My H's uncle's baby mama asked me why I wasn't pregnant yet before I even got a chance to take my coat off. I said "that's a really personal question that I have no desire to answer". She asked again when she got me alone, like 1.5 hr later. So I responded with "I've been screwing H practically every other day for the last six months, so sorry this isn't happening fast enough for you. Happy with that answer? Or are you gonna ask me again?" I got my period yesterday. It was NOT a good question to ask. I drank a lot.
The holidays are the one time a year I see my brother. We've never been close but I always try to be cordial and engage in conversation. He never tries. He doesn't even pretend to be interested in me or my H. If he does ask a question he doesn't even wait to hear the answer before he zones out into the TV, his phone, or laptop. I've been with my H for almost ten years. I don't think my brother has ever had more than a cursory 30-second conversation with him. I'm really sick of my hopes being dashed year after year. I give up.
The holidays are the one time a year I see my brother. We've never been close but I always try to be cordial and engage in conversation. He never tries. He doesn't even pretend to be interested in me or my H. If he does ask a question he doesn't even wait to hear the answer before he zones out into the TV, his phone, or laptop. I've been with my H for almost ten years. I don't think my brother has ever had more than a cursory 30-second conversation with him. I'm really sick of my hopes being dashed year after year. I give up.
My DS was an absolute nutjob today. DH and I traded off chasing him around. He lost his goddamn mind today. He's asleep now and I'm the noise police. I'm pretty sure everyone's annoyed with me for telling people to be quiet but if you wake him up I will literally decapitate you.
I am at my husband's grandmothers. Small gathering of ten (includes my family of four). My DD has a nut allergy, which I know is a PITA but my FIL has had one his entire life so they should be used to it. (FIL isn't here). The others were reminded yet every single dish they all brought has nuts. H's uncle walked in and said "Just so you know the salad, relish tray dip and muffins we brought all have nuts." Ok....
Then aunt did the same thing. The green bean casserole and pumpkin bread have nuts! Just so you know!
I would leave. My DD has one too, no one took it seriously until we wouldn't eat and leave shortly. If you want us here, please don't try to kill my daughter - you know, your granddaughter, niece, etc..
I am at my husband's grandmothers. Small gathering of ten (includes my family of four). My DD has a nut allergy, which I know is a PITA but my FIL has had one his entire life so they should be used to it. (FIL isn't here). The others were reminded yet every single dish they all brought has nuts. H's uncle walked in and said "Just so you know the salad, relish tray dip and muffins we brought all have nuts." Ok....
Then aunt did the same thing. The green bean casserole and pumpkin bread have nuts! Just so you know!
I would leave.  My  DD has one too, no one took it seriously until we wouldn't eat and leave shortly.  If you want us here, please don't try to kill my daughter - you know, your granddaughter, niece, etc..
We are ten hours away from home. Thankfully this is a last time ever trip.
Post by lightyears on Nov 27, 2014 22:45:42 GMT -5
my cousin has been keeping in touch with my ex-husband. like, "let's get together and haaaaang!" i spoke with her a few weeks ago and told her it hurt my feelings that she continued to do so (despite them having met only 6 times in 8 years).
she told me "it doesn't matter because it's just social media and he was always nice to [her daughter]." so i basically dropped the rope with her.
i found out earlier this week that she was at it again.
so i ignored her the entire time we saw her tonight. i didn't say a single word to her. as far as i'm concerned, if she wants a relationship with him, then she can't have one with me as well.
Post by mrsjuleshs on Nov 27, 2014 22:47:31 GMT -5
Ours was tame as always except about 15 mins out before leaving and they decided to pull up ferguson shit on the damn smart tv. We watched woodworking crap on there and amused my parents. We almost made it out Scott free. They are pretty damn conservative. Dd didn't have any know legs about it somehow. A few minor racist things were said as I seethed in the kitchen but I did get a few points across. Looks like I need to have a talk with my kid about white privilege. My parents did actually agree about that and the whole "driving while black" issue but I just don't think they truly get it. Thank god other politics didn't get brought up.
Post by lightyears on Nov 27, 2014 22:54:17 GMT -5
oh, and my mom.
i was trying to get my kid to nap and my mom offered to rock her, and then within 15 seconds handed her off to someone i didn't know. which then completely overstimulated my child.
Post by aussiecrush on Nov 27, 2014 23:13:28 GMT -5
The in laws got in touch today after years of radio silence. We didn't reply or acknowledge but we all know this isn't going to be a one off. Talking about our next move will require a lot of drinking.
Post by shadynasty on Nov 27, 2014 23:21:48 GMT -5
My ILs (who are hosting us) just went to bed and put away all the booze. I'm stuck watching football, which I hate, with H and BIL and nothing to drink.
It was a rough thanksgiving since one grandparent is dying (removed his feeding tube), and the grandparent on the other side had a massive heart attack. Dinner went shockingly well, but when we were leaving my dad commented it has been a crazy few months. I pointed out it had been a crazy year, and he started listing the major things: his heart surgery, my mom's noninvasive surgery, and the grandparents.
He then said, "good thing nothing happened to you." I then pointed out that I had a miscarriage (which he knew about) and he said, "yeah, well but I wasn't involved in that." Seriously?
I will forgive him since it is a stressful time, but damn.
