This time last year we were anxiously waiting for a match for my stepdads bone marrow transplant. If someone told me all of this would happen, I'd never believe it. When I actually sit down and think about all of it, it doesn't even seem real. It's just sad. I miss my stepdad terribly.
I don't know the back story at all, and this isn't meant as snark- but is there any part of you that is happy your mom has someone who loves her? I imagine it has been difficult for her to lose her husband, and it's crazy fast, but maybe her having someone to provide some comfort and caring can be a good thing?
I think her behavior has been completely inappropriate. She needs therapy and then some. Yes, it was difficult for her to lose her husband....if she grieved and then moved on, I wouldn't have such an issue. But this man came to the wake, was in her house the day after the funeral and pretty much been there ever since.