Post by sillygoosegirl on Aug 1, 2014 20:05:01 GMT -5
Before like foreplay, or before like "I'm technically still a virgin"?
The former, yes, but not until years after vaginal sex was a regular thing.
I feel like there's a lot of cultural baggage around blowjobs and them being disrespectful to women that it took DH and I a very long time to get past.
I honestly don't remember. I was with my first boyfriend for like a year before we did it but I was a super prude. I mean, I was 19 when I finally did it, lol. I thinnnnnk after, but I'm not sure.
Lol! I'm 39. I feel like people in their 20s view bjs differently (but this could always be just me and my friends). Like its not a base. It was something you did if you were also having vaginal.
I'm 39 too. I know lots of people who gave head before they had sex.
Post by coribelle26 on Aug 1, 2014 21:55:26 GMT -5
Every few years I bring out this little bit of adolescent trauma, and this seems like the right time to do it again. When I was about 13 my dad gave me this book called "Hang Onto Your Hormones" that had, among other things, a list of "typical progression of sexual contact" so you could recognize how far along you were on the yellow brick road to hell. It was like hand/hand, mouth/mouth, hand/body, mouth/body, hand/genital, mouth/genital, genital/genital. (This reinforces my belief that it was totally part of the religious kid upbringing that everything but p in v was not quite sex.)
Anyhoo, I made the mistake of telling my friends about this and thereafter a regular truth or dare question was, "How far have you gone on coribelle's dad's sex scale?" And I begged them to call it anything in the world other than that, and my pleas went ignored.
Lol! I'm 39. I feel like people in their 20s view bjs differently (but this could always be just me and my friends). Like its not a base. It was something you did if you were also having vaginal.
I agree with Suzyp. I think most the people I know who were/are my contemporaries view oral as far more intimate than intercourse. Intercourse was something you did long before oral, for almost everyone I know/discussed these things with. I feel like that is not the norm for the 20-something (maybe even young 30's) and younger set. I'm turning 40 this year.
See, this is what I'm talking about. This was not the mentality amongst anyone i knew when I was young, but I feel like it is the norm now.
I think regular intercourse in high school is back to the norm now. I'm 32, I was in high school in the late 90s. Every single one of my friends was doling out beejers before they had intercourse. I was the weird one for just how long I waited between, but the order of things was definitely standard.
No. I was having P-in-V sex for over a year before I gave a BJ. I was a prude before I had sex at 19, and still a prude for years after that. No way was I letting a dude put his junk near my head! Of course, none of them offered to give oral, either.