I am teetering on the edge of becoming one of *those* douchey Instagram fitness people. I really want to post a picture of my abs (because baby sixpack!). The only reason I haven't is that someone I can't stand posts pictures of herself in a sports bra to show of her abs all.the.time., and mutual friends and I make fun of her for it. I would rather feel morally superior than get some likes on a picture...but I'm not sure how long that'll last.
@buckybells, that plan makes me nervous for you because you've said before that a big reason you got married to your ex was finances and it seeming to make sense. Don't fall into that trap again!
I am considering pilfering four butterfly binder clips from the office supply room at work for use on my duvet. I haven't done it yet. It is not ethical. But I don't feel like spending $6 and going to Bed Bath and Beyond for real ones.
I would have not even considered this on the ethical scale. I am a horrible person.
i be typing from me phone. typos and grammer dont count.
@buckybells, does he already have permanent resident status or is he here on a student visa? Getting married may not automatically qualify him for the tuition reduction for next year. Getting a green card takes time.
He has a green card. He actually qualifies to become a US citizen in a year.
Post by emilyinchile on Jul 29, 2014 11:16:51 GMT -5
@buckybells I know you're aware of everything, and I didn't mean to sound patronizing or anything. Just sharing that while I do see the logic, in your specific case I would be worried about it being a similar situation as something that you now see as having been a bad one. Hopefully he gets his funding soon, so it's not an issue!
@buckybells, does he already have permanent resident status or is he here on a student visa? Getting married may not automatically qualify him for the tuition reduction for next year. Getting a green card takes time.
He has a green card. He actually qualifies to become a US citizen in a year.
If he's a permanent resident and resides in your state why is he not eligible for an in-state tuition reduction? Did he move there specifically for school and that's why he's ineligible? I feel like a permanent residency card gets you in-state tuition most places.
They also make excellent chip clips, in case you need those. Â I like binder clips WAY more than chip clips for chip clips purposes.
I inherited SO MANY binder clips in my office. Maybe I need to liberate some of them to my pantry!
Me too. I could roll in a bed of binder clips that I have inherited. (better than money?) I never thought of using them for chip clips. My life is changed.
I just didn't have a good first impression. She was tough on me in one of my posts as a newbie. Who knows, maybe she was having an off day. I know how much this board loves her, but I can't shake off my first impression. First impressions die hard, yo.
Are you really still holding a grudge because she was tough on you? Chances are, you needed to hear what she had to say. Tosa is one of the nicest people you'll ever meet.
Nope, not holding a grudge. I listened/read her inputs to replies I got from her after that, which were good replies. But did those make me like her? No. I don't hate her. But do I like her? No. So, I guess it's more of a neutral feeling. Maybe saying "I don't like" is the wrong phrase, more like "I'm not a fan"
He has a green card. He actually qualifies to become a US citizen in a year.
If he's a permanent resident and resides in your state why is he not eligible for an in-state tuition reduction? Did he move there specifically for school and that's why he's ineligible? I feel like a permanent residency card gets you in-state tuition most places.
Yeah, that's exactly the issue. He lived in LA for the first several years he was in the states. He moved to Iowa just for school. If he wanted in state tuition, he'd have to live here without being a student for a period of time - I can't recall if it is 6 months or a year.
IMO it's stupid - his permanent residence is here and he's here year round. He's not going back to LA. He has an Iowa drivers license. But for tuition purposes he's not a resident since he wasn't a resident before enrolling. If he was married to someone who was here for non-educational reasons, he'd be considered a resident.
If he's a permanent resident and resides in your state why is he not eligible for an in-state tuition reduction? Did he move there specifically for school and that's why he's ineligible? I feel like a permanent residency card gets you in-state tuition most places.
Yeah, that's exactly the issue. He lived in LA for the first several years he was in the states. He moved to Iowa just for school. If he wanted in state tuition, he'd have to live here without being a student for a period of time - I can't recall if it is 6 months or a year.
IMO it's stupid - his permanent residence is here and he's here year round. He's not going back to LA. He has an Iowa drivers license. But for tuition purposes he's not a resident since he wasn't a resident before enrolling. If he was married to someone who was here for non-educational reasons, he'd be considered a resident.
Ah, I had the same problem in grad school too. Annoying.
