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[trixiedicksnatch]

Do you have children?

Did your health issues affect your decision/ability to have kids?

Does your health affect your parenting?


For me I have have one bio dd 6 mo and three sks 10, 7, 4

I worried about my meds and pregnancy but I have always wanted children. We adjusted my my meds, but pregnancy was horrible for me.

My headaches make it really hard to deal with my dd. the older kids can entertain themselves but I always have to be on for my dd. and fi is gone for work 3-9 weeks at a time for work so that can be really tough.

[kirra]

No kids.

I made the decision not to have children because of my health problems.

Today my cardiologist told me she didn't think we could ever stabilize me enough to sustain a pregnancy. That still hurts to hear, even though I made the damn decision and had my fucking tubes tied.

[panicked]

I have an almost 4 year old daughter. I didn't show any symptoms of Celiac/IBS until last year, so it didn't affect my decision at all. We are fairly certain to be 1 and done, but that's more based on her infancy (horrible colic) than my medical history. I do worry about the increased m/c rate in Celiacs, if we do decide to have more children.
I have my good days and bad, so I think it affects my parenting to a point, but at this stage, it's not horrible.

[bcv513]

We don't have children yet.

We had to hold off on TTC until we got the okay from my doctors. I had to be in a solid remission. We got the okay, and then a month later it was pulled back because the meds made my liver all crazy. We got that sorted out and now we have the okay again.

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I have 2 children that I had before all of my recent issues.

I do feel like my health affects how I parent.  I can no longer pick them up, run after them, or really do any sort of rough housing.  I feel like I'm missing out on things and it really sucks.  

We are supposed to go to an amusement park on Monday and I am debating if I should bring a cane since I know we will be walking a lot.  Or if I should just get a wheelchair.  I am worried my kids will be embarrassed to be seen with me

[greenscreen]

No kids. I always thought I might not have biological kids, and my health issues helped solidify that decision. Fortunately, my H is on the same page.

Adoption is still potentially on the table. I honestly don't know how I would manage fatigue and kids.

[greenscreen]

Aug 22, 2014 14:19:48 GMT -5 calamity said:

I have 2 children that I had before all of my recent issues.

I do feel like my health affects how I parent.  I can no longer pick them up, run after them, or really do any sort of rough housing.  I feel like I'm missing out on things and it really sucks.  

We are supposed to go to an amusement park on Monday and I am debating if I should bring a cane since I know we will be walking a lot.  Or if I should just get a wheelchair.  I am worried my kids will be embarrassed to be seen with me

I just wanted to respond because my Dad started using a wheelchair when I was a kid. My younger brother's and I were never embarrassed. Of course there were times when it was tough for everyone, but I'm sure your kids will just be happy to have you there enjoying the park.

[Alex]

No living children. 6 losses, ranging from 8 to 18 weeks.
It's been 9 years since we started TTC. We are done now because my husband is done. He has moved on from this stage in our life and I have no choice but to move on as well. I'm still trying to accept it. It's a process.

[kirra]

Aug 22, 2014 14:19:48 GMT -5 calamity said:

I have 2 children that I had before all of my recent issues.

I do feel like my health affects how I parent.  I can no longer pick them up, run after them, or really do any sort of rough housing.  I feel like I'm missing out on things and it really sucks.  

We are supposed to go to an amusement park on Monday and I am debating if I should bring a cane since I know we will be walking a lot.  Or if I should just get a wheelchair.  I am worried my kids will be embarrassed to be seen with me

Get the wheelchair. I've learned that when in doubt, always opt for the wheelchair.

It will be so much better to be able to do everything the kids want to do instead of having to say sorry, but I just can't stay on my feet any longer.

I'm sorry you're having to deal with this I know it's so hard for me to decide to get the damn wheelchair, and I don't have any kids to worry about their feelings.

[Alex]

Aug 24, 2014 10:00:42 GMT -5 carrotsmakemefat said:

Aug 23, 2014 15:46:05 GMT -5 Alex said:

No living children. 6 losses, ranging from 8 to 18 weeks.
It's been 9 years since we started TTC. We are done now because my husband is done. He has moved on from this stage in our life and I have no choice but to move on as well. I'm still trying to accept it. It's a process.

Big hugs to you

Thank you

[caramia]

Not yet. I just had a miscarriage last month but we plan to try again soon. I'm so worried about my kids having health issues too, but I feel like I need to try.

[cinnamoncox]

I have three children. A teen and twin 4 year olds. My issues effect them in the sense that sometimes my pain levels are extra high so we snuggle and watch a movie.
Or if I worked a lot or have done too much physical stuff, I have to lay on couch and dh makes dinner etc.

So it may be effecting them in ways I don't know about, but I have always just trudged on because I am so worried about them only having memories of me saying we can't do something on account of my pain or whatever, that I just do anything (within reason, some physical stuff is out of the question) and then cry at night or when they aren't looking.

I've always as long as I can remember been afraid or reluctant to discuss my mental health with my therapist because I have this huge fear one day of someone taking my kids away because they deem me unfit.
She constantly reassures me that anxiety isn't a reason to lose ones kids, but I'm anxious, I think about this stuff.

[wanderlustmom]

Big hugs to everyone. We have two kids, a seven year old daughter and nine year old son. I have Hashimoto's and was followed more closely during pregnancy

[katie]

1 child

i think my interstitial cystitis (IC) may have hindered TTC because too much such sex would become painful. A pond by too much I mean 3xs in a week. I was scared of the aftermath of birthing a child but it ended up better than I thought. 

Yes, it does affect my parenting at times. PPD really kicked my ass and just my normal  depression/anxiety  can get in the way. Right now my stomach issues are affecting me, I'm just not feeling well and its tough. Plus she doesn't STTN so that doesn't help. 

I loved pregnancy although it ugh it was kind of rough. But my mental health during that time was just awesome. I wish I could bottle whatever was going through me. I have never been happier.