Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
I'm so glad my sister isn't an asshole.
I would never say this to her and am still trying to be super supportive by doing active things with her but when this is seriously all she ever talks about and then sends snap chats to me about eating an entire pizza herself is kinda like ummm I'm not sure what I'm supposed to say at that point. We booked a vacation to hawaii this winter because she said that would help motivate her. I'm so hoping it does because seeing her unhappy really makes me sad.
Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
Well that's definitely a confession all right. I'm so sorry that your sister's heartbreak and subsequent weight gain is difficult for you. Hugs. You'll get through this.
Post by daisybuchannan on Jun 5, 2014 16:24:13 GMT -5
Ok. I don't think it's normal to shame someone for *thinking* about being frustrated over a family members weight/health.
My dad needs to lose weight. He has for a long time. He goes on and on about how he eats low carb/gluten free/low fat, etc. but he still needs to lose weight. I worry about his health since he has had a few issues that could definitely be tied to weight. His drs encourage him to lose weight.
So I should feel like an asshole I've thought about wanting him to lose weight? Get a grip.
Ok. I don't think it's normal to shame someone for *thinking* about being frustrated over a family members weight/health.
My dad needs to lose weight. He has for a long time. He goes on and on about how he eats low carb/gluten free/low fat, etc. but he still needs to lose weight. I worry about his health since he has had a few issues that could definitely be tied to weight. His drs encourage him to lose weight.
So I should feel like an asshole I've thought about wanting him to lose weight? Get a grip.
It's not that she's concerned. It's that she wants her to OMG get over it already.
If your dad's weight gain was due to a traumatic, emotional event, I'm sure you'd have just a little more sympathy. I'd hope.
Ok. I don't think it's normal to shame someone for *thinking* about being frustrated over a family members weight/health.
My dad needs to lose weight. He has for a long time. He goes on and on about how he eats low carb/gluten free/low fat, etc. but he still needs to lose weight. I worry about his health since he has had a few issues that could definitely be tied to weight. His drs encourage him to lose weight.
So I should feel like an asshole I've thought about wanting him to lose weight? Get a grip.
It's not that she's concerned. It's that she wants her to OMG get over it already.
If your dad's weight gain was due to a traumatic, emotional event, I'm sure you'd have just a little more sympathy. I'd hope.
I was scanning, as usual, but the response of "I wouldn't ever even THINK that about my sister" struck me as way over the top.
It's not like I'm just frustrated and have been giving her attitude or anything. I'm listening to her and helping her, giving her recipes of what's easy to make for lunches and going on bike rides and things like that but I get tired of her saying the same things over again. And look I'm a real person, I'm not sure how you want me to prove that, I've already uploaded a picture in my AMA thread.
Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
OMG how horrible for you. Hugs and prayers that you make it through this difficult time.
Post by daisybuchannan on Jun 5, 2014 16:33:12 GMT -5
mp, similarly, after years of avoiding the issue, I had a really honest talk with my H that started a 30 pound weight loss.
He did (and still does) work out 5-6 times a week, but essentially lied to himself about what he was eating. Not recognizing that the little things were adding up. I'm SO proud of him, and I don't feel ashamed to say that I initiated the conversation.
Plus if she were okay with her body right now I would have no problem with it! It's not that I want her to lose the weight, I'm tired of her complaining about it all the time as if she can't do anything about it.
Not sure if this is still a confessions thread But I have one. A year ago my younger sister got engaged and was engaged for about 3 months until the guy just decided that he didn't want to marry her anymore. Anyway she got real down about it (which I don't blame her for) but it's lasted for too long now and she's put on probably like 25 lbs from it. She is really chubby now and I feel bad saying this but it's really hard being around her because she complains about being chubby but then goes and eats all kinds of fast food and junk food. I feel bad for her but I'm SO TIRED of her complaining and not doing anything about it.
Well that's definitely a confession all right. I'm so sorry that your sister's heartbreak and subsequent weight gain is difficult for you. Hugs. You'll get through this.
Plus if she were okay with her body right now I would have no problem with it! It's not that I want her to lose the weight, I'm tired of her complaining about it all the time as if she can't do anything about it.
But, it sounds like she's going on bike rides and at least trying to eat healthier (getting recipes from you, packing her lunch)? So maybe you should back off with your "frustration?"
Post by melindafelinda on Jun 5, 2014 16:40:44 GMT -5
I've thought Daisy Buchwhatever was kind of a cunt from day one. I have a feeling her mother in law is fine and she avoids them because DB is a pain in the ass.
I wore white Keds under my wedding dress. Also, I SPECIFICALLY asked our DJ not to do the chicken dance and Macarena. Of course, he played both
I had it written into our contract that playing certain songs would result in a fine* for the dj. I was serious about not having We Are Family or the Chicken Dance played at our wedding and didn't want a tip from a family member to trump my wishes, lol.
*This was mostly in jest as the dj happened to be a friend ours. No idea if anyone tried to have those songs played though, lol.
I've thought Daisy Buchwhatever was kind of a cunt from day one. I have a feeling her mother in law is fine and she avoids them because DB is a pain in the ass.
