Brings friend on vacation to visit boyfriend Friend takes up a lot of time. Boyfriend says something. Spends night in with boyfriend friend gets mad, cries, sits on porch, isn't getting over it.
Solution: Don't bring your friend on vacation to see your boyfriend.
Post by blackkitty on Jul 19, 2012 10:50:10 GMT -5
Well if I was going to meet my boyfriend's son for the first time I wouldn't be bringing friends along. I think that was your mistake there. If you value your friendship with this girl just tell her that you're sorry and move on.
Brings friend on vacation to visit boyfriend Friend takes up a lot of time. Boyfriend says something. Spends night in with boyfriend friend gets mad, cries, sits on porch, isn't getting over it.
Solution: Don't bring your friend on vacation to see your boyfriend.
Also side note.. She was flirting with his friend, and this was the only night he was gone so now she feels the need to act out.. And she does this when we get around anybody unless it's just me and her.
Post by udscoobychick on Jul 19, 2012 10:51:24 GMT -5
Executive summary: OP is going to visit her BF and meet BF's son for the first time. OP brings along a friend (or more?), since it's out of state. OP's friend has her panties in a twist because OP *gasp* wants to spend time with her BF and BF's son, since, you know, that was the whole purpose of the trip. OP's friend is now pouting and acting like she's 14.
ETA: Whoops, GOZF beat me to it. Anyways, she's right. Don't bring your friends on vacation with you when you go to see your BF, particularly when it's an important trip, like meeting your BF's son. Voila. And your friend needs to grow the eff up, like, yesterday.
My BFF came on vacation with BF and I in April. We were away for a week, and she joined us for the last few days. It was perfect, because BF and I got our time together, and then we got to hang out with her, so no one felt neglected or left out.
Brings friend on vacation to visit boyfriend Friend takes up a lot of time. Boyfriend says something. Spends night in with boyfriend friend gets mad, cries, sits on porch, isn't getting over it.
Solution: Don't bring your friend on vacation to see your boyfriend.
Well if I was going to meet my boyfriend's son for the first time I wouldn't be bringing friends along. I think that was your mistake there. If you value your friendship with this girl just tell her that you're sorry and move on.
I did tell her I was sorry, she was the one who wanted to go because it be less awkward and that his friends where there that she knew. It's not like I asked her to go, and the kid thing actually wasn't the issue because when we hung out with them everything was good.
I'm with gozf, don't bring your friend on a trip to see your long distance BF.
Did you know you'd be meeting his son for the first time on this trip? If so, that definitely should have been an indicator that this wasn't to be a 'go out and party with your friend' kind of trip.
Tell your friend you're sorry that you weren't able to do everything she wanted to do on the trip, but also let her know that the trip was so that you could spend some time with your BF (and his kid), and hopefully she'll apologize to you about acting like a spolied brat. If not, it's your choice as to whether to continue to have a close relationship with her, if any at all.
Executive summary: OP is going to visit her BF and meet BF's son for the first time. OP brings along a friend (or more?), since it's out of state. OP's friend has her panties in a twist because OP *gasp* wants to spend time with her BF and BF's son, since, you know, that was the whole purpose of the trip. OP's friend is now pouting and acting like she's 14.
Side note on that.. When we decided to stay in a play beer pong the kids were getting ready for sleep and all the friends played including her.. It wasn't just me and bf, I just promised him that I'd include him instead of just girls, with whatever we were doing
You (from your post) and your friend (her actions) both sound 12. Don't bring her on vacation to see your boyfriend/meet his son. Also, don't hang out with people who act like they're 12.
Well if I was going to meet my boyfriend's son for the first time I wouldn't be bringing friends along. I think that was your mistake there. If you value your friendship with this girl just tell her that you're sorry and move on.
I did tell her I was sorry
If you already told her you were sorry then what is the issue? Move on
I do agree that maybe I shouldn't have brought her, the only reason I didn't think it was a big deal was because about 10 other people where there's as well, plus I've meet him randomly once or twice but this time was as 'girlfriend'
Side note on that.. When we decided to stay in a play beer pong the kids were getting ready for sleep and all the friends played including her.. It wasn't just me and bf, I just promised him that I'd include him instead of just girls, with whatever we were doing
It's kinda sounding like you were also making this into a girls' trip, and the BF was only included occasionally.
I get wanting to hang with your friend, but if it were me and I only saw my BF on rare occasion, I'd be making all my plans with BF and sometimes including my friend, not all of my plans revolving around my friend/the girls. and sometimes including my BF.
Perhaps I'm reading too much into it, but that's how it seems to me.
If you already told her you were sorry then what is the issue? Move on
The issue is.. What do I do with the whole in a shitty friend? and don't know how to balance things.. As she said.. Once again I said I was sorry. Can I also note that I've known this girl for 10 years and not once have I met her friends, her family, her mom or her boyfriend yet we hang out all the time.. So she'll get mad but atleast I try.. Sometimes I feel like she acts more like my boyfriend then my boyfriend.
I do agree that maybe I shouldn't have brought her, the only reason I didn't think it was a big deal was because about 10 other people where there's as well, plus I've meet him randomly once or twice but this time was as 'girlfriend'
Wait, what?
First you were together 2.5 years, now you've only met him a couple of times and this is the first as his GF?
You (from your post) and your friend (her actions) both sound 12. Don't bring her on vacation to see your boyfriend/meet his son. Also, don't hang out with people who act like they're 12.
:Y: :Y: I'm sorry but this fight is ridiculously stupid. Grow up and stop talking to her if she is so much drama and is such a bad friend.
Side note on that.. When we decided to stay in a play beer pong the kids were getting ready for sleep and all the friends played including her.. It wasn't just me and bf, I just promised him that I'd include him instead of just girls, with whatever we were doing
It's kinda sounding like you were also making this into a girls' trip, and the BF was only included occasionally.
I get wanting to hang with your friend, but if it were me and I only saw my BF on rare occasion, I'd be making all my plans with BF and sometimes including my friend, not all of my plans revolving around my friend/the girls. and sometimes including my BF.
Perhaps I'm reading too much into it, but that's how it seems to me.
Yea maybe that what it was. I mean before we left we agreed we were going out to the movies ( which we did).girls nite out ( we did) and one other time and the rest if the time we agreed to hang with everybody, I guess that's where I got confused.
I do agree that maybe I shouldn't have brought her, the only reason I didn't think it was a big deal was because about 10 other people where there's as well, plus I've meet him randomly once or twice but this time was as 'girlfriend'
Wait, what?
First you were together 2.5 years, now you've only met him a couple of times and this is the first as his GF?
Because his son lives with his mom and she wasn't ok with it at all. She'd be ok and then when it would be time,wouldn't let him come out.. And the cycle just kept going.
First you were together 2.5 years, now you've only met him a couple of times and this is the first as his GF?
Because his son lives with his mom and she wasn't ok with it at all. She'd be ok and then when it would be time,wouldn't let him come out.. And the cycle just kept going.
His kid's mom shouldn't have any say in whether or not he can have a girlfriend and whether or not he's allowed to tell people or introduce her (you). If you've really been together for 2.5 years, and he's listening to his ex still about how he should run his life amongst his friends and relationships, then you've got a BF problem.
*disclaimer - the mother should have say if she legitimately feels that the father's actions and relationships would cause harm to the child. I hope that's not the case here.