I've recently started to realize that I attract people who like to play the victim. I can't figure out if it is because like attracts like or if I'm a colossal enabler. Neither of these qualities is good, and this makes me sad
Even the parents agree on this one. Like, I get why parents post PTing pics, even if they don't approve. But you do not need to post the actual blowout photo. Narration is plenty.
So why do parents post PTing pics? I don't get it at all. The thought occurred to me not a single time while DD1 was PTing.
Because your child's bodily functions consumed your life for years, and goddamnit you deserve credit for all the effort?
Again, it's NMS, but intellectually I do get why someone would be like THREE THOUSAND DIAPER CHANGES LATER, AT LONG LAST IT'S OVER, HERE IS THE VISUAL PROOF.
I know a girl whohas posted instagram pictures of two of her baby girl's blowouts. So so gross. She's a complete oversharer about everything to do with her kids, and I kind of can't look away. It's so bad.
The short version: apparently, she was BSC from the start, but hid it well we ignored it. She posted personally identifiable information about another poster and also threatened/joked about stabbing a separate poster in the neck. This was over a span of a few years.
The short version: apparently, she was BSC from the start, but hid it well. She posted personally identifiable information about another poster and also threatened/joked about stabbing a separate poster in the neck. This was over a span of a few years.
I'm not sure she hid it well.
Do you not remember her losing it on strangers in parking lots on more than one occasion?
The short version: apparently, she was BSC from the start, but hid it well. She posted personally identifiable information about another poster and also threatened/joked about stabbing a separate poster in the neck. This was over a span of a few years.
I'm not sure she hid it well.
Do you not remember her losing it on strangers in parking lots on more than one occasion?
Ahh yes, hence the phrase "to go all gypsy (on someone)". I will amend my statement.
I feel like most of my posts lately have been unpopular opinions. Apparently I'm particularly disagreeable when I have too much time on my hands
Working a menial job was fun for about 2 weeks. I just spent the last 2 hours filing and now I feel like stabbing someone in the neck. I get bored when I have nothing interesting to think about/challening to do. My life is not that difficult outside of work (I mostly do fun things and be lazy on my couch) so I start feeling like I'm wasting my life/not doing anything meaningfull or purposeful. I'd love to channel that into volunteering or some great hobby, but I don't get home until 6pm or after and I'm out of town so frequently on the weekends that I just don't think my availability fits into a volunteer commitment.
Plus it's nice to feel like you accomplished something at work and/or did a good job. I just did a good job filing, but it's hard to really feel any pride in that. And they weren't files I had any personal connection with, so I don't feel like I accomplished something.
I'm putting up my Christmas tree this weekend. Flameful, I know, but I just got rid of my storage unit and it's sitting in my living room. I won't be here for Thanksgiving, and I will be gone the day after Christmas. Also, I REALLY don't want to bring the tree downstairs because I'm lazy.
I feel like most of my posts lately have been unpopular opinions. Apparently I'm particularly disagreeable when I have too much time on my hands
Working a menial job was fun for about 2 weeks. I just spent the last 2 hours filing and now I feel like stabbing someone in the neck. I get bored when I have nothing interesting to think about/challening to do. My life is not that difficult outside of work (I mostly do fun things and be lazy on my couch) so I start feeling like I'm wasting my life/not doing anything meaningfull or purposeful. I'd love to channel that into volunteering or some great hobby, but I don't get home until 6pm or after and I'm out of town so frequently on the weekends that I just don't think my availability fits into a volunteer commitment.
Plus it's nice to feel like you accomplished something at work and/or did a good job. I just did a good job filing, but it's hard to really feel any pride in that. And they weren't files I had any personal connection with, so I don't feel like I accomplished something.
Yeah...you might want to rethink what you put in writing on GBCN. lol
I think its gross when people post pictures of their kids with food ALL over their faces here and on FB. I'm not talking a tiny bit of food or whatever, because I get kids are messy, but I gag when I see chocolate/cake/whatever all over their mouth/chin. Yuck, get that kid a napkin!
I'm going to be a topper today - I've had two friends post photos of diaper blowouts on FB. Â That is not funny at all. Â That is just gross and I should not have to log onto FB and see shit (literally) in my newsfeed. Â
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OMG that's at least one thing I haven't had to see yet although plenty of my friend write about it.
