SST has suddenly gotten obsessed with germs (not in an OCD way, thankfully). She wants to look at pictures of bacteria and viruses and wants to know how the immune system works and what it looks like close up. And she wants a microscope for her birthday.
My nerdy heart grew three sizes at hearing that. (heart)
ive been an asshole to LB lately and dont know how to fix it.
all ive heard is that i dont love her, i hate her, i love her brother more, i never send time with her. last night, i went into her room to check out how she was doing cleaning her room and she had just
with all her toys. half of her toys were in her play tent. when i asked her why she didn't clean her room when i know she can b/c she just cleaned her bother's room (!!!!!) that afternoon, she said she clean his room b/c he dosent have a tent.
Cue Mommy Dearest Moment and i snatched that motherfucker up, dumped everything on the floor and threw it out of her room.
im at my end with her. i promised not to yell at her at all today if she would clean half her room. i would then help her with the other half. this morning i felt like Cailou's lobotomized mom, "yelling" in my sweet happy voice at her.
i dont know how to improve my relationship with her. i dont know how to make her like her brother and i generally think i suck so much that i should have never, ever been a mom.
blech
You shut it right now missy.
Big hugs. A was such a little shit last night and my basal instincts are all wrong. This is not an easy thing.
ive been an asshole to LB lately and dont know how to fix it.
all ive heard is that i dont love her, i hate her, i love her brother more, i never send time with her. last night, i went into her room to check out how she was doing cleaning her room and she had just
with all her toys. half of her toys were in her play tent. when i asked her why she didn't clean her room when i know she can b/c she just cleaned her bother's room (!!!!!) that afternoon, she said she clean his room b/c he dosent have a tent.
Cue Mommy Dearest Moment and i snatched that motherfucker up, dumped everything on the floor and threw it out of her room.
im at my end with her. i promised not to yell at her at all today if she would clean half her room. i would then help her with the other half. this morning i felt like Cailou's lobotomized mom, "yelling" in my sweet happy voice at her.
i dont know how to improve my relationship with her. i dont know how to make her like her brother and i generally think i suck so much that i should have never, ever been a mom.
blech
It is soooooooooooooooooooooooooo hard to NOT go into that mode when they're being willful little ass... er "darlings".
I have a hard time with this, especially when S was first born and B was just awful to me. I spent a lot of time sobbing to H that I was awful and cannot be the mother B needs me to be or the mother he deserves.
It's gotten better since he slowed his roll and isn't acting out with me as much. We don't get into those awful spirals.
I'm sorry mw. I don't have a solution. Just a lot of sympathy.
Jesus. DH is at the pedi with DD and texted me that DD is now 19 lbs 13 oz. She was 17 lbs even a month ago at her last appointment. Still waiting to hear back from him to find out if that weight gain concerns the pedi, but if not, that just adds to my feelings of guilt. I suddenly dried up 6 weeks ago and weaned her at 8.5 months; she was never a speedy gainer and gained pretty much the bare minimum acceptable each month since birth. This is the first weight check since she's been 100% formula-fed and I was already thinking that perhaps she wasn't as satisfied at the breast as I assumed she was based on her change in eating behavior since I fully weaned, and now this just makes me wonder if I am indeed correct...as if she's playing "catch-up" with weight gain to make up for not eating enough before.
There is a difference in weight gain in formula fed babies and breast fed babies. If you recently switched to formula she's probably gaining weight a littler faster, and it's probably more due to the formula than how much she was eating, if that's any consolation.
ive been an asshole to LB lately and dont know how to fix it.
all ive heard is that i dont love her, i hate her, i love her brother more, i never send time with her. last night, i went into her room to check out how she was doing cleaning her room and she had just
with all her toys. half of her toys were in her play tent. when i asked her why she didn't clean her room when i know she can b/c she just cleaned her bother's room (!!!!!) that afternoon, she said she clean his room b/c he dosent have a tent.
Cue Mommy Dearest Moment and i snatched that motherfucker up, dumped everything on the floor and threw it out of her room.
im at my end with her. i promised not to yell at her at all today if she would clean half her room. i would then help her with the other half. this morning i felt like Cailou's lobotomized mom, "yelling" in my sweet happy voice at her.
i dont know how to improve my relationship with her. i dont know how to make her like her brother and i generally think i suck so much that i should have never, ever been a mom.
blech
Ugh, I'm so sorry. I wish I had any piece of helpful advice, I don't, it just sucks. There's something so awful about not really liking your child, despite how much you love them. We eventually came out of it, I'm sure you will too. You're not a bad mom, it's just hard.
Jesus. DH is at the pedi with DD and texted me that DD is now 19 lbs 13 oz. She was 17 lbs even a month ago at her last appointment. Still waiting to hear back from him to find out if that weight gain concerns the pedi, but if not, that just adds to my feelings of guilt. I suddenly dried up 6 weeks ago and weaned her at 8.5 months; she was never a speedy gainer and gained pretty much the bare minimum acceptable each month since birth. This is the first weight check since she's been 100% formula-fed and I was already thinking that perhaps she wasn't as satisfied at the breast as I assumed she was based on her change in eating behavior since I fully weaned, and now this just makes me wonder if I am indeed correct...as if she's playing "catch-up" with weight gain to make up for not eating enough before.
Don't feel bad. DD was BF's past 12 months and she had a huge weight gain around 9/10 months, it may just be the pre-walking weight gain that many kids go through.
Sat night my mom watched the girls so DH and I could go out. Apparently L got really interested in our wedding photo with the family on the shelf above the couch. She then had a full blown crying meltdown with tears and everything because she didn't get to go to our wedding. Nevermind she has seen that picture every day for her entire 3.5 years of existence and the fact that the wedding was 4 years before she and her sister were even an idea.....she did not care. All she knows is she didn't get to go.
Poor kid! She was over it by Sunday.
DD has had a similar reaction to our wedding photos. More a whiny fit than meltdown but with the "But IIIIIIIIII wanted to go" and "It's NOT fair."
DD loves watching my wedding video and asked if I could have another wedding so she could come.