I kind of hate the mindfuck that is charting and TTC. I told Calvin that I wasn't going to do it (chart, I mean) unless he participated a little, logged in himself when he wanted to know what was up, etc. He was the one who wanted to start charting right away, I wanted to be a little breezier about it. Now it's stressing me out too much to be the owner of the body that isn't "performing," i.e. giving neat data points that look like they're supposed to and doing things on the predicted schedule, plus being the one trying to interpret messy data points that don't look exactly like they're supposed to and give him the answers as to when, what, etc.
I also got pissed at him because this week was our opportunity for this month, and he's out of town for the whole week for work. By "out of town" I mean maybe 60-90 minutes away by car? So I told him, unfortunately, if you want this to have a shot at happening this month, you need to come home at least once or twice this week. He put it on me to pick the days, and I'm all... I DON'T FUCKING KNOW, YOU LOOK AT THE CHART (and maybe your schedule) AND SUGGEST SOME? Because I have no info besides what's in the chart with which to tell you what the one day is that you can come home surgical strike style and make it happen efficiently. As it turned out, I guessed wrong anyway, by about 2 days.
#ttcisnofun
Anyway, keweenawlove, that is definitely an AW. Well done.
I like all the winter coat talk in here. I've had the same heavy winter coat since sophomore year of high school. It's still in good shape, it's warm, and it fits, but I keep seeing these new pretty jackets out there and DAMMIT I WANT ONE. I'm on spending lockdown for the forseeable future while we work on getting a place to live and it's haaaaaaaaard.
Susie - If it makes you feel better, I never got those neat little data points that they would show you in the sample charts, but after a few months I could tell if/when the temperature was going to shift. I think you can do both - chart and be breezy, but it takes some time to get there.
Maybe flameful? I have a good friend (male) who has a 2 year old with his wife. I've been friends with them for 5-6 years and they are lovely people. But in the last year or so, they've started hosting parties at their house about every 2 months. They always follow the same format - everyone shows up and watches the toddler play for a bit, makes polite but awkward conversation. Usually there is a light appetizer served and a glass of wine. Eventually kid goes to bed and we make more polite conversation, play a game, and maybe have a second glass of wine. Then dessert is brought out. Then we all go home.
Most of the people invited work together (and I used to work with them all, too) and they are all lovely individuals. But nobody knows each other well and the formality of the parties, coupled with the "entertainment" being the kid, just make things awkard. My friend is not the best host, and it just is never fun. It's hard to explain WHY since everyone is nice, and I like everyone individually, but somehow things don't mesh. Few laughs, stilted conversation.
He invited us over next weekend for another of these parties, and I declined saying we already had plans. Really, BF and I had just talked about doing something fun together, possibly go to a haunted house, because he'll have just turned in a paper and finished 2 big tests and it will be the first time in a few weeks we can really relax and just have fun. And we don't want to waste it at a not-fun party. But I feel kind of like a jerk because I rarely see my friend anymore, he's been a wonderful friend over the years, and I feel like showing up to his parties is something I should do to be a good friend to him. And our plans are not "set" plans that we can't change, we just don't want to.
Susie - If it makes you feel better, I never got those neat little data points that they would show you in the sample charts, but after a few months I could tell if/when the temperature was going to shift. I think you can do both - chart and be breezy, but it takes some time to get there.
Yeah, I think we just got unlucky this month, that he was supposed to be gone the entire week. It put a lot of extra pressure on knowing/predicting exactly what my body would do, without a ton to go on.
Susie I had the same issue. I never had that perfect curve, esp since I O really early in my cycle. FWIW DH's TTC plan was daily sex, lol. He's lucky that we got PG our first real month of that trying. (ETA: I started charting after my mirena came out, but we didn't TTC until a few months after that, so I could get an idea beforehand.)
Awkward my winter pea coat is from 2005. I asked for a new coat for my birthday last year, but DH never ended up getting me anything.
I really don't understand how any of this is possible. Maybe your definition of winter coat is different from mine? This is one of those things that's a necessity, not a want.
I don't own a coat. Period. If it is really, really cold in the winter and I need to be outside for an extended period of time, I'll borrow something from MH. Otherwise, I have a zipper hoodie that I wear. I HATE the cold and do everything in my power to not go out in it, so have never really felt a need to buy a coat, but I'm realizing that even if it is only for a few times each winter, I should probably own one. Same deal with why I finally broke down and bought boots. I essentially killed my Uggs wearing them out in the weather last winter, so I figured it was time LOL
What is your definition of northeast? I can't imagine not having a winter coat!
Signed, wearing a fleece jacket sitting at my desk because I'm freezing in just a long sleeved tunic.
superduper, that does not compute! But no wonder you hate winter. The adage that "there's no such thing as bad weather, just inappropriate clothing" might be a slight stretch, but there is a lot of truth to it! GET YOURSELF A COAT! And a hat, and gloves, and all that jazz. It won't be balmy, but it'll suck a LOT LESS.
What is your definition of northeast? I can't imagine not having a winter coat!
Signed, wearing a fleece jacket sitting at my desk because I'm freezing in just a long sleeved tunic.
Not like New England, thank God, I would die! LOL I live near Philadelphia.
Ok, I live right outside Philly, and I own a down jacket, a dress coat, a leather jacket, and a suede coat, all of which are "winter coats". You are crazy for not having ONE!
I like all the winter coat talk in here. I've had the same heavy winter coat since sophomore year of high school. It's still in good shape, it's warm, and it fits, but I keep seeing these new pretty jackets out there and DAMMIT I WANT ONE. I'm on spending lockdown for the forseeable future while we work on getting a place to live and it's haaaaaaaaard.
