Post by discogranny on Aug 17, 2014 23:00:26 GMT -5
I accidentally clicked here instead of H&F and saw this. I am so sorry for your loss awick14. Be kind to yourself and grieve however you need to. Hugs to you.
The only do "fit ins" after 3 pm. They are already booked for this week. So my only option is after 3 pm sometime this week or wait it out. If I start bleeding more I will go back and fight for it sooner because they only way to do testing is if they remove the baby. And because this is our third loss we are going to start the process for re-occurrent miscarriages, and we need the baby for the genetic testing.
(Reading this back it seems very insensitive, and if it offends anyone I am very sorry. This is just the only way I can think of it right now. I need answers and this will hopefully help me get there.)
ETA: it was supposed to be done tonight, Sunday. Now it's being done Monday.
Trying for #3; FET 8/18 -- BFN. Leaving things up to chance for now... After three years, three IVFs, and two FETs, we finally have our miracle babIES!
Post by rachelgreen on Aug 18, 2014 5:45:43 GMT -5
NO!! I'm so sorry awick! This is just not fair. And seriously, fuck them for the insensitivity. I've never heard of a hospital not making a D&C a priority after a loss.
I just saw this. I am so sorry, I was thinking about you all weekend. Please know that you are not alone. I know how hard this time is so please be kind to yourself. Hugs to you
I'm just now seeing this awick14. My heart is breaking so hard for you and your DH right now. I'm so so sorry for your loss. This sucks and is not fair. But like PP said, you ARE already a mom and you WILL have a baby in your arms someday. We're all here for you and I will continue to keep you in my prayers until that day comes.
As for the D&C- I'm really sorry. I know how hard and frustrating that wait is and it's completely insensitive. I had to wait an entire week after my first loss and it was torture. Praying today goes smoothly for you. You are not being insensitive about wanting a D&C as soon as possible...you need closure and you need answers. Praying you get some this time around.
FWIW, we didn't get the chance to test our first two babies but did the RPL panel...it came back unexplained. The only change made this time was baby aspirin and progesterone shots (we did progesterone the 2nd pg as well)...I truly believe the baby aspirin is a huge factor and know that others on this board feel it was a miracle for them.
So many ((hugs)) my friend. Please PM me if you need anything.
This is so unfair for you to go thru. I hope they can still get you in today. You are not at all being insensitive. I hope you do get answers from the testing and that the Dr's are nice to you thru this.
I'm so sorry. I know that feeling of "I'm not meant to be a mom" all too well and it's a very sad and lonely thought to have. Take it easy and be kind to yourself. And there is no way that wanting to have the D&C ASAP is insensitive. What got me through my two mc was immediately looking into what to do next to try again. For me it was a way to move on and cope. I totally understand why you would not want to wait and why you would want to get this baby tested.
I am so sorry. I had a miscarriage and failed IVF cycle before successfully giving birth. counseling helped me navigate my options and learn to move forward. Thinking of you and your family...
@astrid- my last D&C was a very easy recovery and I think that's a big reason why I pushed for it this time instead of the meds. I will be contacting my therapist soon,
I hope you can get some physical closure soon awick14. As if this isn't already hard enough, they need to get you in for a D&C and not make you wait any longer! Still praying for you and your H.
Post by luv2rn4fun on Aug 18, 2014 12:42:28 GMT -5
Cannot stop thinking of you today awick14. I really hope you get your D&C soon and you can start healing. I'm glad to hear you are contacting your therapist...hope that he/she can get you in soon and hopefully your DH will be willing to join you so you guys can navigate the healing journey and moving forward together. So many ((hugs)) I'm here if you need anything.