Post by narockshard on Aug 20, 2014 13:35:29 GMT -5
I can't see the poll, but we're basically open to whatever at this point. Ideally 4-6. My husband and I come from big families and LOVE it. Having a million siblings especially when you're older has been the best thing ever.
Post by curbsideprophet on Aug 20, 2014 13:42:35 GMT -5
There is a good chance we are done at two. We might consider one more but I am already AMA so we don't have a ton of time if we really want another.
My mom is one of five. I love holidays with her family. It can be loud and chaotic at time, but so much fun too. There is a part of me that wants something like that when I am older. However not sure I want 3-5 kids of my own right now in order to get there. How we hope things will be when everyone is older was a consideration for having a second. We thought it was at least worth trying for.
I voted 3. Ideally I want 2 right now. We have 3 embryos left and plan to use them all so I assume we will have 3 total, possibly 4 if we end up with twins this next time.
Post by fortnightlily on Aug 20, 2014 14:01:50 GMT -5
I said 1, because that's how many we have right now (DS is 11 mo) and I'm heavily on the fence about more. I never pictured myself with just one, and am sad at the abstract idea of it, but the risks and logistics of having a second seem sort of insurmountable right now.
OAD here. DH's vasectomy was done before I went back from ML.
That said, I think if DH was younger he may have been ok with 2, but when you have your first at 40, well it's a bit different. I've always been a 0 or 1.
If we have a girl next, I'm maybe 97% sure we'll be done with two. I'll be 35 for the next planned pregnancy, and would like to SAH until our youngest is ready for preschool. Having a third would mean venturing even further into AMA territory, and staying out of the workforce longer (or reevaluating my desire to SAH, because three kids...home...just me...I don't know if we would all survive that).
If we have a second boy, the probability that we'll be done with two does dip a bit...I'd like to have both...but it's still like 80% sure we'll be done with two.
We are not sure if we'll stop at two or have a third. It's going to be a really, really hard decision, and if we do it probably won't be at least until C is in kindergarten.
This is us. We both kind of want three, but financially, I have no idea if it is even remotely wise.
Checking in here. I go back and forth daily. I won't even try until late next year, so we have some more time to think about it.
I voted two. We have one right now, and he's perfect, and I thought I wanted another, but now I'm on the fence. It doesn't help that DH is on the fence as well. Right now we're in the 'if it ain't broke, don't fix it' camp.
In my mind I know I want more, but I can't conceptualize life with two right now. Still adjusting to one!
I debate two or three all the time. I'm the oldest of three. H is second of four. Two feels incomplete to me somehow, though I don't know how three would work out for me age-wise, plus the cost of raising three plus maintaining the lifestyle we like seems crazy.
Probably two. Right now H feels like OAD is the way to go, but he used to say three or four.
We are not sure if we'll stop at two or have a third. It's going to be a really, really hard decision, and if we do it probably won't be at least until C is in kindergarten.
This is exactly where we are. Regardless of our decision, it is going to be a really tough decision to make.
Four. Maybe five, we'll see. Number 2 is on the way and I am done working after this one comes. We plan on Montessori preschool, but after that public. Our house is large enough for them all, so no upgrades needed there.
When we got married we both thought we wanted 4-6. I still do, but for some reason I can only picture having two. I know that doesn't mean anything, but it's a change from how I pictured the future before. I really hated being pregnant, so the thought of 27-45 more months of pregnancy is awful.
My first is only 5 weeks old, so we'll reevaluate in a while!