Holy shit woman, talk about deserving a new coat! Get your FI or parents to get you one for Christmas at least!
I have a newer pea coat, it's just my ski jacket that's old. And per that "things I will never do again" thread, I do not ski, but I wear it when it's super duper cold or if I'm going to be out shoveling snow or something. I only wear it a dozen or so times a year so I have a hard time justifying it.
I posted a while back that I entered one of my cats when her shelter requested "alumni" photos for a calendar photo shoot. Then we had to take her to the vet a few days later and she flipped out in the car, so I said that I'd probably have to cancel if they offered to put her in the calendar.
They never even responded to my email one way or the other, and the calendar is now available. I'm pissed that we weren't contacted. She's cute, damn it.
I really don't understand how any of this is possible. Maybe your definition of winter coat is different from mine? This is one of those things that's a necessity, not a want.
I don't own a coat. Period. If it is really, really cold in the winter and I need to be outside for an extended period of time, I'll borrow something from MH. Otherwise, I have a zipper hoodie that I wear. I HATE the cold and do everything in my power to not go out in it, so have never really felt a need to buy a coat, but I'm realizing that even if it is only for a few times each winter, I should probably own one. Same deal with why I finally broke down and bought boots. I essentially killed my Uggs wearing them out in the weather last winter, so I figured it was time LOL
Does not compute.
Although, I've lived in North Dakota all my life, so not having a winter coat is not something that is easy for me to wrap my head around.
I don't understand why so many people here have no coats, coats from the late 90s, coats handed down to them by their H's cousin's roommate, etc. There are plenty of cute winter coats out there for reasonable prices. If money is too tight for a new coat, chances are still good that you could find one at a thrift store that at least fits and would beat borrowing your H's or going without.
I find this even stranger than the shoe posts where people claim to only own a single pair of shoes (generally black clogs or orthopedic sandals), which they have worn for 7.5 years and are "still in great shape."
I really don't understand how any of this is possible. Maybe your definition of winter coat is different from mine? This is one of those things that's a necessity, not a want.
I don't own a coat. Period. If it is really, really cold in the winter and I need to be outside for an extended period of time, I'll borrow something from MH. Otherwise, I have a zipper hoodie that I wear. I HATE the cold and do everything in my power to not go out in it, so have never really felt a need to buy a coat, but I'm realizing that even if it is only for a few times each winter, I should probably own one. Same deal with why I finally broke down and bought boots. I essentially killed my Uggs wearing them out in the weather last winter, so I figured it was time LOL
So, you just don't leave your home and only go outside a few times a year during the cold season?!?! How do you manage this?
Dudes, all of my coats are from Goodwill and another local thrift store. Off the top of my head I got a London Fog short trench for $10 with tags, a Vera Wang (Kohl's) puffy coat for $5 (looks brand new), and a Merona (Target) pea coat for $5 with tags.
I have a total bragplaint. I went to give blood today and got turned away for not weighing enough. You try to do some good dammit.
You've just reminded me that it's been way too long since the last time I donated blood, so I should go do that today, and god knows I've put on enough weight that I could probably cover the donation for the both of us.
Post by dancingirl21 on Oct 24, 2014 12:32:25 GMT -5
I am wearing the Target tunic to work today. But it's black and I paired it with classic grey work pants and heels so I'm fancying it up. And it's Friday. This is how I'm justifying basically wearing a sweatshirt to the office.
So, you just don't leave your home and only go outside a few times a year during the cold season?!?! How do you manage this?
I go out! LOL I just won't do anything that requires me to be outside for an extended period of time if I can avoid it. Most of my time is spent going from house to car to work to house to store and so on and so forth. I've just never worn a coat when being outside for such a short time.
Of course, MM has shamed me and I will be buying a coat before winter sets in here
But seriously, how did you survive polar vortex winter last year without a coat? My car is freezing in the morning, and even walking from my car into work is cold!
Speaking of winter coats, not only is mine at least 10 years old, it's a men's coat similar to this www.llbean.com/llb/shop/32937?feat=593-GN1&page=warm-up-jacket-fleece-lined. I see no reason to replace it anytime soon, especially now that I live in Texas and will probably only wear it visiting relatives in colder places. I've never found a women's jacket that I like, not that I've looked very hard because I hate clothes shopping.
And superduper, since I know you're concerned about money, do check out thrift shops for a coat. I bet you can find one that will last you at least a couple of years, and you can reward yourself with a better one once you're out of debt.
Sorry, I totally get your frustration. Although the roles were kind of reversed for us - I was the one who wanted to do OPKs and my H didn't want the pressure. But it is a frustratingly inexact science.
You've given me a good confession: this pg was conceived while my husband was on a business trip ~90 min away. I got a positive OPK and drove there after work, stayed overnight in the hotel and went to breakfast with him, then drove back home and to work the next morning. It's kind of funny to think that his work was paying for the room...
But yeah, I have to agree that TTC sucks. Hopefully it will happen for you soon and you can move on. It's tough. GL.
lol, Poppy. We did the opposite: no one was in the hotel room that his work was paying for one night I couldn't leave our two dogs at home, so he had to be the one to drive.
Maybe we'll get lucky, I guess we'll see. Timing wasn't ideal, but it's not impossible. I'm just feeling a lot of pressure because a little less than 12 months from now I need to be able to make a 500 mile road trip, round trip, for my brother's wedding, and that is looming large (maybe more so than it should) in my worries about timing this pregnancy. The little field in FF that says ""If you conceived this cycle your due date would be: July 14, 2015" is kind of my enemy. Too far in the future, I can't worry about that now!