Been too long, random questions

[jm5855]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months?

2. What do you want more of in your life?

3. What do you want less of in your life?

4. Who would you like to forgive?

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else?

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?

[jm5855]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? I am too picky when it comes to dating and I am likely missing out on some great women.

2. What do you want more of in your life? Time with my kids

3. What do you want less of in your life? Time spent working
4. Who would you like to forgive? Whatever jackass invented the black cherry slushy...I cant stop drinking them!!

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? Dont use an alarm clock..never have and never will. I just wake up when I need to. It is so weird.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Telling them how I feel. Dont like the feeling of hurting someone (if it is bad news of course)

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? For some people loving out of habit is a reality. I do not fall into that category when speaking about my children.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?


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[bullygirl979]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? I need to have higher expectations (thanks, JM!)

2. What do you want more of in your life? Peace. I need to roll with the struggles.

3. What do you want less of in your life? Anxiety/stress

4. Who would you like to forgive? XH, I have in a lot of ways but I still hold on to a tiny bit of anger towards him every now and again.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I can't think of anything.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?
When I am telling how I feel. I am pretty private and it can be hard to really open up.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?
No, I think we can get comfortable with and complacent, but complacent is different than love.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? You already know my answer

[fuzziebunnie]

May 15, 2012 12:15:25 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months?Eating healthier

2. What do you want more of in your life?Time with loved ones.

3. What do you want less of in your life?Stress about money

4. Who would you like to forgive?That girl that stole my boyfriend in elemetary school.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I don't put my contacts in or brush my teeth in front of a mirror.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?When they are telling me how they feel.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?
I don't think it is a habit. I don't love everyone I'm used to. (Coworkers and such)

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? My thoughts are more like, I'm afraid I'll always make the wrong mistake.

[turtle1120]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? To survive living with my parents temporarily and to get the fuck out of their house!

2. What do you want more of in your life? Sex! I need it! Badly!

3. What do you want less of in your life? Drama from DD's dad. He just needs to fall off the face of the earth.

4. Who would you like to forgive? Myself. I feel so much guilt that DD has a douche canoe of a father and I blame myself for it.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I'm not sure. I taught myself to tie my shoes when I was little so I know I do that a little wacky. It's kind of like the bunny ears method but a little different.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? I've never thought about this. Neither - it would be weird to not look into someone's eyes in either of those situations.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? No, I don't think so. There are plenty of people that I'm used to that I don't love.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Yep, all the time. I think it's a natural part of being single but wanting more in your life in terms of a relationship. I always just tell myself that after all the shit I've been through, my time is coming sooner or later and I look forward to the day when I have someone in my life who I'm truly happy with. I've got to have good karma coming my way!

[doriswe]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? I need to exercise regularly...I do good for a bit and then get bored.

2. What do you want more of in your life? More vacations and adventures!

3. What do you want less of in your life? less single parenting....I'd love it if my kids dads could step it up and help me out with the hard stuff.

4. Who would you like to forgive? I've already forgiven everybody....it was more about me, less about them!

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I tend to do things back-ass-wards, which usually means I put in more effort than I need to. Case in point, I had a baby, went to school, had a baby, went back to school...

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? I think looking into their eyes....but I have no feelings, so I really shouldn't respond

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? I don't think so

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Ehhh, I used to, but honestly, I'm happy alone and I anticipate falling in love with the right person will be an addition to my current level of personal happiness, kwim?