My girlfriends and I have a weekly email competition to see who has the craziest baby-related thing on fb. I almost always win (thank you, SoCal craziness). Who knew so many people think it's a cool idea to paint their pregnant bellies?! Everything from bible quotes to pastoral landscapes to, this week, pumpkins.
So why do parents post PTing pics? I don't get it at all. The thought occurred to me not a single time while DD1 was PTing.
Because your child's bodily functions consumed your life for years, and goddamnit you deserve credit for all the effort?
Again, it's NMS, but intellectually I do get why someone would be like THREE THOUSAND DIAPER CHANGES LATER, AT LONG LAST IT'S OVER, HERE IS THE VISUAL PROOF.
No. No no no no no no no.
If you even think for a second that you might want to post visual proof, you really should delete all of your social media accounts immediately to save yourself from you.
I'm going to be a topper today - I've had two friends post photos of diaper blowouts on FB. That is not funny at all. That is just gross and I should not have to log onto FB and see shit (literally) in my newsfeed.
OMG that's at least one thing I haven't had to see yet although plenty of my friend write about it.
My girlfriends and I have a weekly email competition to see who has the craziest baby-related thing on fb. I almost always win (thank you, SoCal craziness). Who knew so many people think it's a cool idea to paint their pregnant bellies?! Everything from bible quotes to pastoral landscapes to, this week, pumpkins.
Is this a DIY thing or like professional paintings? That's how I am picturing "pastoral landscapes". Who has the time for that?
OMG that's at least one thing I haven't had to see yet although plenty of my friend write about it.
My girlfriends and I have a weekly email competition to see who has the craziest baby-related thing on fb. I almost always win (thank you, SoCal craziness). Who knew so many people think it's a cool idea to paint their pregnant bellies?! Everything from bible quotes to pastoral landscapes to, this week, pumpkins.
Is this a DIY thing or like professional paintings? Â That's how I am picturing "pastoral landscapes". Â Who has the time for that?
So glad you asked, lol. The pastoral one was, in fact, done by a friend of the pregnant woman who was looking to start a business in such artistry. I couldn't make that up!
Another one: I think the gypsy drama was overblown. I get being upset about sharing personal information, and it was crappy how she lied and tried to make another poster look crazy. I understand why people don't like her and why she got run off the board. But I don't think that she was actually planning to physically harm anyone. Acting like that comment about stabbing a poster in the neck was in any way serious sounds pretty crazy to me. While I was reading the ML thread last night, my BF said to me "do you think I could skip turning in this paper if I went over to my professor's house and stabbed her tonight?". My BF is like the most non-violent person ever - it was hyperbole. He doesn't like the professor but obviously isn't going to murder her. It's just a silly expression. Admittedly, if you think about it it's probably not an expression we all should be in the habit of using. But running with it as though gypsy was a dangerous and violent psychopath is just dramatic.
I also hate the idea that anyone should base their friend choices on what someone on a message board thinks of them. The constant hounding about people being friends with her is just silly. Honestly, if my best friend told me she did that I'd probably question her about WHY, and tell her I didn't think it was cool, but our friendship is a little deeper than that. My best friend could murder someone and I'd still be her friend because I'd assume she'd had her reasons or was going through something that made her temporarily act like an asshole. I have never spoken to gypsy off board so I have no horse in this race, but it's annoying that posters I like are getting flak for doing something they have every right to make their own decision about doing.
Lastly - I hate it when former MM posters make comments about "I'm so glad I left MM!" or the like. It's so mean girl. It's the like former nerd who gets invited into the popular crowd in jr high and turns on her friends. MM has its quirks but it's filled with kind, smart, supportive women. If we're not your particular brand of fun anymore, you're welcome to leave but don't put us down when you have shared years of your life with us and received support, congratulations, and love from the people you are insulting. I post on other boards more frequently now just because there are more conversations there but it has nothing to do with the people on MM.
I feel like most of my posts lately have been unpopular opinions. Apparently I'm particularly disagreeable when I have too much time on my hands
Working a menial job was fun for about 2 weeks. I just spent the last 2 hours filing and now I feel like stabbing someone in the neck. I get bored when I have nothing interesting to think about/challening to do. My life is not that difficult outside of work (I mostly do fun things and be lazy on my couch) so I start feeling like I'm wasting my life/not doing anything meaningfull or purposeful. I'd love to channel that into volunteering or some great hobby, but I don't get home until 6pm or after and I'm out of town so frequently on the weekends that I just don't think my availability fits into a volunteer commitment.
