My cw confronted me in my office at lunch and accused me of having an eating disorder. She went on about how I lost my pregnancy weight and she never sees me eat. When I pointed out that I eat my breakfast every morning at my desk and I was EATING LUNCH RIGHT IN FRONT OF HER, she kind of backtracked and said it was just her motherly instinct talking.
I'm so offended. Plus, she was super aggressive in her approach, so I feel like it was coming from an angle of "the only way you could have lost weight was doing something fucked up to your body" instead of a place of concern. I DID do a pretty strict diet from January until the end of March that was about 1200 calories a day, but I upped it when I started working out and because I felt like it was really toeing the line on healthy after a point. I try to get 1500-1600 calories a day, and I eat whatever the hell I want on the weekends.
I shouldn't even have to justify this. The weight loss was gradual, it didn't just fall off. I'm 137 lbs. at 5'4. I have a healthy BMI. I'm 26. I was active before I was pregnant, I worked my way up to being active afterwards. I still have a muffin top that requires Spanx.
I want to cry and I also want to punch a wall. I have had to deal with eating disorders in the past, and that's part of why I tried SO HARD to be realistic about everything my body was going through during pregnancy and after. I feel...discredited? And knowing this cw, now I'm concerned about her talking about this to other cws, and that ups my rage 110%.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
1.) HR. Immediately. Crossed the fucking line. 2.) Give me your work address so I can come ROUNDHOUSE KICK HER TO THE FUCKING FACE AND THEN BEAT HER WITH A TUBESOCK FULL OF ORANGES.
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
Post by thinkofthesoldiers on Jun 25, 2014 13:59:23 GMT -5
Shut that shit down. None of it is her business and she has no right to talk to you like that. I'd call her back into your office and tell her in no uncertain terms that none of it is her business. Fuck her. And then call HR.
You didn't need to include any info about your weight, height, eating habits...none of it matters.
I hope you told her to mind her own business. She sounds like an overbearing know it all and I'd be filing an HR complaint. Let them have the talk with her.
It sounds like you're doing great. Don't let what she said affect you (she probably never lost her baby weight at all and is jealous!)
"Why would you ruin perfectly good peanuts by adding candy corn? That's like saying hey, I have these awesome nachos, guess I better add some dryer lint." - Nonny
It sounds like your previous struggles have made you sensitive to her level of bullshittery.
She could have been well meaning, she could have her own disordered eating or is just a hater.
Anecdote: I once worked with a very overweight woman (she was in her 30s or so, I was about 20) corner me in a stack of medical files and tell me that I needed to go home and eat a cheeseburger, and she meant it.
Nevermind that I was just naturally thin (AND YOUNG), and I was always eating the catered lunches at work. (they were FREE).
Some people project their own unhappiness unto others. It might make her feel better to think you are going to fail on some crash diet. And for that she is a crazy bitch. At the very least, she's a nosy/misinformed bitch.
What the actual fuck is wrong with her. I would have a chat with HR immediately and avoid her at all costs from now on. I'm so sorry she said that to you.