Post by trafficgirl on Nov 24, 2014 11:39:57 GMT -5
One of my best friends I have known since we were in the same 1st/2nd split grade class, but we didn't become friends until high school. Then we lost touch and didn't get really close until she joined our sorority in college.
The other 3 people I count as my closest friends are all from my sorority. There's not many people from high school I care to be close to.
I am friends with some people from a local board on the k.n.o.t from when I got married the first time around. I was really close with them for a while, but the group has drifted a bit. I'm still decently close with 2 people from that group.
I feel like I lost the one close friend I had from HS when she became a religious conservative. I do, however, have two BFFs from college that I keep in touch with often and see every other year or so (we live VERY far apart).
In Chicago, H and I had a very close circle of about 15 friends. Whenever we go back there, it's like we never left. Although I'm happy overall that we moved to the East Coast to be closer to family, I sure do miss those friendships. Even though we mostly only keep in touch through Facebook, I consider them lifelong friends.
Yes, I've known my best friend since we were 5. We've had some ups and downs over the years, but we are still super close. I wish we lived closer though, right now we're about 2,000 miles apart. Also one of my best guy friends that I'm still close with, I've known since middle school. Its nice to have a few people from waaaay back still in my life and see how we all have changed and yet we're still in touch.
The friends that I had in school are more like acquaintances now, or I don't talk to them at all.
I made a friend at work about 3 years ago and she has turned into my best friend, which I think will be lifelong. It is really hard finding and maintaining friendships as an adult, though.
Post by thebreakfastclub on Nov 24, 2014 11:57:11 GMT -5
No. I changed schools in 6th grade and had to start over again. Then I had a falling out right after senior year of high school with some friends who were treating me shabby.
My closest friend and I have known each other for 10 years.
My H has been friends with some guys since circa 1989. I envy that longevity.
Post by lightbulbsun on Nov 24, 2014 11:58:38 GMT -5
I don't really have any lifelong friends. I tried to keep in touch with my group of friends from elementary-high school, but I felt like I was making all the effort, and when I stopped trying to get together with them, I didn't really hear from them.
I have awesome friends from college, and a great group that I met when I moved to this area about 2 years ago.
None. It really really bothers me that I just let all of my friendships evaporate along the way. I wish I had one really close friend for when I was small.
I have a friend from middle school and one from 1st grade who live out of state. We stay in contact, but obviously aren't as close as we used to be.
My two best friends I met freshman year of college. And most of the rest of my circle of friends developed right after college (the rest of my college friends pretty much moved out of state.). I met my husband through this circle of friends--he had known some since high school.
I have definitely added new friends over the years and entire new circles. I like people.
My longest term friend and I met when we were 10. So it's been 24 years now. My next longest term friend is from college, so 16 years now ( I cannot believe I started college 16 years ago. Wtf!?) i live on a different continent than both of them, so keeping in touch is tricky. We talk a lot through email, phone, text. Despite the distance, whenever we talk or get together, we pick up where we left off. I know we'll be fiends for life despite our different life circumstances and the distance, Which is such a great feeling.
I've struggled to make significant friendships as an adult. I'm hoping that once we have kids, it'll be easier to make connections with people.
I have a few close friends that I met through the k.not/n.est days. I would consider them friends but not close enough to call to vent about life. We just hang and have fun together. I also have 2 BFFs, both go back to middle school. I am the godmother one's first born who is 18 now. We tell eachother EVERYTHING. My other BFF moved from MO to CA this month and I am giddy with excitement because our kids are the same age.
I think the phase of friendships I am in has only begun now that I have kids. When I look back at my mom's really close friendsships they all came from my brother's sports teams. I am excited to meet new moms as my kids get older and become more involved in activities outside of their preschool.
I have a very close friend from 5th grade; we've traveled the country together, shared an apartment, etc. We used to live 20min apart, and she just moved 2000 miles away this summer, it's tough. I have one other good friend in town where we've been close for about 10 yrs, but she's busy with 2 kids and a MLM business so we don't get together for girl time much (usually our family plus her family as a group, fun, but not the same). And several acquaintances in our area. Reality is, I'm just in a bit of a rut going from work to home without many activities that I used to do due to time and finances (yoga, dance, volunteering), so my circle's gotten a lot smaller in the past 5yrs or so, and I definitely feel that loss.
Nope. I met my oldest friend when I was 23 (we've been friends for 14 years). I have no contact with anyone from before my early-mid twenties, except relatives.