Plus it's nice to feel like you accomplished something at work and/or did a good job. I just did a good job filing, but it's hard to really feel any pride in that. And they weren't files I had any personal connection with, so I don't feel like I accomplished something.
Yeah...you might want to rethink what you put in writing on GBCN. lol
Yeah, I put that there on purpose to be TIC. Don't worry, halfpint is the only person I could theoretically do that to at work and I like her
This is so me. My BFF and I constantly make over the top threats to each other (I can't wait until you die of diabetes, I hope someone burns down your house, etc) but its all in good fun. Maybe this is why I can't get worked up over the Gypsy thing, because I'm on her level of crazy.
I can't believe I have to point out the obvious difference here: Gypsy and I are not BFFs. She dislikes me and is demonstrably crazy.
now back to your minion talk, lol.
I'm not discounting your beef with Gypsy. I am just saying that, in reality, I say crap like that all the time, and not only about my BFFs or husband. It honestly never even occurred to me if I said something to a friend along the lines of "OMG, if my boss doesn't stop acting like such a jerk, I'm going to throat-punch him", that someone would take that seriously. Hence my wondering now how many people I've said something like that to who now think I am a total nutto.
So why do parents post PTing pics? I don't get it at all. The thought occurred to me not a single time while DD1 was PTing.
Because your child's bodily functions consumed your life for years, and goddamnit you deserve credit for all the effort?
Again, it's NMS, but intellectually I do get why someone would be like THREE THOUSAND DIAPER CHANGES LATER, AT LONG LAST IT'S OVER, HERE IS THE VISUAL PROOF.
Because your child's bodily functions consumed your life for years, and goddamnit you deserve credit for all the effort?
Again, it's NMS, but intellectually I do get why someone would be like THREE THOUSAND DIAPER CHANGES LATER, AT LONG LAST IT'S OVER, HERE IS THE VISUAL PROOF.
Nope. I still don't get it.
I look forward to 10 years later when they can't help but post visual proof of their daughters becoming women.
I look forward to 10 years later when they can't help but post visual proof of their daughters becoming women.
Oh god, no.
The only acceptable way to reference your kids' potty training on FB is with a "yay! no more diapers for X!" post. No pictures. <---not an unpopular opinion
I look forward to 10 years later when they can't help but post visual proof of their daughters becoming women.
Oh god, no.
The only acceptable way to reference your kids' potty training on FB is with a "yay! no more diapers for X!" post. No pictures. <---not an unpopular opinion
See, even that I think is unnecessary (save the milestone AWing for things like walking and words and first day of school and other clean family fun), but I am willing to agree to disagree on that. I am NOT willing to agree to disagree on the other point.
I work in a hybrid position between 2 departments. 1 had a halloween breakfast this morning and the other had a halloween pumpking-carving long lunch extravaganza. It is now 220pm, and I'm just now starting some work for the day, lol.
I was counting on there being Halloween donuts or cookies or at least some friggen candy brought in by someone in my department today. I guess everyone else was because there's nothing. Sad panda.
I like being called ma'am. I also like it when a guy calls me honey or baby. I don't find it degrading, but I can understand why some do.
I HATE "honey" or "baby," but I'm perfectly fine with "ma'am." I'm too old for "miss." Where I grew up, "ma'am" is simply the female equivalent of "sir." What else are you supposed to say when someone drops her scarf and you're trying to get her attention to give it back?
The only time I've ever heard "ma'am" used disrespectfully was when an attorney kept calling a judge "ma'am" instead of "Judge" or "Your honor." Even coming from a lay witness, I would see it as a sign of respect, but an attorney knows better.
Lastly - I hate it when former MM posters make comments about "I'm so glad I left MM!" or the like. It's so mean girl. It's the like former nerd who gets invited into the popular crowd in jr high and turns on her friends. MM has its quirks but it's filled with kind, smart, supportive women. If we're not your particular brand of fun anymore, you're welcome to leave but don't put us down when you have shared years of your life with us and received support, congratulations, and love from the people you are insulting. I post on other boards more frequently now just because there are more conversations there but it has nothing to do with the people on MM.
Lastly - I hate it when former MM posters make comments about "I'm so glad I left MM!" or the like. It's so mean girl. It's the like former nerd who gets invited into the popular crowd in jr high and turns on her friends. MM has its quirks but it's filled with kind, smart, supportive women. If we're not your particular brand of fun anymore, you're welcome to leave but don't put us down when you have shared years of your life with us and received support, congratulations, and love from the people you are insulting. I post on other boards more frequently now just because there are more conversations there but it has nothing to do with the people on MM.
