Didn't we JUST do the 'my friend is fat and it's giving me the saaaaaadz' the other day? Brew, go back and look how it ended for that poster and realize how terrible you sound. belch.
Must have missed that post. I for sure need to stop thinking this I know it's not nice or right.
Listen I have about 50 lbs to lose and the prospect is daunting. I know exactly what I need to do to lose the weight, I have done it before, but it's hard and since you said you have been trying to eat better you should know that. When I was in weight loss mode it consumed me. Every thought was about what I was eating and making sure I entered it into MFP and fitting an hour of exercise in 6 times a week, etc etc. If she is depressed because the man she loved and was planning to marry broke it off with her she might not be in the place emotionally where she is ready to go from "complaining and wondering" about weight loss to actually doing it. Give her a break and stop being so annoyed about how it affects you.
Are you "tipped back" too? :vagina high five: Did I just make it awkward?
I do agree with your suggestion. Anything that helped him aim toward the small of my back instead of my belly button helped.
And here's MY confession! BF is less endowed than exH and for the above reasons, it makes me really really really happy! I can do ALL the positions, whereas when I was married, I could do like 2.
Not awkward at all! lol I just wonder why my gyn never told me about it, he just kept saying "I can feel you are tensed up, relax" and the whole 5 years I have been with H, I have been "it HURTS" and then I never want to do it because who the hell wants to have sex when it almost makes you cry? Within the last year I stumbled upon the whole tilting upwards so he was down and lots of lube.
I feel like after reading about all the tipped back vaginas I need to ask my gyno about this. In the meantime, I'm stealing the pillow tip.
Not awkward at all! lol I just wonder why my gyn never told me about it, he just kept saying "I can feel you are tensed up, relax" and the whole 5 years I have been with H, I have been "it HURTS" and then I never want to do it because who the hell wants to have sex when it almost makes you cry? Within the last year I stumbled upon the whole tilting upwards so he was down and lots of lube.
I feel like after reading about all the tipped back vaginas I need to ask my gyno about this. In the meantime, I'm stealing the pillow tip.
I've heard really good things about the Liberator pillow, too. It's a wedge shape that's designed for sexy time. There are a bunch of add-ons that go with it too. It's kinda pricey though, which is why I never bought one.
I've heard really good things about the Liberator pillow, too. It's a wedge shape that's designed for sexy time. There are a bunch of add-ons that go with it too. It's kinda pricey though, which is why I never bought one.
I've heard really good things about the Liberator pillow, too. It's a wedge shape that's designed for sexy time. There are a bunch of add-ons that go with it too. It's kinda pricey though, which is why I never bought one.
I'm having and incredibly difficult month. In the past month, my cousins husband was killed in a car accident, a friend of the family committed suicide, my husband'a grandma had a stroke and is slowly dying (she won't eat), and my mother in law has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. We've gone from one thing to another, with no time to breathe from the last event.
I haven't talked much about it in real life. But when I mention it to my real life friends, they just sort of ignore me and move in with something dumb. It's hurting my feelings. And I am monopolizing the conversations about it or anything. But things really are hard right now, and I feel like my friends are annoyed that I'm not the happy, fun person they expect me to be right now.
I have a shoulder you can cry on. Two in fact. I can also listen like it's my job.
I'm having and incredibly difficult month. In the past month, my cousins husband was killed in a car accident, a friend of the family committed suicide, my husband'a grandma had a stroke and is slowly dying (she won't eat), and my mother in law has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. We've gone from one thing to another, with no time to breathe from the last event.
I haven't talked much about it in real life. But when I mention it to my real life friends, they just sort of ignore me and move in with something dumb. It's hurting my feelings. And I am monopolizing the conversations about it or anything. But things really are hard right now, and I feel like my friends are annoyed that I'm not the happy, fun person they expect me to be right now.
people are self-absorbed morons. i'm sorry. i wish you were getting some IRL support for all of that
This is so true! A lot of people can't see beyond their own noses. I'm sorry for all of your troubles. So much in short succession. My heart goes out to you. Really.
