Big hugs. Is it possible it's the depression talking and once he stops this course of treatment he'll reconsider? I'll be thinking of both of you.
I asked him to please consider going back into therapy. He said most of his anxiety comes from thinking about how chemo is like pumping poison into his body.
This course is supposed to be for six months.
I'm so very sorry. As I said, I will keep both of you in my thoughts (and prayers).
Prayers. Call the hospital or dr and ask for a recommendation if YOU can talk to a social worker or counselor. Even if your H doesn't want to talk about this you need to.
Big hugs. Is it possible it's the depression talking and once he stops this course of treatment he'll reconsider? I'll be thinking of both of you.
I asked him to please consider going back into therapy. He said most of his anxiety comes from thinking about how chemo is like pumping poison into his body.
This course is supposed to be for six months.
This was going to be my suggestion. It's such a huge decision that shouldn't be made without any help, and without seeking every possible means of help. Hearing where his anxiety is coming from, a therapist versed in serious illness might be able to help him through it. I do hope it's the depression talking. ((((((hugs))))))
I'm so sorry. I agree with pp, maybe see if there's someone you can talk to just if nothing else so you have someplace(in addition to all of us) to get everything out.
I am so so sorry you're both having to go through this. It's not fair.
This is really common in people with cancer/illness with lengthy treatments. They are sick and tired of being sick and tired. You mentioned that he's depressed. He needs to see someone. I would approach him and say that you understand his decision, even though you may not like it. It must be hard to feel horribly miserable all the time. Before he quits treatment though, you would like him to speak with someone to help him and everyone process the effects of that. This isn't meant to change his mind, just to make full peace with it.
A good doctor (one who specializes in chronic/terminal illness) will recognize the depression and try to help him through it.
Again, hugs to you. I'm so sorry you're going through this.
THIS is exactly what I wanted to say!
What's his prognosis if he continues with the treatments? Does his oncologist think he's got a good shot at remission and/or a complete cure?
I'm so sorry you two have to deal with this, I can only imagine how difficult it is for you.