I don't really have anything too amazing. One of my coworkers is gone in Europe and I think when she gets back she's going to talk to our branch manager about becoming a financial advisor (she's an assistant to him now). He asked the opinion of me and the other woman financial advisor in our office when we were in St. Louis. Honestly I don't think she's ready, maybe doesn't have what it takes, and it's definitely not the right time for her. Her knowledge and confidence with clients isn't exactly there. She dresses like she's going out to a club sometimes and she's only working 20 hours a week because she had a baby a year ago. She's also a wedding coordinator on the side (and she's REALLY good at it). I guess I just don't see her in this role because it's so difficult even when you've got all of the tools. So I said that. I don't want to squelch her career, I just was being honest because he asked.
I was texting with this cute cowboy last night who I went to lunch with (business related) a few weeks ago. He is 33, divorced for about a year, no kids, and has his MBA and lives on 10 acres outside of town. The biggest thing I noticed about him is how SWEET he is. I know him from back him and he still has those values. I told him about how I was having to leave work a lot because of P. He was like "hey, if you ever get in a bind I could pick him up for you; my schedule is flexible". I would never have him do that of course but I thought it was sweet to offer (and I didn't take it creepy because we are old friends from back home). So last night I was subtly saying that I was moving on Saturday and he totally offered to come over with his trailer to help for the entire afternoon. I LOVE that. And I took him up on his offer. So I guess my subtle hint worked.
Post by hungrycaterpillar on Oct 24, 2014 8:35:37 GMT -5
I don't know that this is really all that flameful because I didn't act on it but...
On the last day of my rotation the rehab doctor for my floor pulled me aside in a patient's room (WTF, doctor) and put his number in my scrubs. I really felt like calling him but didn't think it would be the professional thing to do so I didn't act on it. The number is still sitting on my desk... I should probably throw it away.
I don't know that this is really all that flameful because I didn't act on it but...
On the last day of my rotation the rehab doctor for my floor pulled me aside in a patient's room (WTF, doctor) and put his number in my scrubs. I really felt like calling him but didn't think it would be the professional thing to do so I didn't act on it. The number is still sitting on my desk... I should probably throw it away.
IDK. If you aren't working with him directly anymore... what's the harm?
I don't know that this is really all that flameful because I didn't act on it but...
On the last day of my rotation the rehab doctor for my floor pulled me aside in a patient's room (WTF, doctor) and put his number in my scrubs. I really felt like calling him but didn't think it would be the professional thing to do so I didn't act on it. The number is still sitting on my desk... I should probably throw it away.
IDK. If you aren't working with him directly anymore... what's the harm?
I loved that rotation. I can really see myself working at that hospital. My director told me to stay in contact with them and essentially said that if they had an opening that they would take me. If, and that's a big if, but IF I ended up working there in May I would be reporting directly to that physician since he is lead for the floor. I just didn't think it would be a good idea.
IDK. If you aren't working with him directly anymore... what's the harm?
I loved that rotation. I can really see myself working at that hospital. My director told me to stay in contact with them and essentially said that if they had an opening that they would take me. If, and that's a big if, but IF I ended up working there in May I would be reporting directly to that physician since he is lead for the floor. I just didn't think it would be a good idea.
Ah. I understand. Well, maybe keep it on hand in case you go to another hospital. Assuming you like him enough to date him...
Post by pantsoffdanceoff on Oct 24, 2014 8:50:33 GMT -5
I'm feeling lonely and I think I've waited too long to really put myself out there. I've been divorced for about a year and a half and separated for over 2 years and I've only kissed one guy, and not even with tongue. So today I am re-doing my OKC profile and creating a tinder profile. I will be posting some pictures later and putting them to a vote on which ones I should include.
I just found out that XH is moving halfway around the world, and this makes me sad.
We had dinner with some mutual friends earlier this week, and it was great to catch up and so much fun. There are some very real reasons we got married in the first place and decided to stay friends, so I'm having all the normal "my friend is moving away" feelings. But when I say that, most people will think it's weird, because it's my XH.
I am so busy and so exhausted that I don't care anymore about anyone but me and S. I've literally told two "friends" in the past week to go fuck themselves (legit reasons).
I'm seeing RR in a long distance type dating thing since he works out of state for a week or two at a time. We had a semi-serious texting conversation last night about his job and how he's sorry because he can't see me often, and I didn't care. I told him as honest as I could be that when we have time for each other, I'd love to see each other, if not no harm done. Family comes first (his son and his dad who has dementia and cancer), then his job, and then if he wants to squeeze me in, I'm fine with it. It's kind of funny because normally I'm very demanding in a relationship. VERY. It's all about me. This time it isn't and I'm relieved! I'm making it as little about me as possible and I am 100% okay with it, right now. Maybe therapy is really breaking ground with my BPD and trying to find the balance of normal. The funny thing about it all though? I really like this guy. We both have huge stone walls built around us and they're coming down slowly on both ends. It's entertaining and really nice when I could see his come down brick by brick. It's really fun and I'm enjoying it.
But if this doesn't work, I have no intention of opening an OKC acct or going back on Match or Eharmony. I'm ready to hibernate for a while if this doesn't work out. And I mean this will all of my heart, and my vagina.
I just found out that XH is moving halfway around the world, and this makes me sad.
We had dinner with some mutual friends earlier this week, and it was great to catch up and so much fun. There are some very real reasons we got married in the first place and decided to stay friends, so I'm having all the normal "my friend is moving away" feelings. But when I say that, most people will think it's weird, because it's my XH.