Post by emilyinchile on Jul 29, 2014 11:27:55 GMT -5
Hahaha, sunnysideup488 here, I will be your personal trainer for free:
Step 1: Do a shitton of Crossfit for 1.5 years. End up lying on a dirty floor in a pool of your own sweat, totally exhausted, on a regular basis. Step 2: Wake up one morning and realize that oh, working out a lot has changed your body! Step 3: Find the most flattering position possible and take a picture.
Congratulations, you have achieved baby six pack status.
This might be flameful too, but IMO doing an unfunded PhD is almost never a good idea, and if he doesn't get funding I think he should put some serious thought into whether it makes sense to finish his PhD.
This might be flameful too, but IMO doing an unfunded PhD is almost never a good idea, and if he doesn't get funding I think he should put some serious thought into whether it makes sense to finish his PhD.
I agree that doing an unfunded PhD is almost never a good idea. I considered posting the same thing, but I'm not sure it's a bad enough idea to quit a program he's already in. Is he almost done?
If he's a permanent resident and resides in your state why is he not eligible for an in-state tuition reduction? Did he move there specifically for school and that's why he's ineligible? I feel like a permanent residency card gets you in-state tuition most places.
Yeah, that's exactly the issue. He lived in LA for the first several years he was in the states. He moved to Iowa just for school. If he wanted in state tuition, he'd have to live here without being a student for a period of time - I can't recall if it is 6 months or a year.
IMO it's stupid - his permanent residence is here and he's here year round. He's not going back to LA. He has an Iowa drivers license. But for tuition purposes he's not a resident since he wasn't a resident before enrolling. If he was married to someone who was here for non-educational reasons, he'd be considered a resident.
It isn't that stupid. If it was that easy to become an in-state student, like every student from out of state (at like every state school) would become an in-state student.
The shelter where we got our younger cat asked for "alumni photos" for their charitable calendar for 2015, and they'll pick a few animals for the calendar. It's about a 30-minute drive from our house and the photoshoot would take place at the shelter.
I entered our cat even though I know she'd hate the car ride and will probably be really shy and scared in a photoshoot.
Yeah, that's exactly the issue. He lived in LA for the first several years he was in the states. He moved to Iowa just for school. If he wanted in state tuition, he'd have to live here without being a student for a period of time - I can't recall if it is 6 months or a year.
IMO it's stupid - his permanent residence is here and he's here year round. He's not going back to LA. He has an Iowa drivers license. But for tuition purposes he's not a resident since he wasn't a resident before enrolling. If he was married to someone who was here for non-educational reasons, he'd be considered a resident.
It isn't that stupid. If it was that easy to become an in-state student, like every student from out of state (at like every state school) would become an in-state student.
Other states have ways of gaining residency while you're in school though. I could have done it while in grad school but got a better (career wise) offer for my summers so I didn't pursue it.
This might be flameful too, but IMO doing an unfunded PhD is almost never a good idea, and if he doesn't get funding I think he should put some serious thought into whether it makes sense to finish his PhD.
I know this is a common opinion on here, but I just don't think that's realistic for every field. His program is one of the top 10 in the country (so it's not some shitty rip off school) and he's actually had funding 2 of the 3 years he's been there (of course, he was given funding his first year and had no idea it might not be guaranteed every year.... but that's a whole other gripe with the university). He's going into his 4th year so it doesn't make much sense to quit now, especially since he needs the PhD to be employed in his desired job. I'm 100% supportive of continuing, I'd do the same in that position and actually have a lot of regrets myself about not going into the exact field he's in
Yeah, that's exactly the issue. He lived in LA for the first several years he was in the states. He moved to Iowa just for school. If he wanted in state tuition, he'd have to live here without being a student for a period of time - I can't recall if it is 6 months or a year.
IMO it's stupid - his permanent residence is here and he's here year round. He's not going back to LA. He has an Iowa drivers license. But for tuition purposes he's not a resident since he wasn't a resident before enrolling. If he was married to someone who was here for non-educational reasons, he'd be considered a resident.
It isn't that stupid. If it was that easy to become an in-state student, like every student from out of state (at like every state school) would become an in-state student.
I think it's stupid that there is a huge price different for in-state and out of state, particularly at a graduate level. I can see it a little more for undergrad since presumably many students are still living at home during breaks and will return to the home state after graduation (I know not everyone does....myself included).
When someone is 32 years old and lives somewhere 100% of the time for several years and doesn't have any ties to another state, I think they should be considered a resident of the state they live in. Or at least shouldn't have to pay 3x what an in-state student pays.