I used to be on MM on the place that shall not be named. I eventually came over here with a new SN and have been posting on GeP and TTTC. I never really did an intro or anything over here, I just kinda jumped in.
I'm having and incredibly difficult month. In the past month, my cousins husband was killed in a car accident, a friend of the family committed suicide, my husband'a grandma had a stroke and is slowly dying (she won't eat), and my mother in law has been diagnosed with ovarian cancer. We've gone from one thing to another, with no time to breathe from the last event.
I haven't talked much about it in real life. But when I mention it to my real life friends, they just sort of ignore me and move in with something dumb. It's hurting my feelings. And I am monopolizing the conversations about it or anything. But things really are hard right now, and I feel like my friends are annoyed that I'm not the happy, fun person they expect me to be right now.
When you experience a personal tragedy, it puts things for you in a different perspective. Little things that used to bother you are no longer a big deal because of the pain you are going through due to the tragedy.
Friends (or family) who have not gone through a tragedy themselves have a difficult time understanding you or even empathizing with you, and it makes them uncomfortable when you bring up your personal pain. Because they don't know what to do or say, instead of validating your feelings, they turn away.
I'm not saying that's the right thing for them to do, but that's the way some people are. It doesn't mean they're bad, they just don't understand. KWIM?
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by sawyerthedestroyer on Jun 5, 2014 20:34:40 GMT -5
I'm trying so hard to remember who took me on a date to see this. I think it was a first date and it was really awkward, or he was awkward, or I was awkward, or all three. I don't know. This is going to bother me.
wysiwyg. Can you have clitoral orgasms alone with no penetration? It seems like this should ease the pain and figure out fir you if you have a desire to ease into sexuality.
TMI ALERT:
I can. Masturbation and I are acquainted. It just seems that any actual penetration is pretty darn awful. So, I guess what I'm saying is while I understand clitoral stimulation is great, because I've never had a vaginal orgasm/good vaginal penetration experience, I can't really imagine being happily sexual in that way. Does that make sense?
This is probably insensitive, but the talk of tilted vaginas and leaning back is making me picture vaginas driving around in lowriders in a gangsta-lean pose.
This is probably insensitive, but the talk of tilted vaginas and leaning back is making me picture vaginas driving around in lowriders in a gangsta-lean pose.
This is probably insensitive, but the talk of tilted vaginas and leaning back is making me picture vaginas driving around in lowriders in a gangsta-lean pose.
This is probably insensitive, but the talk of tilted vaginas and leaning back is making me picture vaginas driving around in lowriders in a gangsta-lean pose.
This is probably insensitive, but the talk of tilted vaginas and leaning back is making me picture vaginas driving around in lowriders in a gangsta-lean pose.
Post by speckledfrog on Jun 5, 2014 22:08:02 GMT -5
wysiwyg, I agree with speaking with another doctor about finding the cause of your pain. I struggled with painful sex for a few years (lube and relaxing did not help) and got to the point where I hated it and never wanted to have sex again. Except that I did. Moreover, I didn't want to be "broken" any longer. One of my doctors took me quite seriously and diagnosed me with vaginismus. I am heading to bed now, but I'll send you a PM with some more information about my story. I am always open to answering questions.
Ok, this took a very sexual turn, but I just have to say to melindafelinda and themoneytree and anyone else who thinks otherwise, daisybuchannan is a delight. A DELIGHT! If anyone should be called names, it's her MIL, because daisy and her son are so sweet and adorable and deserve better. It's her loss, really.
And big hugs, chilerellanos. That is a lot to face in such a short period of time. I'm sorry your friends aren't more understanding and supportive.
Ok, this took a very sexual turn, but I just have to say to melindafelinda and themoneytree and anyone else who thinks otherwise, daisybuchannan is a delight. A DELIGHT! If anyone should be called names, it's her MIL, because daisy and her son are so sweet and adorable and deserve better. It's her loss, really.
And big hugs, chilerellanos. That is a lot to face in such a short period of time. I'm sorry your friends aren't more understanding and supportive.
I have had nothing against her, but her posts on this subject did not make her sound like a delight. I hope to see more of the pleasant side of her.... perhaps staying off the subject of weight?