I'd be annoyed. I might still go along with it, but I would probably be more tempted to explain to them that it looks like it's becoming a bigger affair and that you will try to meet them for drinks but will bow out of the larger festivities (dinner) and celebrate some more next time you get together. Then I'd be tempted to just have dinner with the other couple.
Post by deanlicker78 on Jun 5, 2014 10:42:17 GMT -5
Yes, this would annoy me. I think I'd stick to the original plan with couple B and then awkwardly inform couple A that we are all going here...so...see ya. Then I might secretly hold a grudge.
Clearly I'm socially awkward and you should not listen to me.
Yes. I would decline A's invite and go to the greek/steakhouse place with couple B.
Especially since, based on what you posted, she seemed a bit put out that you didn't like her plan she came up with for her birthday without any mention of an apology or asking if that was OK with you since you had planned on celebrating your birthday's together.
Post by shostakovich on Jun 5, 2014 10:44:03 GMT -5
I would be annoyed, yes. It's probably silly, but birthdays are a big deal to me, and I would be bummed that I wasn't getting to really celebrate in the way I'd originally planned. And that there would be random people I didn't know, because I don't really like new people.
Post by CajunShrimp on Jun 5, 2014 10:44:30 GMT -5
Ditch couple A and go to the steakhouse with couple B. It was rude of her to make plans without even consulting with you guys if you already made plans to go out. I would be pissed she invited other people too.
"Oh, it looks like your birthday turned into a family celebration. That's so nice for you. DH is just going to take me out for mine. I hope you have fun! Can you make June 28th for the dinner with Couple B? I don't want to miss a chance for the six of us to get together at the Greek restaurant. I hope it's a yes."
Post by spitforspat on Jun 5, 2014 10:44:53 GMT -5
Wait. Do you and couple B live near each other, and couple A lives far away? Or do I have that mixed up? If so, I think I'd make a new reservation nearby.
Yep, I'd be annoyed. This was proposed as a joint celebration, and now she has clearly turned it into her thing.
Especially since it's so far, I'd probably suggest we let her celebrate her bday with her family, and reschedule the friend get together for another time. Then I'd do a bday dinner for me with other friends. I wouldn't enjoy doing my bday celebration as a half-assed joint thing that my friend was clearly making about herself.
I would be annoyed. I'd stick with my original plans with Couple B and possibly meet up later in the evening with Couple A. Not only is she only interested in celebrating her birthday, she switched places and invited people that weren't originally agreed upon. Team Nugget.
And the only reason I'm kind of hesitant about being all "BYE FELICIA" is that she asked her husband multiple times if he had planned anything and he was all "nope" each time, so she finally just picked a restaurant out herself (he forgot he talked to the other husbands, apparently). So she didn't know about the other restaurant that everyone else was planning on going to. BUT, again, why she didn't call me and say "okay so where should we go?" is chapping my ass.
Ew. Why is it your problem that Mr and Mrs A don't know how to communicate? BYE FELICIA INDEED.
"Oh, that's too bad because H already made reservations for all of us as well and we would hate to intrude on your birthday celebration with your family."
I would bail and use the excuse that neither couple is big on sushi. Explain that since you are celebrating your birthdays the same weekend, you'd rather go for steak and will meet them later for drinks. Maybe she will get the hint.
Post by sapphireblue on Jun 5, 2014 10:59:48 GMT -5
Yes, I'd be annoyed. It was going to be a gathering of three very old friends (the Hs), with the additional thing that in each couple, someone had a birthday.
Now, the dynamic will be totally different. Plus, I don't like sushi so that part would really annoy me, but obviously that's just me.
As long as I was spending time with the people I wanted to spend time with I don't care where it is.
I don't really mind going to the new restaurant (I mean, I'd prefer the other one but whatevs) but couple B is NOT happy. And I'm just more irritated at the "hey let me invite other people and not tell you, wheeee!" Because if I'd know this was going to be open to others I would have invited my bestie, damnit. Who actually DOES know both couples.
If you're going, you might as well invite her. And anyone else you want.
As long as I was spending time with the people I wanted to spend time with I don't care where it is.
I don't really mind going to the new restaurant (I mean, I'd prefer the other one but whatevs) but couple B is NOT happy. And I'm just more irritated at the "hey let me invite other people and not tell you, wheeee!" Because if I'd know this was going to be open to others I would have invited my bestie, damnit. Who actually DOES know both couples.
Yes. I'd be tempted to plan my own celebration at the original steak house with couple B.
LOLOL that's actually exactly what Wife B said, "let's just go to little restaurant ourselves to celebrate YOUR birthday and meet them later on for drinks."
But shit like that always gets back and there would be royal butthurt all around and shit would blow up and I am too, too damn old for that nonsense.
Yeah, that's super tempting but probably not worth the shitstorm it'll create. I think it'd be better to do a separate celebration for you (and the H of couple B?) with the three original couples at a later date. Though maybe she'll try to horn in on that and celebrate her birthday as well...hmmm. On second thought, maybe not.