Post by turtle1120 on Jun 13, 2014 13:32:05 GMT -5
Tonight I'm taking DD to see Frozen. They're playing it outside at a lake near us. Should be fun!
Saturday we have to go to the dentist at the ass crack of dawn. I'm not sure what we're doing after that, but a friend is coming over tomorrow night to grill out and see my house which I'm finally settled into after the mold fiasco.
Sunday DD will be with her dad a/k/a Drama (my whole family calls him this). I think I'll go for a bike ride in the morning, get some grocery shopping done, hang some pictures, and then dinner with my mom and dad for father's day.
since this is a post about Friday, I just wanted you all to know that A) I am going to see Kathy Griffin tonight and B) I think I might wear a panty liner becasue last time I saw her I had to squeeze my legs together to hold in the pee from so much laughter.
You are welcome for that TMI.
Oh my gosh this reminds me of how I almost peed myself two weeks ago. I can't remember the tipping point.
This, and why does he get to decide that you don't need joint counseling right now? The fact that you feel it's necessary should be enough. It just seems like you're stating what you want and need pretty clearly, and he's invalidating and dismissing your feelings. Not cool.
THIS!! This is what I wanted to say! I just couldn't get past the seeing red stage enough to put words to it.
Invalidated and dismissed is exactly how I feel, and I have told him that. My instinctual reaction is to defend him and make excuses for him, and I don't want to do that here. Truthfully, I'm angry about how he's treated me. It's difficult for me to know whether or not I'm communicating clearly, because he tells me so often that I'm a poor communicator. I have a lot of self doubt and no self esteem...my feelings have been dismissed/invalidated my entire life, which has led to me having poor personal boundaries, which has led to all of the conflict and chaos with my family and my husband. I'm only just now starting to figure out how to respect and care for myself.
I'll see if I can find another therapist at the same practice that we could both see. My therapist says she does a lot of couples counseling and always stays objective, but I agree with what y'all are saying here. I think my husband and I both would wonder if she was taking sides.