[heavenly]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Growing stronger and standing up for myself, Discernments skills (I am definitely improving and being proactive on my growth right now)

2. What do you want more of in your life? To Love Fully, Share Joy, Smile Often, Dream Big

3. What do you want less of in your life? Unhealthy relationships (even among friends and family)

4. Who would you like to forgive? My BFF

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? Hmm... Hard to pinpoint anything particular because I have always break the rules and make my own. I have to since I am deaf and rely on lip-reading and do not want to outcast myself from the general public.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? (I am finally learning how to accept kindness from others and not run, I used to be scared of the ‘new’ feelings I was experiencing as it felt like I was jumping off a cliff)

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? Love should be an action/verb. It takes efforts to love. Honestly, I couldn’t ‘Love” without the man upstairs teaching me.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? I couldn’t access the link but after having several therapy appointments, I am gearing myself up to be ready for love that meets each of our needs (physical, emotional, mental etc)… After living a long life of being detached to my feelings and ignoring my emotional needs, I am warned that it’s going to be an earthquake when I find the right guy.

[udscoobychick]

JM, these questions are deep!

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Probably drink less, frankly. I'm on the heavier end of social drinking.

2. What do you want more of in your life? Free time

3. What do you want less of in your life? Stress

4. Who would you like to forgive? Not sure there's anyone that I need/want to forgive at the moment

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? Ummmm...I un-mix mixed vegetables, fruit salad, etc.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Both

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? No, because often, when BF does something that surprises me, it triggers feelings of love. I think novelty nourishes love.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Not really...I've questioned whether I'm cut out for long-term relationships, but I have not questioned my ability to be happy.

[lovelybb]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Healthier eating habits and exercising more

2. What do you want more of in your life? less negative thoughts

3. What do you want less of in your life? more positive thoughts

4. Who would you like to forgive? No one really...

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? photograph things

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Looking into someone's eyes when they tell me how they feel... it's hard to just listen and not try to take it personally

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? For some, I would like to make it a very, something that I'm always trying to do...

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Most definitely, but what I've tried to realize is that happiness is defined by you - there are no set standards or marks you need to hit in order to feel happiness. If you're happy, then you're happy - no need to justify or explain it. I've also learned that I'm responsible for my own happiness, not the other person.

[roselis]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months?I need to really work at losing this weight

2. What do you want more of in your life?Time with my son

3. What do you want less of in your life?Debt

4. Who would you like to forgive?The person XH had the affair with

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else?A lot of things. I have a paralyzed hand so I do a lot of things one handed

6. What is more difficult for you; looking into someone's eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someone's eyes when they are telling you how they feel?

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? No. Not for me

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Yes. I worry that I can never trust a guy completely and therefore never be truly happy

[starryfish]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Drop the last 15 pounds

2. What do you want more of in your life? love for myself

3. What do you want less of in your life? drama and crappy dating

4. Who would you like to forgive? myself

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? The way I pronounce "bage"

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?
I felt like this sometimes in my marraige, but not sure if thats normal.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?

My thoughts lately have been, will I ever find someone again? I have had really bad luck dating recently.

[callunafirefly]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? I probably need to call my parents and family/friends more. I live away from everyone so I've just been so wrapped up in creating my life, I've kind of let that slip.

2. What do you want more of in your life? Me time - I spend a lot of time running DS to his activities.

3. What do you want less of in your life? Birds? I have an infestation of them on my deck.

4. Who would you like to forgive? I guess XH. He did a lot in our relationship and sometimes I wonder if I could forgive if we could make it work.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I really got nothing on this...apparently I am very normal.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Looking at them when they are talking to me.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? I think a lot of people mistake being used to someone as love. True love should feel complacent.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? I used to, but then I met an amazing person who showed me what an adult relationship was, with respect and compassion and I was truly happy with him. Now that we aren't together - I more wonder if I'll find someone who makes me as happy as he did.

