whelp.

[walterismydog]

The child (because he is NOT a man) I was dating fell off the planet. Yup. 

Two days after I met his friends. One day after he told me how much his friends liked me and how he was so happy because he wouldn't have introduced me to them if he wasn't totally serious about me. The same week he casually mentioned how nice it would be when we lived together in the future (because his schedule was a little crazy). We had thanksgiving plans. Not one single thing occurred to make me think anything was wrong at all. 

I didn't do anything crazy. I sent him one long message asking him to at least have the integrity and balls to tell me what the hell happened. I realize it was only two months of dating him, but we were "official", if that's worth anything. I feel like that at least deserves a fucking explanation. I mean...he met my mom for godsakes. On his request! No response at all. I've obviously googled his name to see if he's alive, by all accounts he is. 

So, another one bites the dust in my weird fucking love life. 

2014, you have been one hell of a fucked up year. 

[rosiedozie]

Eff that guy. I'm sorry, you deserve better.

[Deleted]

He sucks. I am sorry

[eb777888]

Oh, man. I'm so sorry. What a fucking asshole.

[cats]

I'm sorry.

What a nerdface.

[1confused1]

I'm so sorry

[Deleted]

Wow. What an asshole!

[compassrose]

I'm so sorry. Dating as an adult is so hard.

Asshat.

[walterismydog]

thanks nicbreeful and rosiedozie_ (eta: sorry and everyone else who replied while I was writing this!)
It's just so fucking fucked up to me that these idiots who fall off the planet seem to have a complete and total disregard for the other person's feelings.
First facebook breaker-upper and now this, with a couple of weirdos thrown in in between. I just don't even know.

[eb777888]

Were you guys FB friends?

[lilybug]

Fucker! I'm sorry, Walter. Mentally kicking his coward balls for you.

I had this happen one time, and found out much later that he had disappeared because he got back together with an ex. Like, that day. Eyeroll.

[walterismydog]

Dec 2, 2014 22:46:59 GMT -5 peachy said:

That's so terrible. He just stopped calling/responding? How frustrating! That's super shitty.

Yes, as if he died. 

This happened back in January with another guy, but it was only after like three dates so nbd. This was an established relationship with meeting of friends and parents. I dunno. I just find the whole thing so outrageous. 

[walterismydog]

Dec 2, 2014 22:47:42 GMT -5 eb777888 said:

Were you guys FB friends?

No, he's not on fb. 

[demelza]

Dec 2, 2014 22:47:56 GMT -5 lilybug said:

Fucker! I'm sorry, Walter. Mentally kicking his coward balls for you.

I had this happen one time, and found out much later that he had disappeared because he got back together with an ex. Like, that day. Eyeroll.

I could see something like this as a reason.  Weird!!

[renna]

I'm so glad you dodged the bullet with this guy because you're right, he is not a MAN yet. Holy cow, what if you had a house with him and the garbage disposal broke? You might find him hiding under the bed!

What I am sad for is your sadness and your pain. I'm so sorry, walter. I know I never liked hearing this from married friends when I was single but the right one will come along and knock your socks off. I hope the time is not long for you to find him.

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[walterismydog]

Dec 2, 2014 22:50:05 GMT -5 demelza said:

Dec 2, 2014 22:47:56 GMT -5 lilybug said:

Fucker! I'm sorry, Walter. Mentally kicking his coward balls for you.

I had this happen one time, and found out much later that he had disappeared because he got back together with an ex. Like, that day. Eyeroll.

I could see something like this as a reason.  Weird!!

As pointless as it is to even try to figure out what happened, I have a hunch that it has something to do with his ex. There were some strange things surrounding that whole situation. 

I think ultimately I probably dodged a bullet and a bunch of baggage and drama, soooo good riddance I suppose. Still would have been nice to have been TOLD. Blargh. 

[iamali]

DISLIKE

[vicky]

How fucked up. I'm sorry.

[cheeseandcrackers]

Two months is a long enough time to break it off with someone if you don't think it's working!
I'm sorry Walter. When was the lsat time you heard from him?

[Captain Serious]

I'm so sorry. I was hoping for better.

[frenchies]

That's some Grade A bullshit right there. I'm so sorry.

[Deleted]

I feel like shitpig is appropriate here. He is a shitpig.

[walterismydog]

Dec 2, 2014 22:55:00 GMT -5 cheeseandcrackers said:

Two months is a long enough time to break it off with someone if you don't think it's working!
I'm sorry Walter. When was the lsat time you heard from him?

Or to at least drop some clues, not introduce to friends and say wonderful things! geez. 

It was about 2 weeks ago.

[lilac05]

 That really sucks.  

How long since you last heard from him?  Ugh.  Any chance he could be really sick?  Or more likely that he's just an idiot?  I just have a hard time believing someone could just disappear like that.

[underwaterrhymes]

That really sucks. I'm so sorry.

This is totally anecdotal. But back in 2005 I dated a guy for six weeks. He was not someone I would have married, but the sex was great and we had fun. He bought me a toothbrush for his apartment, told me I would freak if I knew the things he was telling his mom about me, and then totally flaked all in the span of a week. I called him on it and he told me that the sex was the best of his life, but we had nothing in common. Which was true, but it pissed me off and hurt my feelings. Turns out his ex-girlfriend's dad died and since his dad was also deceased, he wanted to be there for her.

I felt sorry for myself for a few days. But it was the best thing that ever happened to me because I met H two weeks later.

I'm so sorry you've had to deal with shitheads. It really isn't fair. But when you meet that awesome guy who is awesome long term (and you will) you will be like, haha motherfucker! YOUR LOSS. Actually, you should be saying that now because it truly is his loss.

[walterismydog]

Dec 2, 2014 22:58:11 GMT -5 peachy said:

Dec 2, 2014 22:53:02 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

As pointless as it is to even try to figure out what happened, I have a hunch that it has something to do with his ex. There were some strange things surrounding that whole situation. 

I think ultimately I probably dodged a bullet and a bunch of baggage and drama, soooo good riddance I suppose. Still would have been nice to have been TOLD. Blargh. 

You deserve to be told, dammit! I think that would take so much more of my mental energy to have a guy just fall off the earth (rather than telling me he didn't want to see me any more)...like I would spend way more time thinking about it and dwelling on it, which is the worst. It's just so inconsiderate. I'm sorry.

That's the part that really sucks. The not knowing. Like, how the fuck am I supposed to learn from this and grow from this if I don't even know what happened? And analyzing it is just futile. So I guess I just move on, but that sucks too because he seemed so fucking genuine. I mean, I knew all his info too and met him at the police station multiple times. How am I supposed to trust anyone anymore? i just don't know. 

[lilybug]

Dec 2, 2014 22:53:02 GMT -5 walterismydog said:

Dec 2, 2014 22:50:05 GMT -5 demelza said:

I could see something like this as a reason.  Weird!!

As pointless as it is to even try to figure out what happened, I have a hunch that it has something to do with his ex. There were some strange things surrounding that whole situation.

So the guy who did this to me seemed like a total catch, it was almost too good to be true, but I guess he was just a good actor. He told me he wanted nothing to do with his most recent ex. A couple of months in he disappeared. Looking back, I realized that he got phone calls at weird times, etc. I think he was talking to her and working things out the whole time. Again, FUCKERS. You will find someone way better. 2014 can fuck right off.

[spitforspat]

WTF? What a dick. Good riddance, right?

[sequins]

What an asshole. I'm sorry