Post by sillygoosegirl on Aug 27, 2014 2:17:02 GMT -5
I asked my midwife about sleeping on my back today, and I wish I hadn't. She told me not to sleep on my back anymore. So here I am trying to get comfortable on my side, and every goddamn thing hurts. My hip hurts, my shoulder hurts, the base of my ribcage hurts, I think my feet are tingling. This sucks. I've propped myself here and there with pillows like the Internet suggests, but it's not helping very much. It's hard to believe that it could be good for the baby for me to be still awake at this time of night. :-(
Someone filed some comments/questions on a bug reporting system, on bugs I am responsible for, between 20-24 hours ago.
I just got an email from said person, asking me why I hadn't yet responded to their comments.
Dude, give me at least a full frakking day to respond to these things, OK? Holy crap. This is _not_ the only project on my plate right now! Nor are these bugs even the only things on this project I am responsible for...
I asked my midwife about sleeping on my back today, and I wish I hadn't. She told me not to sleep on my back anymore. So here I am trying to get comfortable on my side, and every goddamn thing hurts. My hip hurts, my shoulder hurts, the base of my ribcage hurts, I think my feet are tingling. This sucks. I've propped myself here and there with pillows like the Internet suggests, but it's not helping very much. It's hard to believe that it could be good for the baby for me to be still awake at this time of night.
I've found that sleeping on the couch helps, especially with my feet up and pillows behind me to keep me propped up. The only other thing that works for sleeping on my side is the Snoogle, with an extra pillow under the bottom hip.
I am a stomach sleeper, so I haven't been comfortable in months. No back sleeping once you reach 20ish weeks is pretty common knowledge though, or at least I thought? It puts pressure on the vena cava which affects the amount of blood the baby gets.
I sold something to the CEO of my company (Next dinner tickets for those in Chicago). They cost $1300. I am afraid I am going to have to hassle/remind my CEO for the money and how awkward is that?
I'm bored. I hurt my back/hip last week and haven't been able to sit or stand for almost a week, so I have just been lying in bed. I finished the entire series of Entourage, read the entire internet, online shopped, and now I am just bored.
Post by asoctoberfalls on Aug 27, 2014 11:42:50 GMT -5
We just listed our house last Friday, we've only had 4 showings, and I'm already sick of leaving the house. DS has been a bear because the showings interfere with his bedtime. The scheduled showing last night canceled last minute without telling us, so we left the house and kept DS up late for NO reason.
My favorite CW (who works in an office down the hall and is my sounding board/sanity check) got a new position. I am so happy for her, but I have a feeling my job will become truly intolerable without someone who sees the same issues I do and commiserates
Post by quickstepstar on Aug 27, 2014 14:59:14 GMT -5
We are supposed to pick up our new car tonight. DH was supposed to take care of financing, and I have no idea what happened with that so I don't actually know if we will pick it up or not. I am not holding my breath.
Also an MM confession: we financed for 60 months with embarrassingly little down.....
per three different HR officials at work (I wanted to be sure), our health insurance (even emergency coverage) doesn't start until the next pay period. I couldn't afford a 2-week gap so I'll have to fork over the cash and this probably means no wedding manolos.
I am aware this is a really stupid problem but I was excited, dammit.
I've been having a terrible time lately and I can honestly say that I wish my brother would die in a fire. I mean that literally. I will even supply the lighter fluid and marshmallows for roasting.
Never thought I could hate someone so much, but he is just the gift that keeps on giving.
Thank you for asking. No, not really okay. To make a long story short(er), my grandfather, when he died left half of his and my grandmother's house & property (20-some acres) to my brother and half to our dad. Maybe 10 years later, our grandmother, while she was still alive, wanted to move the deed entirely over to my dad so the taxes would be cheaper and so he could do some repairs (and my brother wasn't doing anything with it). Following a certain series of events, my brother decided to up the ante on being the biggest douche ever, and decided to basically hold the house/property hostage. Wouldn't speak to my dad or my grandmother before she died-- he made our 93 y/o grandmother cry over this.
