NH&F Confessions

[ebeth]

May 15, 2014 11:29:32 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

May 15, 2014 10:19:47 GMT -5 ebeth said:

today is one of those days when I'm so excited for what I packed myself for lunch that I'm counting down the minutes until it's an acceptable lunch time.

What did you pack? 

it was leftover dinner from last night: noodles, spinach, sundried tomatoes, chicken, mushrooms, parmesan, in a garlic 'cream' sauce and a salad.  I almost took a picture for y'all but that would have delayed lunch getting in my belly so I didn't.

the salad doesn't sound terribly exciting but H finally consented to me buying the big ass orange ginger dressing from costco and since technically it's not acceptable to eat salad dressing with a spoon I put some salad on it AND it's only 20 kcal & 2 carbs/tablespoon so you can eat a whole lot of ginger dressing with your salad with little consequence.  

[skwcm80]

May 15, 2014 11:41:43 GMT -5 ebeth said:

May 15, 2014 11:29:32 GMT -5 skwcm80 said:

What did you pack? 

it was leftover dinner from last night: noodles, spinach, sundried tomatoes, chicken, mushrooms, parmesan, in a garlic 'cream' sauce and a salad.  I almost took a picture for y'all but that would have delayed lunch getting in my belly so I didn't.

the salad doesn't sound terribly exciting but H finally consented to me buying the big ass orange ginger dressing from costco and since technically it's not acceptable to eat salad dressing with a spoon I put some salad on it AND it's only 20 kcal & 2 carbs/tablespoon so you can eat a whole lot of ginger dressing with your salad with little consequence.  

That sounds yummy. I commend your willpower, and i need to add that salad dressing to my Costco list.

[ktzmoh]

I just scheduled with a sports medicine person for an orthopedic massage. I almost choked when I heard the hourly rate, and I'm not going to be telling my husband.

On the upside, I had an event get cancelled so now I'll be able to return the dress I bought for the occasion and reallocate toward the massage.

And... Icing a groin pull = ice crotch

[katyintx]

I honestly don't know this, so please be gentle! Is it hard to hear someone vent about comments regarding the decision to be childfree, if you're infertile? 

Also my confession is that I've been so lazy this week and haven't packed my own lunch, so I've been eating out every day.  Ugh. 

[Wines Not Whines]

I'm annoyed because DH's work schedule is interfering with my evening yoga classes.

I haven't gone to the dentist in a ridiculously long time, like 2 years, because I hate going. I have some kind of dentist phobia. I know I need to make an appointment for a cleaning, but waaaah.

[Deleted]

May 15, 2014 12:29:21 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I'm annoyed because DH's work schedule is interfering with my evening yoga classes.

I haven't gone to the dentist in a ridiculously long time, like 2 years, because I hate going. I have some kind of dentist phobia. I know I need to make an appointment for a cleaning, but waaaah.

Do you want me to tell you a story about how a mild dental phobia turned into major surgery? Don't skip the dentist, go get your teeth cleaned!

And remember that dentists are doctors, they can write prescriptions for anti-anxiety meds. They really help!

[MrsE]

Last night, after the yoga incident, instead of cooking a normal dinner, I made eggs. Then I was still hungry so I had cookies (4 of them) followed by a stick of dark chocolate. I know food confessions are lame, but that's all I've got. Paleo fail.

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[cinco]

May 15, 2014 12:29:21 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I'm annoyed because DH's work schedule is interfering with my evening yoga classes.

I haven't gone to the dentist in a ridiculously long time, like 2 years, because I hate going. I have some kind of dentist phobia. I know I need to make an appointment for a cleaning, but waaaah.

I had a longer streak than that going, and it is best to suck it up and go. The anxiety gets so much worse the longer you wait. I have a couple small things I am getting done (replacing old fillings), but no major issues, thank goodness. They didn't get on my case either, which I was worried about. I'm now back in the every 6 month plan. I'm always great about making appt's for the kids, but finding a daytime sitter for my own appt.'s is hard!

[ebeth]

May 15, 2014 11:12:04 GMT -5 Brit said:

May 15, 2014 11:01:25 GMT -5 ebeth said:

did you figure out the ballet thing?

Yeah.

well, at least it's not as bad as you initially thought.  

it seems disruptive to have an extra paid activity in the middle of preschool that some kids go to and some don't. also, super lame that they sort of set it up for your kid to ask to go to expensive class that everyone else gets to go to but her. she'll probably have tons of fun though! 

[Brit]

May 15, 2014 12:56:52 GMT -5 ebeth said:

May 15, 2014 11:12:04 GMT -5 Brit said:

Yeah.

well, at least it's not as bad as you initially thought.  

it seems disruptive to have an extra paid activity in the middle of preschool that some kids go to and some don't. also, super lame that they sort of set it up for your kid to ask to go to expensive class that everyone else gets to go to but her. she'll probably have tons of fun though! 

They also offer violin, gymnastics, and who knows what else. My two year old should definitely be taking violin...

Our old daycare in the US also had ballet, violin, and karate. Kind of makes you feel like you have to put her in karate if the other kids are going.

[bluedaisyus]

May 15, 2014 12:27:06 GMT -5 katyintx said:

I honestly don't know this, so please be gentle! Is it hard to hear someone vent about comments regarding the decision to be childfree, if you're infertile? 

No, not for me personally. That doesn't bother me at all actually. It's a lot harder for me to hear about other people's oopses that we can't possibly have, or people who know that we've dealt with IF and don't have the family we envisioned but talk about things in insensitive ways. We are friends with a couple who we have barely seen since they got pregnant in large part because of HOW they chose to tell us (while I was miscarrying for the second time, which they knew) and I just can't get over my hurt and resentment.