Nope, and it really bothers me sometimes. I've always had a hard time making friends (I'm shy and I get anxious in social situations). I only really keep in touch with two people from my sorority, and I'm only close-ish with 2 co-workers. A little over a year ago, I restarted an old hobby and hoped I'd make friends that way. I kind of am, but I'm not really "in" yet, you know? But I'll keep trying.
I won't have kids, so I won't ever have mom friends and I feel like that makes it even harder.
I am still friendly with a few friends from as far back as grade school, but my close friends now are the ones I've met as an adult -- all of whom are either my kids' friends' moms or my husband's friends' wives.
Post by liverandonions on Nov 24, 2014 13:11:33 GMT -5
I met my best friend at birth...34 years! My other best friend I've known since we were 14. Unfortunately we have drifted apart a lot the last few years, but we're still friends.
ETA: Found a picture of my and BFF and our sisters when were little. I'm in the middle, she's on the left. My sister is above me, and her sister is on the right. THey're the same age too.
I've been friends with my SIL since 1999 and my bff since 2000, when I was 13/14/15, so half my life. I feel like I grew up with them, and would consider them "lifelong" at this point. I have one other friend I met in 2007 who I know will always be in my life - she is my "person".
I've moved too much and too far to have lifelong friends. I did reconnect with a few school friends over FB but they aren't close enough to be my bffs.
Post by schitzengiggles on Nov 24, 2014 13:19:24 GMT -5
My "bestie" has been my bestie since we were little. (I was in 1st grade, she was in Kindergarten, and we met on the playground). We live about 4 hours apart now but still see each other every 6-8 weeks. That is going to change soon; she is moving to another state in 2015.
I also have a close friend who I met at a new job 5 years ago. We have both since moved on from that job and she lives in another state now. I moved cities. But we see each other once a year or so (the last time was just last week, I was so happy!). We will be lifelong friends from here on out :-)
I was never good at making friends even as a kid and definitely not as an adult, but in the last couple of years I have met tons of people and made many friends. I have way more friends now than I did as a kid or teenager, that is for sure. There are 3 local friends who I am particularly close with. The 4 of us do a lot of stuff together outside of the group through which we met. It's still somewhat new (lol, sounds like a relationship!) but I can see them becoming lifelong friends from here on out.
my closest friends are friends i have known for over a decade. my bff and i have been friends since we were 7! making friends as an adult is really hard. i am super introverted and shy (not the same thing!) so i have an especially hard time mostly because i don't want anyone to talk to me lol but i still want friends! so i have to really put a lot of energy into it.
Yes, I have a core group of girlfriends that I met in First grade that are still my friends to this day. I also have a few friends that I met on different boards on the knot over the years that I am still close with too.
Post by EmilieMadison on Nov 24, 2014 14:40:05 GMT -5
I have a family friend that I adore. She named her baby after me. Our great grandmothers were friends and so were all of the other women in each generation.
My oldest best friend, aside from toledo and cjoy who are the BFFs that I met in adulthood, is someone I've known since we were 13. I still talk to him nearly every day and we hang out once a week on average.
I hope my kids and toledo and cjoy's kids are lifelong friends.
Yes. Two of my friends I have been friends with since we were 5. A whole bunch of others we have been friends since Middle school. I make friends easily, but I love that I have had life long friends.
Yes. Two of my friends I have been friends with since we were 5. A whole bunch of others we have been friends since Middle school. I make friends easily, but I love that I have had life long friends.
I have one and we have been bfs since we were 10. She lives across town from me. It's really much harder to make as close of friends as I did when I was younger
Post by themoneytree on Nov 24, 2014 17:32:05 GMT -5
Not really. My active friendships where we talk regularly and visit whenever we can are from college onwards.
I have a college friend and his partner coming to stay for Christmas and went to England over the summer to surprise a friend (she's older but I met her when I was in college).
Those friendships are close to 20 years but living overseas makes it tough and most of my longer friendships have withered to Facebook interaction only.
Post by wildfloweragain on Nov 24, 2014 17:37:15 GMT -5
One from nursery school. I moved away in 4th grade. We wrote each other for years until we ended up at the same college. I saw her only every once in a while in college because she was busy with her sorority. Now we ended up in the same town and have kids about the same age.
Well if since HS then yes. I live 20-30 minutes from 3 friends I've known for 12-13 year and others have been added to that original group over the years that I've known 10 years. There are about 7 of us that live 20-30 minutes from each other. We get together 9-12 times a year.