There was some major damage done to the house several years ago and my dad has put in so much time and money in repairs (all of the money his parents left him and some of his own) and my brother wouldn't help at all or give the property fully to my dad. So he can't even sell the house, without my brother in agreement.
Last week, my mom told me that not only was my brother refusing to let our dad have the house, but he wants our dad to PAY him for his half of the deed. Over $50k. Yeah, my brother wants to make a profit off of our own father/grandparents. My dad has basically told me that we need to remove every.single.thing from the house, like we're the Grinch Who Stole Christmas, and he might just have to give up the house to my brother and let him deal with it.
This has been over 10 years now of his crap (well, all 33 of my years, really) and I am so sick of him either fucking or fucking over everyone in my family. My grandparents house/property is really special to my dad (and to me and my other siblings). This is killing my dad. He doesn't deserve this. My brother is the one who is a child-molesting monster. And I feel like I need to do something about it, because I feel somewhat responsible for unleashing my brother on everyone else.
So, every time I think I am able to move on from him (brother), something else happens and it brings everything back. Ugh. Hate him.
Sorry for the novel.
What? Why are you responsible for him?
I am sorry that your dad is dragged into this horrible position, but it isn't your cross to bear. Support your dad and just ignore your brother. Toxic people aren't worth your energy.
per three different HR officials at work (I wanted to be sure), our health insurance (even emergency coverage) doesn't start until the next pay period. I couldn't afford a 2-week gap so I'll have to fork over the cash and this probably means no wedding manolos.
I am aware this is a really stupid problem but I was excited, dammit.
per three different HR officials at work (I wanted to be sure), our health insurance (even emergency coverage) doesn't start until the next pay period. I couldn't afford a 2-week gap so I'll have to fork over the cash and this probably means no wedding manolos.
I am aware this is a really stupid problem but I was excited, dammit.
Aren't you still on your dad's insurance?
yep.
I guess I should have written "I couldn't afford risking a 2-week gap"
my dad's job isn't the most stable and the work available varies by season. if he is laid off, he loses his insurance. my meds are $10k/infusion (infusions are every other month and cannot be skipped or pushed back) and there's always the possibility of another emergency surgery if I stopped responding to the medicine.
Anyway, since it all started with me, I feel like I really need to do something about him. I am just so angry that he hurt and is hurting everyone else, who did nothing to him. As I'm sure you can tell, I have a lot of rage left towards him, hence the firey death wish. lol
Sweetie, I think you need to hear this and I tried not to quote too much. The abuse is always the choice and responsibility of the abuser. Just because you told the truth, fought back, whatever, doesn't make any of this your fault. It is 100% your brother's choice to do what he's done and 100% his resposibilty. You don't have to allow yourself to still be abused to protect others. Hugs.
It was absolutely pouring rain and my car broke down in the worst spot possible. Lots of traffic but no business for miles. I called my husband at work to tell him I was stranded on the side of the highway and needed him to come pick me up. His first response was "Sure, let me finish some things here and I'll be there in a few hours."
My mother lives about an hour away so I tried calling her instead. She answered the phone with "I can't chat, my show's on. I'll call you later." and hung up on me.
I called my husband back and explained a few hours wasn't acceptable but damn. My family sure knows how to make somebody feel like a priority.
I stubbed my pinky toe and now my nail is hanging on by only one side. Like, I can completely flip it straight up. I tried to pull and clip it off but it hurts too badly.
My quote feature is freaking out, so UnderProtest, I was the cause of the series of events that made my brother go off the deep end. I'm pretty sure I've talked about it on here before, but I will again and then delete. lol
Dig, It didn't start with you.....it started with HIM making really bad choices. YOU have nothing to do with his actions, then or now. Please stop taking responsibility for someone who isn't even taking responsibility for his own actions. You are worth more than that.
You didn't light the fuse. You aren't responsible for breaking the family unit, it was broken because of your brother. You didn't make it dysfunctional, it was already dysfunctional, just hiding it better than others. Please don't take on this burden or the burden of his future actions. Go talk to a therapist, you shouldn't be harboring this guilt for something horrible someone else did.