I don't think that six pregnancies all ending in adoption is ideal, I just don't think it's something that should be judged.
Let's not pretend that access to preventative measures and sex education are easy to come by in this country, particularly in a state as conservative as TX.
Also, many of the nurses on GBCN make me SUUUUPER self-conscious talking about all the shit that gets talked about their patients. I'm generally all, "She doesn't care that I'm not perfectly groomed!" but then there are days that I'm convinced my nurses are on some message board being all, "You should see the not groomed patient I had today!" :?
I think it's super easy to be breezy about those kinds of situations when you're not the one rocking the baby through the night as he withdrawals. Sometimes you just want to cry with them.
Nurses vent about their days at work just like everyone else. We see hundreds of patients and you only hear a few stories. No identifying information is ever given so why does it bother you so much? I judge people who do things to harm their child. I'm also a NICU nurse so I'm extra protective of my babies since they can't defend themselves. If I have a funny story, it's probably from a family that I loved and I laughed about the same scenario WITH them. I'm going to go out on a limb here and say most nurses aren't mean-spirited so I hope you don't feel distrustful of all nurses.
My flameful, or more like an unpopular opinion, is that I'm really against body hair removal. I shave my pits every time I shower, but I hate shaving my legs and do so maaaaaybe twice a week in the summer, and never in the winter. I do trim my pubes every 2 months, but I never shave it and don't intend to ever wax. In college, some girls would shriek in horror when they saw my hairy legs on my way to and from the dorm bathroom.
The reason for this is twofold: First, the feminism aspect; I believe that grown women can be, and are, feminine with body hair and porn created an unrealistic beauty ideal with regards to body hair (among other things); and second, I got a staph infection on my leg from shaving when I was in high school, so now I'm really reluctant to intentionally open myself up to pathogens like that unnecessarily. I'm vigilant about using a new razor almost every time I shave, but staph is naturally occurring on the skin, and I am really not adept at shaving, so I cut myself kind of often.
I read fanfiction pretty regularly, and have written a few stories. Of the smutty variety. It's not something I usually talk about, lol. When H and I started dating I had to tell him about the (very explicit) story I had written. I'm glad it didn't make him run in the opposite direction! I've also written a few since then.
I read fanfiction pretty regularly, and have written a few stories. Of the smutty variety. It's not something I usually talk about, lol. When H and I started dating I had to tell him about the (very explicit) story I had written. I'm glad it didn't make him run in the opposite direction! I've also written a few since then.
I read fanfiction pretty regularly, and have written a few stories. Of the smutty variety. It's not something I usually talk about, lol. When H and I started dating I had to tell him about the (very explicit) story I had written. I'm glad it didn't make him run in the opposite direction! I've also written a few since then.
There are days where I think you couldn't POSSIBLY be more endearing....and then you post something like this
There was some weird white fuzz on my Wendy's fries (think poly fill type fibers). I ate around it.
My BFF's are both nurses. They share the stories of the bat shit crazies. Not the mundane, everyday stuff. I dont think patient personal hygeine even comes up on their radar anymore.
Post by estrellita on Jul 25, 2014 12:51:08 GMT -5
@moonshine I hate shaving! I shave my armpits, but only shave my legs really when I'll be wearing something other than pants in public. I also only trim other areas because every time I've shaved, it's gotten so irritated that I just gave up, lol. I don't understand why women are supposed to be so hairless but men can do whatever. Double standard. But really it's mostly that I'm lazy, lol. Flame away!
Flameful number 1: I also love reading fanfiction.. Love mortal instruments, Harry potter, divergent series (other than the last book) read all twilight (just because of the fad lol) love a good fluff book!
Flameful number 2: my H and I still take our laundry home to my parents house when we visit to save money on paying for it in our apartment building...
Flameful number 3: I'm still on parents health insurance and don't contribute to the monthly bill on what it costs to have it. And I plan on staying on until I turn 26 haha!
Flameful number 1: I also love reading fanfiction.. Love mortal instruments, Harry potter, divergent series (other than the last book) read all twilight (just because of the fad lol) love a good fluff book!
Flameful number 2: my H and I still take our laundry home to my parents house when we visit to save money on paying for it in our apartment building...
Flameful number 3: I'm still on parents health insurance and don't contribute to the monthly bill on what it costs to have it. And I plan on staying on until I turn 26 haha!