ETA: I mean that it's bothersome when people make comments like that to either side, and I understand the frustration. Like, I don't want to hear comments about how "oh, it's meant to be" or that I should just be grateful for my son...because what, I'm not? No, go do whatever it was @vtcupcake said about lawn tools, I CAN appreciate him AND still be hurt and bitter that I'll never experience pregnancy, or give him a little brother or sister. Just like having a baby isn't going to ease the loss of a parent. WTF kind of comment is that, anyway?

[osulori]

I spent all morning in meetings. Wanna know how I get through meetings? I eat, and doodle. So one of my handouts has a lovely, intricate web of flowers and vines all over it...and I inhaled a bag of combos, a box of junior mints, a package of swedish fish, and two baggies of almonds. This was after they fed us pancakes and sausage. Oh, and mixed in with all that was two cans of Coke Zero and a grande skinny vanilla latte. Lunch was pizza, salad, and a bottle of pop. Oy.

[osulori]

May 15, 2014 9:44:25 GMT -5 @vtcupcake said:

May 15, 2014 9:42:06 GMT -5 labbie said:

DH went to the IL's to surprise his mom for mother's day. I love my MIL but I was glad that I had another obligation already and couldn't go. I pretended to be disappointed, but really I was wallowing in self pity about not having my mom to celebrate with. Big baby- I have so much to be thankful for.

:hugs: I hear ya. I try to stay off Facebook on Mother's Day because everyone posting pics of their moms makes me so sad and lonely. And my friends who are all like "suck it up and spit out a kid, it'll fill the void!" Can go fuck themselves with a lawnmower.

J and I both got similar comments w/r/t MIL's passing around this time last year, when I was very pregnant and MIL's death was very for both of us. Lots of "oh, but your bundle of joy on the way must make your mom/MIL dying so suddenly that much easier to swallow!" Uh no actually it doesn't/didn't, if anything it made it worse because she's never going to meet her anxiously awaited (she had been bugging J and I to have a baby since before we got engaged) first grandchild. Oddly enough, it was more acquintances who said that kind of stuff...I think because they had no idea how excited MIL had been whereas our friends did. By the time those comments started coming out, I was in the mood to give exactly zero f*cks about what came out of my mouth so I said pretty much exactly what I wrote above in response. People can be so stupid.

[katyintx]

bluedaisyus Thank you for answering me.  My sister dealt with IF and I couldn't even believe some of the comments people would make!  People can be such insensitive dicks, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. 

[emuni04]

May 15, 2014 12:29:21 GMT -5 Wines Not Whines said:

I'm annoyed because DH's work schedule is interfering with my evening yoga classes.

I haven't gone to the dentist in a ridiculously long time, like 2 years, because I hate going. I have some kind of dentist phobia. I know I need to make an appointment for a cleaning, but waaaah.

The hardest thing is just making the appointment. I went for a long streak without going. I'm glad I got back into regularly scheduled cleanings. I will admit that the first cleaning back following a long absence was less than pretty, but it's not so bad.

[hannahb]

May 15, 2014 13:34:45 GMT -5 bluedaisyus said:

May 15, 2014 12:27:06 GMT -5 katyintx said:

I honestly don't know this, so please be gentle! Is it hard to hear someone vent about comments regarding the decision to be childfree, if you're infertile? 

No, not for me personally. That doesn't bother me at all actually. It's a lot harder for me to hear about other people's oopses that we can't possibly have, or people who know that we've dealt with IF and don't have the family we envisioned but talk about things in insensitive ways. We are friends with a couple who we have barely seen since they got pregnant in large part because of HOW they chose to tell us (while I was miscarrying for the second time, which they knew) and I just can't get over my hurt and resentment.

ETA: I mean that it's bothersome when people make comments like that to either side, and I understand the frustration. Like, I don't want to hear comments about how "oh, it's meant to be" or that I should just be grateful for my son...because what, I'm not? No, go do whatever it was @vtcupcake said about lawn tools, I CAN appreciate him AND still be hurt and bitter that I'll never experience pregnancy, or give him a little brother or sister. Just like having a baby isn't going to ease the loss of a parent. WTF kind of comment is that, anyway?

Agree. Being child free is a choice and there's nothing wrong with it. I wouldn't be offended at all. Wanting a child and struggling for it is different. When I was going through infertility a couple years ago the worst was those "tee hee we're pregnant, totally not trying" announcements. This was from people who knew about my struggle. Or those that would announce they were pregnant after trying for SO LONG (like 4 months).
I think it would be equally annoying to hear all the questions why you want to be child free. It's your decision and quite frankly you don't need a good reason

[al320]

Im tired of always having to be the bigger person - im not sure why people seem to think im so mature. Cant I be the bitch every now and again that other people have to yield to?

Sorry, I know thats vague, its a long story.

[bluedaisyus]

May 15, 2014 13:55:38 GMT -5 katyintx said:

bluedaisyus Thank you for answering me.  My sister dealt with IF and I couldn't even believe some of the comments people would make!  People can be such insensitive dicks, and I'm sorry you have to deal with it. 

Any time, and thank you. I'm sorry your sister had to deal with it, too.

[enfuego23]

We set up an "Oreo Bar" for teacher appreciation and I'm in oreo heaven:) We have at least 10 different kinds of Oreos:)

[gt7301b]

I keep flashing folks when I bend over, opps, guess this is why I faven't worn this shirt in a while.