Where is he moving? This question might be flameful, but maybe it would be a great opportunity to travel and visit?
My high school boyfriend moved to Taiwan several years ago and I took that opportunity to travel and visit him. I stayed there for almost a month and it was amazing!!
I flaked on two coffee chats with a woman who is a current student at the startup school. I can't believe I forgot twice! She was so nice but if I were her I'd be so mad so I feel like shit. I'm taking her out for coffee and chocolate tomorrow to make up for it.
My long-standing crush on whole foods guy got elevated last night when he told me he liked my jacket and blushed. The FFFC part? His compliment alone made me feel less guilty about spending $130. On a hoodie. Thanks, lululemon.
I just found out that XH is moving halfway around the world, and this makes me sad.
We had dinner with some mutual friends earlier this week, and it was great to catch up and so much fun. There are some very real reasons we got married in the first place and decided to stay friends, so I'm having all the normal "my friend is moving away" feelings. But when I say that, most people will think it's weird, because it's my XH.
Where is he moving? This question might be flameful, but maybe it would be a great opportunity to travel and visit?
My high school boyfriend moved to Taiwan several years ago and I took that opportunity to travel and visit him. I stayed there for almost a month and it was amazing!!
San Francisco. I've been a few times, so I don't think it's really worth the 15-hour trip.
The bigger person in me is happy for him, because both his best friend and his sister have moved from India to the SF area fairly recently. So I'm sure he's excited to have them so close after all these years!
Post by DirtySouth on Oct 24, 2014 11:18:33 GMT -5
Date six with the guy who I thought might be still married (lol) is this weekend. A picnic at the lake. He is sweet and fun. I also was set up with someone by an old high school friend, and I'm going to a formal work event of his in a couple of weeks. I love dressing up and I love open bars, so I think it will be a good time.
Post by jojoandleo on Oct 24, 2014 12:14:56 GMT -5
I haven't had sex in two weeks. I've just been so tired and slightly depressed. I go to bed at 9 pm WAAAAY before H does. This is the longest we have ever gone without.
I am wearing a too-short-for-work t-shirt dress today. It's casual Friday! And I have been in a funk for MONTHS now. So, I wore a dress that makes me feel pretty and red lipstick. To work. To feel better. I actually have gotten multiple compliments on the lipstick. No one has commented on the length of my dress...
Last weekend TL and I had sex in our hotel room with the curtains open. It was amazingly hot sex, and afterwards he said he could see people across the courtyard watching us. Strangely I'm not bothered by it.
I just got curtains in my apartment a couple weeks ago after not having any for like 2.5 months lol. Buildings all surround my windows. I can see into my neighbours apartments so I know they can see into mine. Knowing that was always a little exciting. Alas, I did get curtains.
Last weekend TL and I had sex in our hotel room with the curtains open. It was amazingly hot sex, and afterwards he said he could see people across the courtyard watching us. Strangely I'm not bothered by it.
Not strange.
Signed, The lady who had sex on the back lawn of a bar. And who fantasizes about doing it in her office.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Oct 24, 2014 13:10:08 GMT -5
been exchanging messages on OKC w a cute baker .... he tells me he was in my town yesterday at the courthouse. today I'm online at the court to see why - someone's in divorce proceedings a mere 3 months ahead of me (no idea how long they've been separated).
yep, I'm that girl - online- checking divorce status.
been exchanging messages on OKC w a cute baker .... he tells me he was in my town yesterday at the courthouse. today I'm online at the court to see why - someone's in divorce proceedings a mere 3 months ahead of me (no idea how long they've been separated).
yep, I'm that girl - online- checking divorce status.
been exchanging messages on OKC w a cute baker .... he tells me he was in my town yesterday at the courthouse. today I'm online at the court to see why - someone's in divorce proceedings a mere 3 months ahead of me (no idea how long they've been separated).
yep, I'm that girl - online- checking divorce status.
STALKER!
J/K-I'd do it too.
not so much stalker as much as I don't want to get involved w/ someone who's got a whole lot of looming DRAMA ahead ! my bil/sil divorce has been drama, drama, drama .. thankfully mine so far (fingers crossed) has been drama free so far (knocks on wood for good measure!)
not so much stalker as much as I don't want to get involved w/ someone who's got a whole lot of looming DRAMA ahead ! my bil/sil divorce has been drama, drama, drama .. thankfully mine so far (fingers crossed) has been drama free so far (knocks on wood for good measure!)
LOL-I just remember someone getting called a stalker for looking up someone's divorce? I have the WORST memory about this shit. Sooo, I was making fun of that. (although, I think there was more involved? Like having a connection get info from the courthouse rather than just online, but some people thought looking up a divorce at all was creepy level. Or something. My joke is RUINED! RUINED I TELL YOU!)
Last weekend TL and I had sex in our hotel room with the curtains open. It was amazingly hot sex, and afterwards he said he could see people across the courtyard watching us. Strangely I'm not bothered by it.
BTDT as a carefree YOUNG20something lol
the best part, I'm still friends w/ the other party involved. he STILL remembers it quite vividly some 20 odd years later
been exchanging messages on OKC w a cute baker .... he tells me he was in my town yesterday at the courthouse. today I'm online at the court to see why - someone's in divorce proceedings a mere 3 months ahead of me (no idea how long they've been separated).
yep, I'm that girl - online- checking divorce status.
Are you going to get a copy of the decree too, when it's all said and done?