I'm judging my brother hard

[tripleshot]

This is not a safe place.  

[Deleted]

WUT

[Deleted]

what did he say when you called him out on this crap??

[katb]

I'm judging hard with you. Does he seem to want a paternity test at all?

[ECB]

No words.  :?

[slimshamy]

Awkward.

[Deleted]

Whaaaaat. Wow.

[captainobvious]

[Deleted]

I'd judge too. You're totally within reason to do so.

[Deleted]

Holy shit.

[hymen]

Gross.

[iamali]

I don't judge people who act differently in a sitution than I would.

Have you ever had a baby in the NICU? That shit is hard as fuck to face. :/

[glynn]

Go ahead. I might even have a talk with him. If that baby dies they will feel terrible.

[tripleshot]

Jun 18, 2014 13:16:29 GMT -5 @heyitsme said:

what did he say when you called him out on this crap??

.

[hereigo]

[zoomzoom]

Jun 18, 2014 13:20:19 GMT -5 iamali said:

I don't judge people who act differently in a sitution than I would.

Have you ever had a baby in the NICU? That shit is hard as fuck to face. :/

Um, yeah, so?  That's part of being a responsible parent.  My twin niece/nephew were in NICU for three months and either their mother or father or both were there the entire 3 months.  They practically lived there.

Yeah, I'm judging away at this shit. You do not fuck with open heart surgery.

[rosiebear]

Maybe they can't deal with the stress/terror of waiting in the hospital and are desparate for distraction?

I dunno. I can't think of any other reason. I hope your niece or nephew is ok.

[zoomzoom]

I will also add that as soon as my dad got word that he was getting his transplant, I was on a plane there and arrived while he was in surgery and waited inthe waiting room. I certainly wouldn't have been getting my nails done.

[speckledfrog]

Jun 18, 2014 13:26:12 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

I will also add that as soon as my dad got word that he was getting his transplant, I was on a plane there and arrived while he was in surgery and waited inthe waiting room. I certainly wouldn't have been getting my nails done.

You probably deserve an award.  Let me see if we have any lying around...

[meggers5]

Jun 18, 2014 13:20:21 GMT -5 glynn said:

Go ahead. I might even have a talk with him. If that baby dies they will feel terrible.

They'd probably feel terrible if they were there or not.

[zoomzoom]

Jun 18, 2014 13:25:01 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Jun 18, 2014 13:20:21 GMT -5 glynn said:

Go ahead. I might even have a talk with him. If that baby dies they will feel terrible.

holy fucking shit  :?


Even if they were in the waiting room, that has ZERO implication on the result of the surgery or the baby surviving. 

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[irishbride2]

Jun 18, 2014 13:26:12 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

I will also add that as soon as my dad got word that he was getting his transplant, I was on a plane there and arrived while he was in surgery and waited inthe waiting room. I certainly wouldn't have been getting my nails done.

Good for you?

I judge the story in the OP. But your responses are weird. 

[zoomzoom]

Jun 18, 2014 13:27:12 GMT -5 speckledfrog said:

Jun 18, 2014 13:26:12 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

I will also add that as soon as my dad got word that he was getting his transplant, I was on a plane there and arrived while he was in surgery and waited inthe waiting room. I certainly wouldn't have been getting my nails done.

You probably deserve an award.  Let me see if we have any lying around...

Not saying I do.  I just think it's shitty. If your child/parent/sibling were having major surgery, you probably ought to be there.  Well, in most cases.  If you're estranged or whatever, then probably not.

[jeaniebueller]

Jun 18, 2014 13:24:41 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

Jun 18, 2014 13:20:19 GMT -5 iamali said:

I don't judge people who act differently in a sitution than I would.

Have you ever had a baby in the NICU? That shit is hard as fuck to face. :/

Um, yeah, so?  That's part of being a responsible parent.  My twin niece/nephew were in NICU for three months and either their mother or father or both were there the entire 3 months.  They practically lived there.

Yeah, I'm judging away at this shit. You do not fuck with open heart surgery.

Yup, I have also been in a similar situation with my newborn and I could not fathom leaving the hospital during a surgical procedure like that.

[thebreakfastclub]

That is horrible and weird on several levels.

And also, who wants to house hunt while wearing a giant pad?

[cinnamoncox]

Someone posted about their bro having gotten a woman preg after being told he was infertile.
And she has a child from another man already.
Is this the same poster?
It was recently.

In any case, I really hope the baby is ok. Everyone processes things differently and I can't find it in me to judge parents of a baby undergoing open heart surgery.
T and p for that lovely little baby.

[CajunShrimp]

I couldn't imagine leaving my newborn in the hospital to have open heart surgery while I went house hunting. But do you know what else I can't imagine? Going house hunting 3d PP. Between the lack of sleep, the hormones, the pain and the PP bleeding, the last thing I would want to do was go out in public. House hunting would be the last thing on my mind. I would be praying I wouldn't bleed out everywhere.

[zoomzoom]

Jun 18, 2014 13:31:18 GMT -5 AutumnRose25 said:

Jun 18, 2014 13:27:54 GMT -5 zoomzoom said:

I am? Well then, please explain it to me. 

Because last I checked, the location of  parents during  surgery has nothing to do with the outcome for the child.

Because the point isn't the outcome, the point is BEING THERE FOR YOUR NEWBORN.  What if they need to consent to a particular procedure?

[tripleshot]

Jun 18, 2014 13:31:49 GMT -5 cinnamoncox said:

Someone posted about their bro having gotten a woman preg after being told he was infertile.
And she has a child from another man already.
Is this the same poster?
It was recently.

In any case, I really hope the baby is ok. Everyone processes things differently and I can't find it in me to judge parents of a baby undergoing open heart surgery.
T and p for that lovely little baby.

Yep. That's me.

[mariafromnj]

Wow I would judge too. How do you even focus on house hunting when your mind is consumed with your child and what they are going through.
I wouldn't give a crap about room sized or bathroom styles because I wouldn't be able to see straight because my mind would be all mess up from worrying.

As for the fertility issue. How can he not get checked out? Maybe he knows it isn't his and doesn't care.