My house is at a point where I wish I could just burn it all down, collect the insurance money, and start over. (Note, I'm not actually doing to do this.)
My work computer is making the most gawdawful noises.
My house is at a point where I wish I could just burn it all down, collect the insurance money, and start over. (Note, I'm not actually doing to do this.)
My work computer is making the most gawdawful noises.
I want someone to come in and just throw shit away for me. Having to actually go through everything and getting sucked into what to keep, what to throw out, not throwing out enough is fucking exhausting.
My house is at a point where I wish I could just burn it all down, collect the insurance money, and start over. (Note, I'm not actually doing to do this.)
My work computer is making the most gawdawful noises.
I want someone to come in and just throw shit away for me. Having to actually go through everything and getting sucked into what to keep, what to throw out, not throwing out enough is fucking exhausting.
This is part of the reason I don't want to clean. A lot of it is ZB's stuff. I need to research storage places around here. That way it's out of the house, not giving me anxiety, but we're not throwing away/donating things I might want to keep. We've talked, and if we haven't accessed it within a year or 2 we'll just have someone then go in and clean it all out.
My house is at a point where I wish I could just burn it all down, collect the insurance money, and start over. (Note, I'm not actually doing to do this.)
My work computer is making the most gawdawful noises.
I want someone to come in and just throw shit away for me. Having to actually go through everything and getting sucked into what to keep, what to throw out, not throwing out enough is fucking exhausting.
This is why I refinanced two years ago. I'm dead serious.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
I want someone to come in and just throw shit away for me. Having to actually go through everything and getting sucked into what to keep, what to throw out, not throwing out enough is fucking exhausting.
This is part of the reason I don't want to clean. A lot of it is ZB's stuff. I need to research storage places around here. That way it's out of the house, not giving me anxiety, but we're not throwing away/donating things I might want to keep. We've talked, and if we haven't accessed it within a year or 2 we'll just have someone then go in and clean it all out.
Maybe there's an all-in-one storage service? One that will come and pack it all up for you as well as store it?
This is part of the reason I don't want to clean. A lot of it is ZB's stuff. I need to research storage places around here. That way it's out of the house, not giving me anxiety, but we're not throwing away/donating things I might want to keep. We've talked, and if we haven't accessed it within a year or 2 we'll just have someone then go in and clean it all out.
Maybe there's an all-in-one storage service? One that will come and pack it all up for you as well as store it?
I don't want to do that. I want to pack it myself.
This is part of the reason I don't want to clean. A lot of it is ZB's stuff. I need to research storage places around here. That way it's out of the house, not giving me anxiety, but we're not throwing away/donating things I might want to keep. We've talked, and if we haven't accessed it within a year or 2 we'll just have someone then go in and clean it all out.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
asdfjkl what the hell kind of ratshit ass person comes up in your house and complains about what is being offered by the host?
If you want exacting standards and to choose your own food, what time you wish to eat it, your activities, you best take your little ass to a hotel.
Call up this woman and tell her that she owes YOU an apology for being such a disrespectful houseguest and that in the future, you expect her to get a damned hotel room or leave you the fuck alone.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
I had my first testing appointment at the RE today. They had a little screen up by your head so they can take you on a fully guided tour of what they are doing. It was pretty cool.
"Not gonna lie; I kind of keep expecting you to post one day that you threw down on someone who clearly had no idea that today was NOT THEIR DAY." ~dontcallmeshirley
Post by secretlyevil on May 20, 2014 10:15:40 GMT -5
Unfortunately, sometimes people need a bit of honesty and outside perspective. If she continues this way, no one will want to spend time with her. She'll be alone. Do you know if she getting some help?
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that's awesome. Everyone seemed really dressed up/perfectly coiffed to me, last time I was there. I could look the part for a few days but that's not really going work out for me long term. Or really, more than a week.
I finally got some receipts from a faculty trip to India. They travelled in January, we requested them in February and got much stricter because last time it took them 11mos to submit receipts and it was very sketchy with a lot of missing info. After much rhetorical hair pulling and drama, I got them only 4mos late this year.
Naturally, several receipts are in some version of an Indian language with iffy handwriting/numbers to interpret, and the faculty member didn't provide any clarification. Immature baby. Spanish, German, French, even Russian--I can all manage. Some unknown Indian dialect, I need a drink. (also, faculty member is out of country and not communicating all summer, so we really are stuck guestimating what is going on here, sigh).