I used to be right there with you on 2 and 3. It cost us $3/load at our old place so every time we went to my parents we'd bring laundry. I'd always start it and my mom always ended up finishing it because she got up so much earlier than us, lol. Now we have laundry in our apartment, we just pay the extra electricity. I also was on my parents insurance until just before I turned 26 (switched to my work plan mostly for H's sake, his was crappy, turned 26 in March). I also didn't contribute at all but as you can probably tell from other posts, my parents are pretty generous!
bk1 My parents paid for our Disney trip in Jan. We literally only paid for some souvenirs and whatever we bought with our own cards/cash. Granted, our plane tickets were cheap (dad works for the airline) and they got an AWESOME discount on the rooms and I think park tickets from a friend of my cousin's. It was a part Christmas/birthday gift (though they still got us other Christmas gifts). But still.. that couldn't have been cheap!
Along those lines, I suppose it's probably flameful that I have had a lot of help from my parents over the years (with bills and stuff, within the last couple years it was only borrowing some money that we paid back and a few minor things). They are the reason I have such good credit and that I'm not in a ton of debt. They still pay for my car insurance because it's actually their car. They had said in the past that they would have me either buy the car from them or give it back and get my own, but neither has happened. I love my car and plan to drive it forever. It's an 05 and doesn't even have 70k miles on it! I'd definitely be willing to buy it from them, but I admit I'm holding out on saying anything until they do. And knowing them, they won't.
I don't think that's flameful. A lot of people still get help from their parents, particularly my friends who live in London because it is so HCOL. I think it's only flameful if you think that everyone has parents who can afford to help them, and judge people who don't.
My flameful. I am not happy for my sisters in law and their new babies. I know that the polite thing to say is 'I'm happy for them but sad for me', but I am not happy for them. I would never wish them ill, of course, but I do not have the emotional energy to be happy about our new nephews.
Flameful number 1: I also love reading fanfiction.. Love mortal instruments, Harry potter, divergent series (other than the last book) read all twilight (just because of the fad lol) love a good fluff book!
Flameful number 2: my H and I still take our laundry home to my parents house when we visit to save money on paying for it in our apartment building...
Flameful number 3: I'm still on parents health insurance and don't contribute to the monthly bill on what it costs to have it. And I plan on staying on until I turn 26 haha!
I used to be right there with you on 2 and 3. It cost us $3/load at our old place so every time we went to my parents we'd bring laundry. I'd always start it and my mom always ended up finishing it because she got up so much earlier than us, lol. Now we have laundry in our apartment, we just pay the extra electricity. I also was on my parents insurance until just before I turned 26 (switched to my work plan mostly for H's sake, his was crappy, turned 26 in March). I also didn't contribute at all but as you can probably tell from other posts, my parents are pretty generous!
I'm so glad I'm not the only one who does this!! Yeah! It also costs us 3 dollars a load and that adds up SO fast! I can't wait to have our own washer/dryer!
I have a flameful. The people that live in my town are so stupid. I asked a few questions about something going on and he didn't answer my questions at all. He totally gave unrelated answers or answers that we completely wrong since I decided to research the answers on my own. Plus the responses were nasty. Umm you gave a email address for the public to ask questions then you are a dick. Now you expect me to support you and your cause. Fuck you. I cannot wait until DH reads the reply and I get to sit there and give it back to him with links to my research.
@moonshine and estrellita- I am the same. Armpits always get shaved and legs only when needed.
It has been 2 weeks since I have shaved my legs. :/ lol.
It's been two weeks for me, too. And I've only been wearing regular pants and ankle pants, so even then I only shaved below the knee (more like mid-calf because I didn't actually get all the way up to my knee). H likes it when I shave my legs, but he doesn't like me any less when I'm hairy so I only shave when necessary. Haha.
Last time it had been awhile since I shaved my legs (like a week because I shave often) DH said it reminded him of his mother. Yeah.. I shaved that day.
He was rubbing my feet and apparently he has memories of rubbing his mom's feet when he was little, and how she always had hairy legs.
Sometimes I resent DH for being the reason we may not be able to have another baby. I've always wanted to have two kids, and I absolutely loved being pregnant. And while I love my DD and am beyond grateful to have her, the thought of not having another one makes me so sad.
To make me seem like less of a monster- I would never ever in a million years express these feelings to DH. And when we found out what our IF issues were, I was 100% supportive and there for him, because I know he would have done the same for me. And I love my DH so much, and would never ever do anything to make him feel bad about this. And when we were seeing the RE, it was always to address "our" issues, not "his" because we are a team.
I feel like a terrible wife even writing this out
I 100% feel you on this one. MFI is so hard because I have zero control.