I just got pissed at DS1 because he screwed DS2 and his girlfriend out of their house in a totally dickish manner. They were kind enough to take in him and his girlfriend (now wife) when they moved. I found out today that DS2 and his girlfriend now have to move out of their house by Monday because the lease was up and DS1 and his wife underhandedly went to the landlord and signed a new lease without them and are having wife's friend move in to the rooms that DS2 and his girlfriend have. This is the house that DS2s girlfriend lived in with her roommates (who moved out last month) and then when she and DS2 started dating he moved in. DS1 moved in at the end of summer and started taking over and are shoving them out of their own house. They're now moving in with friends for a month so they can save up for their own place. I'm a little pissed off right now. Christmas should be fun since they'll all be here together. I'm seeing the new wife in a new light, one that I'm not liking a whole lot. And DS1 is more and more like his dad and will let her run roughshod. I didn't raise my kids up to be dicks but that's how it's turning out all too often. I'm very disappointed.
My parents were supposed to be here an hour ago. I told them early because last year they showed up 3 hours late and still wanted to cook stuff here. They are bringing the propane and oil to fry the turkey and I am about to send H to just go get some. I reminded them last night that last year was a little ridiculous.
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We are only having a family of four as guests this years, so 7 total. These friends are chronically late, and I almost told them 2pm so they'd get here at 3pm, but I was afraid this would be on time this one time and I wouldn't be ready, so I told them 3, when I wanted them here (because the turkey will be ready at 3:30). Yup. They just called. "We'll probably be leaving in about 5 minutes." They live 45 minutes away. OMG these are some of my favorite friends in the world, but this part of them drives me fucking insane. Even my kids get in on it - one of them went and got me smelling salts after they called!
Well, BIL put away all of the hunting knives and loaded weapons except the one next to his bed before our toddler came over. At least he's pretty sure he did. He thought about it for about five minutes when we asked and never quite seemed positive.
My nephew and his girlfriend are having a baby and they just found out they are having a girl. They are naming her Addison James. I thought that James was from somewhere on her side of the family. Newp. James as in LaBron.
Everyone is generally behaving well and I am happy to see them, but the beds in my parents guest room are 1. Fucking TWIN beds and 2. Twenty-five years old, therefore they are 3. The most uncomfortable godawful sleeping experience ever. I was awake at least once an hour allllll night long and there is no part of my body that doesn't hurt right now. They've done a billion house improvements lately (like entirely new kitchen and baths) and I'm like dude, go to IKEA and get something halfway decent for the guest room. In at least a queen. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
Everyone is generally behaving well and I am happy to see them, but the beds in my parents guest room are 1. Fucking TWIN beds and 2. Twenty-five years old, therefore they are 3. The most uncomfortable godawful sleeping experience ever. I was awake at least once an hour allllll night long and there is no part of my body that doesn't hurt right now. They've done a billion house improvements lately (like entirely new kitchen and baths) and I'm like dude, go to IKEA and get something halfway decent for the guest room. In at least a queen. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
My mom bought a new mattress for their guest room last year and it's like a slab of concrete. Because they like firm mattresses so obviously everybody does. I finally bought a memory foam mattress topper for it and had it shipped directly to them. I am now the hero of all of the grandkids who spend the night there.
My nephew and his girlfriend are having a baby and they just found out they are having a girl. They are naming her Addison James. I thought that James was from somewhere on her side of the family. Newp. James as in LaBron.
Everyone is generally behaving well and I am happy to see them, but the beds in my parents guest room are 1. Fucking TWIN beds and 2. Twenty-five years old, therefore they are 3. The most uncomfortable godawful sleeping experience ever. I was awake at least once an hour allllll night long and there is no part of my body that doesn't hurt right now. They've done a billion house improvements lately (like entirely new kitchen and baths) and I'm like dude, go to IKEA and get something halfway decent for the guest room. In at least a queen. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
My mom bought a new mattress for their guest room last year and it's like a slab of concrete. Because they like firm mattresses so obviously everybody does. I finally bought a memory foam mattress topper for it and had it shipped directly to them. I am now the hero of all of the grandkids who spend the night there.
My mom did this too! It's horrible!
She came to visit me and just raved about how nice the guest bed was. Yeah ma because it's not made out of cinder blocks.
Everyone is generally behaving well and I am happy to see them, but the beds in my parents guest room are 1. Fucking TWIN beds and 2. Twenty-five years old, therefore they are 3. The most uncomfortable godawful sleeping experience ever. I was awake at least once an hour allllll night long and there is no part of my body that doesn't hurt right now. They've done a billion house improvements lately (like entirely new kitchen and baths) and I'm like dude, go to IKEA and get something halfway decent for the guest room. In at least a queen. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD.
My mom bought a new mattress for their guest room last year and it's like a slab of concrete. Because they like firm mattresses so obviously everybody does. I finally bought a memory foam mattress topper for it and had it shipped directly to them. I am now the hero of all of the grandkids who spend the night there.
DH and I made up our spare room into a guest room, just in time for his parents to come visit. We bought a new bed, and he wanted to put some $99 mattress in there. I told him he couldn't have his parents sleep on a POS mattress just to save a few dollars. Luckily he listened to me, and we bought a better mattress (still kind of cheap), but I put a memory foam topper on it just in case. I'm sure it's way better than the leaky Aerobed we used to have for guests.
DHs loud family including FIL woke DS up from his nap. I got him changed and brought him out and FIL asked why I went and woke him up because obviously he's still tired. SIL told DH that she thought I was going to snap and kill everyone in the room. Close to it SIL!