[ravenb1111]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Moving.. so scary and so exciting

2. What do you want more of in your life? sex, money, new friends, traveling, and a new start

3. What do you want less of in your life? drama.. even if you are family, i have to back away.. i can't fix people!

4. Who would you like to forgive? myself

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? i really sometimes care to much.. i try to make everybody's life easier, even its just like given somebody a ride down the street when i could be relaxing.. but I'm doing my better now

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?both depending on how the conversation is going

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?i don't think so.. but i could be wrong :/

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? yeah i think we all have thoughts like this sometimes.. but we'll know

[liubotflittyfud]

May 15, 2012 12:15:25 GMT -5 jm5855 said:

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Get my financial shit together, get my anxiety disorder under control

2. What do you want more of in your life? adventures

3. What do you want less of in your life? drama

4. Who would you like to forgive? My brother but it may never happen. Well I forgave in a way but will never forget.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? everything. I'm definitely different in every way.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Neither. I'm honest and I always look people in the eye

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? no. I think we become accustomed to some, but love others. It's a whole other feeling all together.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?

Yes, absolutely. Every relationship I've been in was a disaster because I had low self esteem and was with men that preyed on that. I've learned to stand up for myself and although I'm not ready to be with anyone, I am seeking the qualities of a healthy relationship with independence. It's more difficult than it seems.

[charitylynne79]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Leave H

2. What do you want more of in your life? I want to have more self confidence in myself, lose weight, and to be able to be on my own and be ok with being a lone.

3. What do you want less of in your life? People who say they are there for you, but then they aren't

4. Who would you like to forgive? My bf who committed suicide 11 years ago

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? Having a lot of CDS - I have a shit load of them and most people are shocked at how many I have. And yes, I have to admit I went out and bought another copy because I thought I lost one and then would find it later. Well one cd I have bought twice and cannot find either copy of it. Restrain me from getting another copy. LOL

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Looking into someone else's eyes.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Sometimes but it has to deal with a man lol.

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[marigoldgirl]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? I need to exercise and eat healthier

2. What do you want more of in your life? Intimacy and sex

3. What do you want less of in your life? Clutter, stuff

4. Who would you like to forgive? No one. I forgive easy, but never forget.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I match things. Clothes, dishes. etc.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Looking into their eyes when I am telling them.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? I don't think love is a habit I think it is a choice.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?
I don't but I am sure others do.

[achase123]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Passing my damn CFP test

2. What do you want more of in your life? sex??

3. What do you want less of in your life? drama, no time for it

4. Who would you like to forgive? I've forgiven everyone who needs to be forgiven

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? try really, really hard never to judge. Can understand most every situation that I encounter.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? The first, I get uncomfortable sharing my feelings sometimes, especially when I know it's going to hurt the other person.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? eventually it should be, but it's also something that needs to be worked on

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?[/quote] No. I know what NOT being happy is like, for sure. It can only go up from there.

[ellewrites]

I'll play :-)

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months?

I would like to finalize my divorce and truly be able to let go.

2. What do you want more of in your life?

Productivity and positivity.

3. What do you want less of in your life?

Laziness, depression, negativity

4. Who would you like to forgive?

Myself. I blame myself for the failure of my relationship and as much as logically I know that's not entirely true, I want to actually forgive myself so I can let go and move on.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else?

I'm really not sure. I hold my fork and knife Euro style which is different from a lot of people here.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?

It's harder for me to look into someone's eyes when I'm telling them how I feel because it is more vulnerable. I'm a lot more forgiving of other people than I am of myself.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?

Not at all. I've found that it's the opposite.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?

All the damn time. I just was talking to my good friend about how I don't know what it means to have a functional relationship and I'm worried I'll never be able to have one.

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[imalwaysme79]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Make myself healthier, lighter, leaner and more toned. I joined a gym, and today was my first day. I'm gonna be all kinds of hot and sexy.

2. What do you want more of in your life? I'd be lying if my answer to this question wasn't sex.

3. What do you want less of in your life? Stress and drama

4. Who would you like to forgive? I can't say that I could for sure, but if my biological dad made any sort of effort to contact me, and explain himself why he has disappeared over the last 15 years, I might consider it

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I have no idea

6. What is more difficult for you; looking into someone's eyes when you are telling someone how you feel, or looking into someone's eyes when they are telling you how they feel? Hmmm, I would say when I am telling someone how I feel.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? I think it happens, for sure. I would like to think that I have grown and matured, and that I won't get stuck in that sort of rut

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Yep - with a guy

[jojoandleo]

I am having insomnia, so I am going to play late:
1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Find a job. I have one more year of school and I will be SO MAD at myself if I graduate without a job.

