She's slaying me with these forwarded texts from her H:
It's not so bad, think of all the regifting opportunities Recycle birthday cards Those kid license plate things with the names on them Other things with names on them
Post by curbsideprophet on Jul 29, 2014 8:54:18 GMT -5
Does sister have a SO? I wonder what they think of this and if they had a say in the name.
Hopefully if I ever lost my mind and wanted to name a child the exact same name as a close family member DH would speak up and tell me it was a bad idea.
honestly, it's no question that the sister is a nutjob.
BUT, i think your friend is fucking crazy too for not thinking it's a big deal? and her H is OK with it? and you would be ok with it if this were you?
a post full of nutters.
It's not that she doesn't think it's a big deal, it's just that the sister is obviously waving her psycho freak flag pretty high, so Friend is pretty positive she came out the "winner" in this situation. Her H thinks it is hilariously nuts.
ETA: If my sister had a daughter and named her Olivia, I would roll my eyes, but it's a pretty popular name at this point and hardly unique. But, my sister isn't insane so I don't really have to think out the hypotheticals of this.
Post by RitzyHeifer on Jul 29, 2014 8:56:44 GMT -5
DH has a cousin with the same first and middle name (2 months younger), although cousin has a second middle name. So it's like:
Charles Robert Smith Charles Robert Joseph Jones
DH was originally "Charlie" as a baby but his aunt insisted the cousin be Charlie so DH goes by "Robert". Both MIL and her sister are nucking futs so I'm not sure how it played out 35+ years ago when they were born, but now it's no big deal.
She's slaying me with these forwarded texts from her H:
It's not so bad, think of all the regifting opportunities Recycle birthday cards Those kid license plate things with the names on them Other things with names on them
Has anyone told her that she can keep the same initials but she could (and SHOULD) at least pick a different middle name? All the above will still apply in her warped mind.
Post by juliagoulia on Jul 29, 2014 8:57:19 GMT -5
Wow this is so weird. It seems like sister did this purposefully- to be a huge pain in the ass.
MH has the same first & middle name as his 1st cousin who grew up right beside him. Cousin was born first. I always thought it was weird- but they're two very common names and both families had reasons for them. Other family just always calls him "Little Name" and their kid is "Big Name". Even now that MH is 30- he's still "Little Name". Lol
I can see why her mom is flipping out, if my DD's tried something like this I would too. How did the sister even find a H (or BF) that is as crazy as she is to go along with it? Everybody that knows them should let her know she is an idiot, and I would totally make a comment on the FB post about how strange it would be to have the exact same name, everybody should call her out.
OK so here's what has to happen. If they both decide to have another child and are pregnant around the same time, your friend needs to let it slip to her sister that she is naming her kid (insert really you-neek name here that she would never want to name her kid). Then her sister will use it and your friend can go back to the regular name she wanted in the first place.
I know this isn't the best idea, because the person suffering would be the sister's kid with the really awful name. But oh my gosh. This sister sounds like a whack-a-doo.
What a looney toon, especially re: the middle name. I like the way your friend's h is thinking, lol. When is the sister's baby due? Hopefully she will come to her senses by then.
My grandma came from a large catholic family, and my mom has several cousins from that side named Mary and Joseph (shocking, right). Less weird though bc it's a big family and common names.
DH has a cousin with the same first and middle name (2 months younger), although cousin has a second middle name. So it's like:
Charles Robert Smith Charles Robert Joseph Jones
DH was originally "Charlie" as a baby but his aunt insisted the cousin be Charlie so DH goes by "Robert". Both MIL and her sister are nucking futs so I'm not sure how it played out 35+ years ago when they were born, but now it's no big deal.
Haha how can you just say "my kid is Charlie now, not yours". That is so crazy.
This kind of happened with DS though. H is first middle last name III and DS is first middle last name IV. SIL had her kid a few months before me and "took" the first name. H was pissed but it's not really a big deal. Nephew goes by the formal name and DS has a nickname.
I actually did the slow blink and reread to make sure I had that right.
Sister is a nutjob. I don't know that I'd be as breezy as friend about it. Fingers crossed that sister actually thinks this through before her baby is born and changes the name. As long as it has the same initials, she can even keep the monogramming.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Jul 29, 2014 9:06:45 GMT -5
I think friend knows that her sister is straight up crazycakes and that she doesn't need to do more than stand there and smile and watch the crazy unfold around her. What a goddamned fruitbasket.
I had two students - first cousins - that had the same first and middle name. I assumed it was a family thing but maybe someone was just crazy like your friend's sister. So weird. I can't even imagine trying to name my kid the exact same thing as my niece.
I would be so very not breezy about this. Even as a friend of Friend, I would be all over FB shaming this one, assuming Sister was a mutual friend. I'd def be commenting on how odd it is to copy your 1 wk old niece's name.
Is your friend close with her sister? Does sister realize how insane this is? What is her explanation for this insanity? This is so nuts!
They're not close. Friend is one of those effortlessly cool but super nice and self deprecating people, I've known both sisters since hs and Friend has always been confident in herself. This has always rattled her sister, and her sister was ALWAYS plotting some way to take her down.
I don't think the insane person thinks it is insane. I mean, she's insane.
As far as I know, there's no explanation aside from sister liking the name.
I wonder if Sister realizes that she will be accomplishing the exact opposite of what she's out to do here. People are going to be like "Paloma Middlename? Oh... like Paloma Middlename, your sister's baby?" ad nauseam for the rest of her life.
Dude. Had your friend shared the name before the baby was born, or was it kept a secret until she arrived?
I can't believe that sister's husband is going along with this craziness.
They kept it a secret until the baby arrived. They didn't even really have it picked out until and hour or so after she was born. There were two other first names they liked and they wanted to wait and see which one "fit" her.