I've thought Daisy Buchwhatever was kind of a cunt from day one. I have a feeling her mother in law is fine and she avoids them because DB is a pain in the ass.
Plus if she were okay with her body right now I would have no problem with it! It's not that I want her to lose the weight, I'm tired of her complaining about it all the time as if she can't do anything about it.
But, it sounds like she's going on bike rides and at least trying to eat healthier (getting recipes from you, packing her lunch)? So maybe you should back off with your "frustration?"
I guess maybe what I'm more frustrated about is how she's going about losing the weight. She keeps doing these "diets" like the detox one where you drink lemon and pepper and maple syrup or whatever or the south beach diet, loses one lb and then complains about either gaining it back or not losing more. I keep telling her to lose it a healthy way so that its less likely to gain back and she says it's too hard that diets work better. Maybe I have misplaced frustration and thank you for helping me see that.
Ok. I don't think it's normal to shame someone for *thinking* about being frustrated over a family members weight/health.
My dad needs to lose weight. He has for a long time. He goes on and on about how he eats low carb/gluten free/low fat, etc. but he still needs to lose weight. I worry about his health since he has had a few issues that could definitely be tied to weight. His drs encourage him to lose weight.
So I should feel like an asshole I've thought about wanting him to lose weight? Get a grip.
Hmmm. This reads to me that her sister went through a traumatic event, gained 25lbs, is now 'really chubby' and needs to stop complaining.
Not the same thing as being genuinely concerned about a seriously overweight family member. H and I are concerned about his Mom's weight. She is morbidly obese and has terrible trouble with her knees which makes it tough for her to exercise. As a result she struggles with walking, has very high blood pressure and it is a real health concern.
This doesn't read the same way at all.
Good for you for telling your family members and husband that they need to lose weight. If you came at it from a caring, supportive place. Weren't you just complaining that a family member brings up how skinny you are? Or was that someone else?
I would never say this to her and am still trying to be super supportive by doing active things with her but when this is seriously all she ever talks about and then sends snap chats to me about eating an entire pizza herself is kinda like ummm I'm not sure what I'm supposed to say at that point. We booked a vacation to hawaii this winter because she said that would help motivate her. I'm so hoping it does because seeing her unhappy really makes me sad.
To bad she wasn't more like you. I call bullshit on your story.
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Post by brewalexa on May 22, 2014 at 8:07am
I've been trying to eat healthy for awhile, around 8 months I'd say. I lost 25 lbs and eating healthy has really just stuck around. Except for yesterday. I ate Taco Bell and Culvers yesterday. Two tacos chips and cheese, soda, a burger, fries, frozen custard. Today my stomach is killing me. Maybe this belongs in a flameful thread.
Ok. I don't think it's normal to shame someone for *thinking* about being frustrated over a family members weight/health.
My dad needs to lose weight. He has for a long time. He goes on and on about how he eats low carb/gluten free/low fat, etc. but he still needs to lose weight. I worry about his health since he has had a few issues that could definitely be tied to weight. His drs encourage him to lose weight.
So I should feel like an asshole I've thought about wanting him to lose weight? Get a grip.
Hmmm. This reads to me that her sister went through a traumatic event, gained 25lbs, is now 'really chubby' and needs to stop complaining.
Not the same thing as being genuinely concerned about a seriously overweight family member. H and I are concerned about his Mom's weight. She is morbidly obese and has terrible trouble with her knees which makes it tough for her to exercise. As a result she struggles with walking, has very high blood pressure and it is a real health concern.
This doesn't read the same way at all.
Good for you for telling your family members and husband that they need to lose weight. If you came at it from a caring, supportive place. Weren't you just complaining that a family member brings up how skinny you are? Or was that someone else?
My mil has said things about me being thin. She is overweight, my H was also overweight for a long period of his life. She is completely unsupportive of his weight loss, and when he told her he hit the 30 lb mark, she looked the other way without saying anything.
But yes, she is totally awesome, and she ignores her grandson bc I'm a bitch! :/
Look I'm not saying she HAS to lose weight! I think that if she wanted to keep the weight and she was confident with it, great! I think she's beautiful, she's beautiful with 25 lbs or w/o. I'm just sad and frustrated at her complaining.
Ok. I don't think it's normal to shame someone for *thinking* about being frustrated over a family members weight/health.
My dad needs to lose weight. He has for a long time. He goes on and on about how he eats low carb/gluten free/low fat, etc. but he still needs to lose weight. I worry about his health since he has had a few issues that could definitely be tied to weight. His drs encourage him to lose weight.
So I should feel like an asshole I've thought about wanting him to lose weight? Get a grip.
I don't think your concern about your father's health is the same as her annoyance with her sister.
Look I'm not saying she HAS to lose weight! I think that if she wanted to keep the weight and she was confident with it, great! I think she's beautiful, she's beautiful with 25 lbs or w/o. I'm just sad and frustrated at her complaining.
LOL. A beautiful 'really chubby' complainer. You sound so supportive. No really. You do.