Post by wildfloweragain on May 28, 2014 18:09:59 GMT -5
I'm so sorry to hear this. Everyone works through things differently. I get through things by talking a lot. Not to many people, one good friend. For many people it is a therapist. Talking makes me realize things and figure out how I really feel and what I need to do for closure. Sometimes long walks to think or time spent by a lake. H does NOT talk when he experiences something he needs to work through.
I'm so sorry for your loss. This is a lot to deal with and I feel like you could benefit from some professional guidance. My first step would probably be to find a grief counselor, regular counselor or both. If you have a religious leader you like, ask for a meeting and talk it over with him/her. Take it easy on yourself. Hugs.
Post by notoriousmeg on May 28, 2014 18:15:07 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. My brother passed away suddenly 5 years ago, and I found therapy very helpful. Just remember there is no right way to deal with it. I'm truly sorry you are going through this.
Post by spitforspat on May 28, 2014 18:17:22 GMT -5
There are things I wished I had said to my mom before she died. I get some closure and relief by talking to her and telling her those things. I just talk to the air and feel a lot better.
Like someone else said, there's no right way to grieve.
I think a therapist would be your best bet as they will be able to not only guide you through the grief you are feeling now, but also any unresolved feelings from the past. It'll take time, but it gets better.
I hope you are able to find peace with everything.
Post by pantsparty on May 28, 2014 18:20:18 GMT -5
I am so sorry When my brother suddenly passed, I read the book I Wasn't Ready To Say Goodbye. It was very helpful for me in processing my grief. PM me anytime.
Post by Miss Phryne Fisher on May 28, 2014 18:22:32 GMT -5
I am so sorry. I also say see a therapist. Be angry, be sad, let yourself grieve. I lost my dad suddenly and never really dealt with it...it has been 12 years and it has been a mindfuck. Due to an awful boyfriend I had at the time who told me to just "get over it" after three months, that I was desperate to keep, I just kind of bottled it up and haven't been able to do the real healing. I hope better for you. Again, I am so sorry.
My only advice is to give yourself permission to feel whatever it is you feel. Sadness, anger, hurt, whatever. There is no right or wrong way to grieve.
I'm so sorry. I lost my sister pretty suddenly so if you need to talk, feel free to message me. We weren't estranged, but I had a lot of regret because we hadn't talked in a while so it took me a while to process it all. I'm here if you need me.