that explains all my symptoms. Yes, I'm bitter. Now that I have a diagnosis it's getting better, but one year of being believed doesn't make up for more than twenty years of being called a liar. 

It's been a hell of a day, and it ended in me and a nurse both being frustrated- and she's an awesome nurse. I dropped off new labwork because one of my doctors wanted to see it, and the nurse calls back and wants an interpretation. I don't have one yet, explain that, and she says she needs one, and I tell her that I will give her a copy of the specialist's report as soon as I get it, but that I don't see the specialist for another month. She says the doctor needs it now. But I don't have it because it doesn't exist yet. The nurse is frustrated because she can't get what the doctor wants, and I'm frustrated because I'm trying to be a good patient, and it still isn't good enough. Sometimes you just can't win. 

ETA: and honestly, this post is making me feel incredibly jealous. I want the medical experience that everyone else here seems to have had. I do everything I can. I am compliant, I keep them updated, I do everything I'm supposed to do, and always have. And it still isn't enough.