I agree.
Yup.
And I really like some of the people who do it, which makes it more of a shame for me.
Also, I don't think that the fact that we don't eat our young over here is a negative.
Another one: I think the gypsy drama was overblown. I get being upset about sharing personal information, and it was crappy how she lied and tried to make another poster look crazy. I understand why people don't like her and why she got run off the board. But I don't think that she was actually planning to physically harm anyone. Acting like that comment about stabbing a poster in the neck was in any way serious sounds pretty crazy to me. While I was reading the ML thread last night, my BF said to me "do you think I could skip turning in this paper if I went over to my professor's house and stabbed her tonight?". My BF is like the most non-violent person ever - it was hyperbole. He doesn't like the professor but obviously isn't going to murder her. It's just a silly expression. Admittedly, if you think about it it's probably not an expression we all should be in the habit of using. But running with it as though gypsy was a dangerous and violent psychopath is just dramatic.
I also hate the idea that anyone should base their friend choices on what someone on a message board thinks of them. The constant hounding about people being friends with her is just silly. Honestly, if my best friend told me she did that I'd probably question her about WHY, and tell her I didn't think it was cool, but our friendship is a little deeper than that. My best friend could murder someone and I'd still be her friend because I'd assume she'd had her reasons or was going through something that made her temporarily act like an asshole. I have never spoken to gypsy off board so I have no horse in this race, but it's annoying that posters I like are getting flak for doing something they have every right to make their own decision about doing.
Lastly - I hate it when former MM posters make comments about "I'm so glad I left MM!" or the like. It's so mean girl. It's the like former nerd who gets invited into the popular crowd in jr high and turns on her friends. MM has its quirks but it's filled with kind, smart, supportive women. If we're not your particular brand of fun anymore, you're welcome to leave but don't put us down when you have shared years of your life with us and received support, congratulations, and love from the people you are insulting. I post on other boards more frequently now just because there are more conversations there but it has nothing to do with the people on MM.
I don't think the gypsy drama was overblown. I think she really hurt that other poster and tried to make her look crazy and she's cruel and shouldn't be on these boards.
I never had an issue with Kore and didn't really interact with her. I know I like Wandering (I only read a few pages of that post). However, from personal experience I know that if anyone was on any board being like, "O.jo was a good person. I don't care about what she did to Stan" I'd be very wtf about it. So I get why people can't fathom why someone would stay friends with someone who would do something shitty to someone else.
I do tend to agree with your last paragraph though, and I lol'd at the idea that a cc rules post on ML would go any other way. We've had the exact same conversation on here and most everyone was on the side of v and @madrinagal. I like MM, no one brings the drama except bliss, and that's what she wants to do anyway. It does make me sad when people are like that about MM, because I love it here. I agree it would be nicer to just not say it, but that's what happens on ML, you say things without thinking and sometimes it's mean. But whatever. We've got @songforyou and @shoegal and Rock and Vol and a bunch of other extremely smart and nice people. Who know what they're talking about with money. I know so much more about $$ and my future is so much more secure just from being on this board. My life is tangibly better because of MM. So whatever if it's boring or uptight. It's made me richer.
There are also some incredible people on ML fwiw, who made a dark time in my life a little better with kind words.
Oh, I don't mean that I think gypsy should still be around. I wish none of that happened, because I enjoyed gypsy and her posts, but I get why people don't want her here and don't blame them. It's the "OMG she's a dangerous psychopath and we're going to go on a witch hunt after anyone who hasn't ended their friendship with her!" that I find a bit silly.
I missed what happened to you I think I saw some of the aftermath but the details were gone so I have no idea what was said. I get what you're saying, though.
It's hard. The closest example in my life I can try to relate this to is how some of my mutual friends with my XH are still friends with him. He did some crappy stuff to me. It's definitely changed our friendships since we split, but I don't quite hold it against them, especially the friends who were closer to him to begin with. I believe those friends are good people and that they probably don't approve of how he treated me, but they have long standing friendships that were unrelated to my relationship with him. You can love the person but not their behavior type of thing. I have definitely put more effort into OTHER friendships since then than I do with our mutual friends, but I don't feel it's my right or place to tell those people they should evaluate their friendship choices, KWIM?