Friday Clicky Poll: Family Size

[countthestars]

I said 2 but I could see us having 3. I definitely don't want more than 3 for a whole host of reasons, including but not limited to: expense, having to have a huge car and book multiple hotel rooms on vacations, being worried about being tired of parenting by the time the last comes around, which has happened to multiple people I know, including my aunt and uncle and also my MIL.

[bronxgirl]

2. We're working on #2 right now. If IUI doesn't work will probably gve up, so I REALLY hope we get to have 2.

[jenny1223]

2 sounds good to me right now, but we'll see where life takes us!

[DarcyLongfellow]

Growing up I always wished I came from a huge family. I loved going to visit my mom's family because she was one of four, and I adored the chaos of my grandmother's house when all the uncles and cousins were there.

I always wanted four kids, but that's not practical for me and DH. I'd LOVE to have 3. DH wants 2. I say I want 3, but with my PPD and everything else, I'm only now starting to be ready to TTC #2, so I'm not sure we're going to have time for #3 (DH and I are about to turn 34).

I answered 3 because in an ideal world, I'd still love to have 3 kids. But if we end up with 2, or even just our daughter, I'll be happy.

[anna7602]

I do not want children to outnumber the adults here, so 2. I have two very close friends who just had twins each, so I am really terrified of the idea of multiples (as I am trying to TTC now).

[quickstepstar]

I have 3 (twins + a baby). I can see myself wanting 4 at one point in like 5 years, but right now I am really good with the 3 we have.

[sewpinkgal]

We definitely want 2, but in my mind, a 3rd child isn't out of the question. I think H (who is one of three children) is leaning strongly to 2 and done.

[bunch]

3 or 4, but I reserve the right to change my mind after 2.

[dcrunnergirl]

I'm thinking 3 or 4. However, if the next few cycles of IUI don't work, I'll be content with two kids. DH, on the other hand, wants to keep trying via IVF for numbers 3 and 4.

[matildasun]

We have two and are done. Any more than two wouldn't be practical for our life. We live in a smallish two bedroom house and I am pushing 40, which is my personal limit.

[kangaroo11]

I'm surprised we're even getting this first one! And after how crappy weeks 6-14 have been, I don't ever want to do this again!

[Deleted]

Trying for 4, if/when we have 4 we'll stop ttc but since we don't use BC other than FAM, there is always a possibility to have more.

[dragonfly08]

Wanted two, have two. Wouldn't go for three even if it was financially advisable or I wasn't past the "cutoff age" DH and I agreed on a long time ago...I'm just not cut out emotionally for that many kids (even two stresses me enough that while I love my kids and wouldn't change anything, I'll freely admit that I'd probably be a better parent if #1 had stayed an only).

[biogirl21]

I want 2. We'll probably try for a third if the first two are both boys or both girls. I really want one of each!

[satama]

I want a third but am terrified of another difficult pregnancy.

[ejpint]

Ideally, three. But I'll be so happy with whatever we get. I'm already 32, and it's taken us a long while just to get pregnant with a first. I don't want to be the 60-something mom at high school graduation, and have people asking which one is my grandchild!

I can't believe I'm the same person I was ten years ago - I didn't want anything to do with kids, or marriage, or anything "conventional". Now I have daydreams about staying at home.

[Deleted]

Probably two, but we won't do anything permanent for about 5 years after #2.

[Deleted]

Probably two. It really depends on if we're moving to Boston or not and whether or not I keep working after number one.

[CloudBee]

We're starting with one, and will then discuss a second. My husband has always leaned towards one, and I have leaned towards two.

We travel often, so now that I'm actually pregnant, there's a lot of appeal to having just one. We will be more mobile, and can still jet off to Europe, etc., with one without having to put toooo much thought into it. Once you have a family of four, I see frequent travel being a bit more difficult.

[Jem]

Jul 20, 2012 13:58:02 GMT -5 littlespitfire said:

Just one. We live in HCOL, so finances come into play, and, also, I feel like I could be a great mom to one kid but a frazzled mom to 2 or more.

All of this for me too. And then add onto that I'm in the middle of a career change and finally almost done with my degree so that I can start a new job. Of course this timing coincides with when we would want #2, but I can't be out of work for another year so it just can't happen.

We know that with 1 we can provide better financially and more easily do the things we loved before having DS (like travel), so we are happy with 1.

[hilwithonelary]

We wanted 2 for sure and said we'd discuss up to 4. Now that we have 2, I'm leaning towards being done. However, DD is still tiny. I may reconsider once we're past the sleepless night stage. We've agreed to table the discussion until DD is 2.

[Deleted]

We have three now and are on the fence about a fourth. Mostly due to the cost of college and the logistics of dealing with four kids. I'm also kind of scared about what a fourth pregnancy would do to my body. And yet neither of us are ready to permantly rule it out either. If I could somehow guarantee that it would be a girl, I'd be more likely to go for it. You obviously can't do that though

[KaraOrNot]

When I was younger, I always wanted 3. Now I am leaning towards 1 or maybe 2. I really don't think that we could afford 3 and we would likely need to move. I am too lazy for that shit!

[ssmjlm]

I did LOL at the 0 option since this is the mom's board.

We're firmly at 1. One was even negotiable in the beginning as we weren't sure what we wanted.

We want 1 for a variety of reasons, age, money, family mental health history, etc.

[Deleted]

I voted 2. We have an agreement for 2, with an option for a 3rd with either a nanny or a drinking problem.

[everam01]

I always said 1 or 2, an we got 2 with one pregnancy. I do wonder what it would be like to have a singleton baby, but it probably doesn't make sense for our family.

[galaxy8227]

Part of me would like to be one and done for financial reasons--DH really wants two more, I figure we'll compromise and go with two.

[tardyfortheparty]

99% sure we are 2 and done. For logistics/finances/my history of difficult pregnancy, it makes most sense.

[Deleted]

I am pretty positive we only want two. If we ended up with three it wouldn't be tragic, but for our family I believe 2 is ideal.

[wanderlustmom]

I strongly wanted three, DH strongly wanted two, we went with two because after lots of discussion, I agreed that the spouse that wants fewer should decide. It was really hard though! Luckily, DH is a great dad, the kids have a wonderful relationship and I let it go.