I absolutely changed my name back. I want no association with my ex at all. Unfortunately, when I was in the process of buying my house, my divorce wasn't final yet, so everything with my house, except for utility bills comes in my married name. I cringe when I see it. I'm getting remarried and I'm on the fence of changing it again, I like my maiden name and had a hard time changing it the first time, had a lot of pressure to change it from my MIL and my H, so I caved to appease them. I'm not sure if I want to go through the hassle of changing everything again... decisions decisions..
I am not divorced yet, however I have thought a lot about this. I have no connection to my bio father and my maiden name. It not common the way its pronounced doesn't match how its spelled and I just hate it. Therefore I will probably keep my married name.
I dunno. I might keep it then hyphenate when I remarry eventually.
When I married DH, I joked about hyphenating all my names, but still getting rid of my birth middle name. So my name would have been Firstname Maiden XH#1lastname XH#2lastname DHlastname. No one except me thought it was funny.
Post by sherbanator on Oct 29, 2014 23:34:34 GMT -5
The first time I got divorced I did not change my name back to my maiden name. This time I will change it back to my maiden name and have no intentions of ever changing it again.
I was planning to keep it. I was married for 8 years, and most of my professional life has been as my married name.
However, XH had a distinctly Indian name, and I don't look Indian at all. I kept finding myself in social situations having the conversation: "Oh, where is your name from?" "India." "Huh. ...Is your father Indian?" "No, my ex-husband is." "........"
I had no issues with it, but people just couldn't recover from that. I got annoyed with the ensuing awkward silence more than the questions. So I eventually changed it back.
I was planning to keep it. I was married for 8 years, and most of my professional life has been as my married name.
However, XH had a distinctly Indian name, and I don't look Indian at all. I kept finding myself in social situations having the conversation: "Oh, where is your name from?" "India." "Huh. ...Is your father Indian?" "No, my ex-husband is." "........"
I had no issues with it, but people just couldn't recover from that. I got annoyed with the ensuing awkward silence more than the questions. So I eventually changed it back.
Exactly my reasons for changing it - that conversation gets old
I was planning to keep it. I was married for 8 years, and most of my professional life has been as my married name.
However, XH had a distinctly Indian name, and I don't look Indian at all. I kept finding myself in social situations having the conversation: "Oh, where is your name from?" "India." "Huh. ...Is your father Indian?" "No, my ex-husband is." "........"
I had no issues with it, but people just couldn't recover from that. I got annoyed with the ensuing awkward silence more than the questions. So I eventually changed it back.
Exactly my reasons for changing it - that conversation gets old
I know! It's like, "Dude, if I minded talking about my ex-husband, I would have changed my name. How do you think it's socially okay to delve into my ancestry but not to hear that I'm divorced?"
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