2. What do you want more of in your life? Success and confidence. I feel the two go hand in hand. I tend to catastrophize things and get self conscious.

3. What do you want less of in your life? Stress, for sure, and self-doubt

4. Who would you like to forgive? I am not much of a forgiver, I tend to hold a grudge. Maybe my dad. I love him and he is a good guy, but I am still angry about everything he had to lose and we had to go through to get him sober. I still hold on to the childhood memories of him drinking while driving with us in the car and getting arrested, him passing out on the floor and us being scared when we couldn't wake him, and so on. I really should let it go.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? Say the word Crayon. I don't say crown, I say cran (like cranberry w/out the berry).

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? When they tell me how they feel, especially if I don't feel the same way, or if it is bad. I HATE disappointing people.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? No, but I think you do get used to people and the relationship can become a habit. You can start just going through the motions. That's why I think it is important to try new things and spice things up so you don't feel like you are just a habit.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? Yes, when I was in high school I felt this way, except about men.

[BookLover]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? To be more persistent. I'm almost done with my degree, I don't want to falter at the end.

2. What do you want more of in your life? Quiet? I don't know I'm pretty happy for the most part.

3. What do you want less of in your life? My asshat of an ex, he's been bugging me lately.

4. Who would you like to forgive? Nobody I need to.

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? Sleep...I'm not getting much right now and everybody else is!

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? When they tell me how they feel. Yes, it is them telling their feelings to you, but their eyes really show if they mean it. When it's a true passion or sorrow, it almost feels like I'm invading their mind.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? No, I don't think it is a habit. I don't love everyone I know.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following:
"I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this?
I don't know. I don't think I ever thought about it. I just know, I couldn't be anymore miserable then what I was when I was married.

[bkhokie27]

1. Buy a house

2. Energy...I've been feeling pretty blah lately

3. Stress

4. My XH

5. Hmmm. I don't know for sure. One thing I do is put any money leftover in my checking account into savings at the end of a pay period. I've been able to rack up a nice little savings with that trick.

6. looking into someone's eyes when they are telling you how they feel?

7. Love is a feeling

8. Not really

[cfc1chelsea]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? Eating healthier and working out more!

2. What do you want more of in your life? Time with my daughter!

3. What do you want less of in your life? Stress, especially from XH

4. Who would you like to forgive? My XH for being such a jerk.
5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else?On here especially, I feel like I'm one of the few true "country" girls. I mean seriously, I work on my family farm every single day. I know alot of you live in bigger cities. My way of life on a day to day basis is way different.

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel?

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them? I don't think so - it's always a choice.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? I feel this way (except for me being happy with a man) - because it seems like I'm always disappointed.

[vikingqueen]

1. What is the number one change you need to make in your life in the next 12 months? My self esteem

2. What do you want more of in your life? laughter

3. What do you want less of in your life? negativity

4. Who would you like to forgive? I already am a pretty forgiving person, there is no one on my shit list at the moment

5. What is something you know you do differently from everyone else? I'm sure there is something but my mind is blanking out at the moment

6. What is more difficult for you;
looking into someone's eyes when you
are telling someone how you feel, or
looking into someone's eyes when they
are telling you how they feel? Probably when telling how I feel.. unless I don't like the person and they like me.. then it is more difficult to look them in the eyes when they are telling me how they feel.

7. Is love just a habit, meaning do we love someone just because we get use to them?I don't think it starts off that way, but I think in some situations it ends up that way.

8. I was speaking with a friend last night when I said the following: "I am nervous if I will ever understand what it truly means to be happy with a woman." Anyone else ever have thoughts like this? All the time