Post by teatimefor2 on Sept 16, 2014 22:21:35 GMT -5
They split, correct? Is that mentioned in the handbook? I would not pay anything. I would state that the daycare you had the contract with split making it null and void. Additionally, you choose to stay with 2/3 of the original providers.
They should have handled the split better, much better. But I don't think you owe money to one of the original three. Their split provided you with the choice between them and you have made your choice.
Post by 7costanza on Sept 16, 2014 22:26:01 GMT -5
So it's the same owners, just a New branch? Or the 2 you like are totally separating from the 1 you don't and opening an unrelated daycare? If it's a New branch and there is nothing written in your agreement I would not expect to pay any penalty. I think paying for the rest of this week is reasonable though. I'm curious to heat what others think.
Post by vanillacourage on Sept 16, 2014 22:27:29 GMT -5
I wouldn't give them notice or pay them anything. If they had handled the transition differently then yes, but it sounds like the poor planning is 100% on the partner you don't like.
If the only thing you have officially been told is that it is a new location (assuming same ownership/chain/etc.) I would absolutely not pay double. I would choose to move to the new location, and assume your payments would apply.
I would probably email all 3 of them and say that as of xx date (tomorrow, right?) you are choosing to send O to their new location.
She's trying to scare you to keep you. I would not put any trust in her account. Also, the fact that she split against the other 2 speaks volumes.
That said, do they have cameras in the old facility? I'd ask to see video footage of these "aggressive and rough" moments. If there are cameras and she can't provide examples, do not feel badly about continuing care in the new center.
I would stay with #2 for the time, but I would start looking for a new daycare. If you end up feeling comfortable and like 2, then you can stay there. If you don't feel comfortable, you have started the search and can move when a spot becomes available somewhere else. I would feel better starting the new search just to know what options I have if #2 does not work out.
I would not let crazy lady make you doubt the other two. It doesn't sound like 2 &3 are causing any drama, but trying to separate themselves from crazy lady and I would give it some time at daycare 2 with just them before doing anything. #2 doesn't sound dramatic- seems like all the drama is from place 1 and that lady
Post by Velar Fricative on Sept 17, 2014 10:45:05 GMT -5
Stick with #2 for now but put out feelers on other daycares to see what's out there in case you do consider taking him out. I get the hesitation of not wanting to switch daycare providers in this crazy city and this doesn't sound like a situation that warrants a complete switch.
THe fact that your son likes the 2 ladies and is happy there speaks volumes. My DCP was rough w/ the kids - as we eventually found out - and parents started cluing in (like me) when our kids didn't want to go there. And as with my son, threw a total SHITFIT about going.
If they were rough and mean to the kids, the kids would let you know in one way or another.
Ugh, guys this is the worst. My gut tells me lady #1 is totally cray, and pulled this card as a last resort when she saw we were all leaving. O loves the other two ladies and is thrilled to go to daycare every day. Most days, he doesn't want to come home w/ me. I've never seen the 2 nice ladies be anything but sweet and caring and the other parents all confirmed the same.
No doubt, their business practices need some help all around.
This is so stressful.
I suspect other ladies are ridding themselves of the drama in this case.
I would consider looking elsewhere but be fine with these two ladies for now.
Ugh I'm sorry you are dealing with this. Personally I would use daycare #2 for now but seriously look for a new daycare provider to completely get away from the drama.
Post by speckledfrog on Sept 17, 2014 12:50:03 GMT -5
I see. Then I would go with the second place and the two care givers you like. Give it a few weeks for the dust to settle and keep looking for a backup plan in case the crazy really ramps up. I would not leave him with the first lady because she does not seem capable of making good decisions at this point.
I'm in Carroll Gardens. Will gladly take any recs you have.
That's where my husband grew up, great neighborhood! We're in Bay Ridge now- not sure if you're willing to go that far, but if you are, we go to Little Hands & Feet Daycare. We love all the caregivers there.
Honestly, I think your response to Lady #1 should have been, "How dare you not provide that information before this? What gives you the right to withhold information regarding the care of my child? I want to know exactly what you have seen to support these claims and I want to know right now." Then I'd watch her flounder.
I'd find new care and get out of the drama if at all possible.
That's where my husband grew up, great neighborhood! We're in Bay Ridge now- not sure if you're willing to go that far, but if you are, we go to Little Hands & Feet Daycare. We love all the caregivers there.
We love it here!! We looked at Bay Ridge when were were moving and strongly considered moving there! But, it is too far for daycare.
You should join our NYC MMM GTG this weekend!! PM me if you want details.
I figured it might be too much of a trek. Thanks for the invite, I've never been to a gtg! Unfortunately I'm going to be out of town this weekend, but would love to join in on the next one!
Post by badtzmaru22 on Sept 19, 2014 8:24:48 GMT -5
I don't know about the money, but DD goes to a licensed group family daycare in NYS, and even back up people have to be certified, so I'd probably call and report that. It is possible she has her boyfriend approved as a sub, but not likely. Our daycare has two ladies who run it, and the daughter of one of them is registered as a sub. They asked me to provide a recommendation, since she has babysat for DD in our home before.
Anyway, I know you're not going there anymore, and I hope there's something you can do about your deposit, but I'd still call and let the state know what's going on.
Post by ilikedonuts on Sept 19, 2014 8:27:49 GMT -5
I hope NO ONE sends their kids back and she's still fucked. She deserves it for being crazy. I have absolutely no advice on getting deposits and refunds though.
What does your contract say? Was the deposit specifically mentioned as refundable or non-refundable? (I can't remember if you said this already).