I'm so sorry. I know how hard this can be for everyone involved-- when my SIL opted to stop treatment last year, it was hard not to be frustrated. Not that we didn't understand her reasons, just that we had selfish reasons of our own to want her to continue.
It's awful all around. Your whole family will be in my thoughts.
Post by sparkythelawyer on Aug 14, 2014 9:00:53 GMT -5
Aw His. I am so sorry that you guys even have to have this discussion. I hope that you guys come to some resolution here. Your husband has so much to fight for, I hope he is able to pus through.
Fuck cancer right in the ass, man. I'm sorry His. You are both in my thoughts and prayers. I hope the meeting with your priest helps a little bit...I mean, I know nothing will help but, you know what I mean.
Post by Ohhmm(bligo) on Aug 14, 2014 9:56:59 GMT -5
(((((his))))) You two and your family will be in my family's, and GBCN/their families as a whole's, thoughts. I hope you can feel us and take some comfort in it. We are with you.
"You. You and your crazy life. You and your geographic anomaly. You and your drunken lesbianic ways and terrible navigational skills." - ProfArt and her holy baby
Oh man. Fuck Cancer. I am so sorry that you and your DH are having to deal with this. Hopefully things will settle down for him, and maybe he will change his mind. I am so very sorry.
Total lurker here, but you seem open to advice from everyone, so I hope this comes across as helpful and not intrusive.
My father made the decision to stop treatment, and it was hard, but he did have terminal cancer with an extremely low survival rate. He also had run out of options.
Have you both looked into support groups or other resources that might connect you with people in your similar situation? Not necessarily counselling, but just someone you can go to and talk from the heart about exactly what's going on and have them 1) understand fully and 2) maybe have been through it themselves? I've found great comfort in finding those people since my dad has passed, and wish I'd found them sooner. (He had a different kind of cancer, so the program we used wouldn't be helpful, otherwise I'd send you the resources).
Cancer sucks. I hope you both can find a solution that works and that he's around for many more happy, healthy years to come.
Post by wrathofkuus on Aug 14, 2014 12:30:26 GMT -5
Would he be willing to try nonwestern medicine instead? I know, most of that is hokum, but at worst you might get a good remission due to the placebo effect, right?
His. (((hugs)))) Has he thought this way before? I know it has to be hell.
(I know this is not the same; but ds2 had no relief from Zofran; but a lot from the scopolamine patches. don't know if you guys have had those).
I haven't even gotten past the first page, but like Sue Sue's son, Zofran didn't work for me. Phenergan suppositories worked best for me. I have also tried the scopolamine patches and one that was THC-based (I forget the name). I hope your H find something that works for him. {{{hugs}}}