I'm so swamped - I got up to run this morning and it was so so nice outside. Perfect running weather. I have a bunch of things to get done at work and hopefully a dog walk with my neighbor this evening.
Kids are sleeping at camp grandma tonight. So I'm going to make something for dinner that none of them would eat and survey the carnage (landlord found where the yellow jackets are coming in and is trying some spray before calling the exterminator).
I was up late prepping stew and cleaning. It's all ready to take out of the fridge and pop in the crock pot. Wedding guy is coming over tonight for dinner. Our conversation last night actually seemed pretty normal, so I'm hopeful that any weirdness from the weekend is dissipating.
I was going to have a big productive night last night since H was gone. Nope! But I slept great and feel good today.
I got the infant seat all cleaned up. It had been on a shelf in the garage and I didn't realize how filthy it was. At some point I put it in a big trash bag so i thought it was in ok shape. It was so gross. But now it's like new so I'm feeling very accomplished for the day already.
It has been one hell of a week...I feel like we should all get a free pass to Saturday.
I'm stress eating - breakfast today was chips and queso dip! I'm back into a good workout groove, so I don't even care.
H did really well at his interview. He's been moved on to the next stage. I'm thrilled for him, and at the same time I'm conflicted...like it's hard to feel happy? I think I'm holding onto a lot more resentment than I thought.
Oh! Last night I went through and found lots of things to recycle, throw away, and donate. Including engagement pics of me and stbxh. I kept one, the only one where I could tear him out easily, because I think I look good in it. I also found a bunch more cards I didn't realize I still had and was able to recycle them. It feels nice to get rid of stuff.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 9, 2014 9:03:15 GMT -5
I got a 25% coupon for world market in my email. That bright pink chair may have to come home with me. But I'm still debating.
Xh has been talking to the new daycare about pricing and is pursuing me about having his cs modified because the new daycare costs so much less and he is only required to pay half. I've actually talked to the case worker and he made it sound like we can only change the order every two years. Xh is going to be pissed. And I feel guilty for getting about $200 a month more than I should.
I'm applying for a job. The deadline is next Wednesday. I already asked three people for letters of recommendation. And I can't find any motivation to work on my (super loooong) application.
Probably because the stupid academic job market means there's a 0.01% chance of getting the job.
I was up late prepping stew and cleaning. It's all ready to take out of the fridge and pop in the crock pot. Wedding guy is coming over tonight for dinner. Our conversation last night actually seemed pretty normal, so I'm hopeful that any weirdness from the weekend is dissipating.
gault and I went to this awesome Brew House last night and had fabulous beer and food. The only problem was when I got home I had a bad case of beer burps that lasted a good hour. That hindered my sleep.
Post by starrieskies on Oct 9, 2014 10:16:18 GMT -5
The thing is, Xh knows what the cs is without daycare expenses and he is only responsible for half of the daycare on top of that. So he knows that he's grossly overpaying, and he is not happy about it. He was expecting a change in the cs order and now that it's not happening he is accusing me of being greedy and taking more of his money than I am entitled to. I'm trying to tell myself that it makes up for the 6 months that he wasn't paying cs while I was sitting for him tube ready for me to file, but I still hear his voice in my head telling me that I'm being greedy... I don't want more than I am entitled to, I just want what is fair.
Wait a minute. How is the CO written? If it literally says, "half of daycare costs" and not a number, then that is what he pays. CS will not change, but the daycare number will.
If he wants to change the CO, he can pursue it. There is no reason for you to do so. He is a big boy who can look out for himself. If you feel guilty (because he is manipulating you to make this happen), then put it aside for DS by opening a savings acct for him like PS suggested or starting a 529.