Post by racegrrl714 on May 20, 2014 10:32:00 GMT -5
Does anyone have experience with apnea and if so, treatments other than CPAP for it? I had my sleep study last week and it turns out I have a pretty bad case of sleep apnea. Surprise, surprise. LOL Last night I was supposed to have my CPAP titration but it was an absolute disaster. My anxiety level hit the roof, I couldn't breathe... the mask made it feel like someone was sitting on my face and chest. I don't know where we go from here. I was really looking forward to being "fixed." I can't remember the last time I slept all the way through the night. I feel like dying may feel more pleasant than I feel right now. Uggh.
My house is at a point where I wish I could just burn it all down, collect the insurance money, and start over. (Note, I'm not actually doing to do this.)
My work computer is making the most gawdawful noises.
I'll come burn yours down if you come burn mine down. The fact that I've felt like hell for so long means I can't remember the last time it was clean. And I just DGAF.
Does anyone have experience with apnea and if so, treatments other than CPAP for it? I had my sleep study last week and it turns out I have a pretty bad case of sleep apnea. Surprise, surprise. LOL Last night I was supposed to have my CPAP titration but it was an absolute disaster. My anxiety level hit the roof, I couldn't breathe... the mask made it feel like someone was sitting on my face and chest. I don't know where we go from here. I was really looking forward to being "fixed." I can't remember the last time I slept all the way through the night. I feel like dying may feel more pleasant than I feel right now. Uggh.
What kind of mask do you have? I prefer this one that goes over my nose so I don't have the "pillows" stuck in my nostrils, but insurance doesn't cover the replacement "pillow" (why do they call it that?) so I went with the nostril one. I also had to have one that I put on over the top of my head, rather than around the back of my head. I sleep on my side so it doesn't get a good fit and I feel like I'm suffocating.
I had to try a few different masks and also had a panic attack the first night I was fitted. The machine pressure takes some getting used to. You are probably used to breathing a little through your mouth (even if you aren't a full on mouth breather) and you need to keep your mouth shut to ensure the airflow is right.
My cpap also came with a ramp-up feature that was adjustable. It starts on a setting of 4 which I can barely feel and over 20 minutes time it ramps up to 10. I used that in the beginning but now I'm so comfortable with the cpap I just turn it on, put it on and I'm good to go.
I also do kind of take a couple of good deep breaths before I put it on so my lungs feel full of oxygen as my body adjusts to the pressure of the cpap - which takes like 3-5 seconds. I got my machine in March or April.
Please give it a try again - try not to give up. My alertness has shot up. My headaches are almost gone. I don't have the achy sore throat feeling I used to have and my morning congestion is a lot less (I guess snoring churns up some mucus).
The one thing that helped me not panic was knowing how much people in my life have benefited from their cpaps. It really has made a HUGE difference!
Your shame reminds me I should at least check out what Dem candidate for governor I should vote for (and remind my husband he should go vote too). PA ladies... any good summaries you are aware of out there?
I know NOTHING about Katie McGinty. I've been torn between McCord/Schwartz/Wolf for a while. No idea where a good summary is. It seems like their stances are all pretty similar. Schwartz has a great record when it comes to reproductive choice and women's health, but the others are also pro-choice. However, apparently because of Schwartz's history with her work on reproductive health, she's the one that Corbett would most like to go up against, because that won't play well in the Pennsyltucky parts of the state.
She's my rep and I like her, but I'm fine with anyone else, too. McCord has a good plan for using fracking/resource tax revenue to fund schools, IMO. I think all are in support of raising the federal minimum wage to at least $10.10 and would therefore probably try to raise the PA min. wage. All are pretty good on gun control, but I think McCord is the best. Most of the information I've gotten from the candidates' own sites and FB pages, so it's hard to see things objectively.
Can you talk to your cousin and say, "You know I can only imagine how much it hurts to have lost your mom. When you fight with your husband do you feel like you're alone? Because when we were talking about whether I would move with small kids again you said, "at least you have a mom..." it made me think that when times are tough you are feeling alone.
You know you're not, right? You have friends and family here if you just don't push us away..." let the conversation go with her input and then interject that all her complaining about EVERYTHING pushes you away a bit, as does her saying you look unhappy when you aren't. Like she is trying to find company for her misery.
I dunno, that's all I've got. It sounds from what you posted like she may want to move out of her house but would feel so alone so she is staying in a miserable situation, and yes was projecting her misery onto you.
Stupid question: can counseling/therapy be covered under insurance?
My employer has EAP. I've got their number. However my insurance is thru H. So I'm not sure if calling my employer's EAP will be much help.
EAP can help get you started with someone but if your DH's company has EAP I'd call them because they will be more connected with the healthplan you are on.