I don't put much stock in birthdays at this point in my life was the whole 'come celebrate my birthday' wouldn't bother me but inviting a bunch of other people and picking a restaurant on her own would. I would probably just stick to the original plan and go with just couple B.
I would politely and sweetly refuse to intrude on family time. I'd go to the restaurant as planned with the other couple. I'd schedule a new night for the 6 of us to go out. I would not hold a grudge but I would also not go along with it.
Post by vanillacourage on Jun 5, 2014 11:26:14 GMT -5
It sounds like "go to dinner to celebrate birthdays" turned into "let's go out to celebrate my birthday", as in the kind of night where you get a big group together.
I'd tell her nicely that you were really looking forward to being able to catch up with Couple A in more intimate setting so you're going to stick with the current dinner plans and meet up with the group for drinks after.
It sounds like "go to dinner to celebrate birthdays" turned into "let's go out to celebrate my birthday", as in the kind of night where you get a big group together.
I'd tell her nicely that you were really looking forward to being able to catch up with Couple A in more intimate setting so you're going to stick with the current dinner plans and meet up with the group for drinks after.
This is exactly what I was thinking. If she's annoyed by that, too bad. The only person she should be annoyed with is her husband for not telling her the plan even after she asked him multiple times. Well, and herself, for changing the plans from "our birthdays" to "MY birthday."
Yes, I'd be annoyed. At both of them. For her for turning this into HER birthday when it was HER idea (right?) to do a co-celebration. THEN to invite more people? And at him for playing dumb like he didn't know the plans.
You have every right to bail. Really- you do. You were given some good suggestions. This isn't what you agreed to. YOU get to celebrate YOUR b-day however YOU want. Not how she dictates just because she's the one who decided to go rogue.