I'm trying not to freak out

[eb777888]

I'm really sorry, ooglie. You deserve better than that.

[Alyssa]

Time to toss all of his shit out on the front lawn and change the locks.

[womet]

I am so sorry. But you are strong and you will come out of this a better, stronger woman.

[silva]

I'm so sorry. Do you have additional family close by?

[papie]

Im so sorry ooglie. (((Hugs)))

[sapphireblue]

Oh, I am really sorry. I have been through something similar (although not as bad as this) and I know it is just a crushing blow. Your whole world is rocked.

I also have friends who have been through this, and I want to tell you that all of us are now so much happier than we were when we were with those cheating bastards. It's a hard road you have in front of you for a bit but you will absolutely be better off in the end.

I still am so sorry for the pain you are in right now.

[my4girls]

I'm so sorry, what an ass.

How did you find out what room he was in to catch him?

[happyholiday]

I'm so sorry. Huge, huge hugs for you. Take it moment-by-moment, and know that we are here for you.

[mudslide]

I'm so very sorry.

[dottyblue]

I'm so sorry. I'm so glad you had your sister with you.

[karmasabiotch]

I'm so sorry.

[Bernadine]

Oh- something my counselor recommended- write down everything you're feeling right now, so you can re-read in your moments of weakness and be reassured of your decision.

You got this hon.

[Saint Monica]

((Hugs))

[greencrayon]

I'm really really sorry. Hugs!

[flutermed]

I am sorry he put you through the worry. You are strong and will be better for leaving.

[runforrest]

I'm so very sorry. You handled that with grace and you are going to make it through this. Hugs.

[bronxgirl]

I'm really, really sorry.

[IrishBelle]

I am so sorry. Please take care of yourself and find a lawyer if you haven't already.

[woodiedog]

So sorry.

[mellymel]

I am so sorry. What an asshole. Take care of yourself and stay strong. I'm amazed by your strength already.

[hisno1girl]

Dec 5, 2014 11:33:24 GMT -5 winecat said:

Dec 5, 2014 11:21:09 GMT -5 @buckybells said:

I would actually consult a lawyer before doing any of this. I think this kind of thing can actually come back to bite you depending on the laws in your state, etc. I don't think you can legally cut off his access to his own money. However, I'm not a lawyer (just a divorced person). Please be careful not to do anything you'll regret in the long run - consulting a lawyer before doing anything major is always a good idea.

And, I'm so sorry. I don't know you, but I am outraged on your behalf. Being cheated on is the worst. You will get through this and be ok.

A judge will probably tell her to either put the money back or give him half.  If he drains the accounts, she will be SOL.  It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission in this case in my experience.  She also doesn't have to empty the accounts, but it's a very good idea to protect herself financially.

Exactly.

I would take every damn penny and put it in a sole account and tell him if he wants, to come and fight for it. if a judge says she has to give half of it back, so be it, but at least she'll be partially protected because she obviously can't trust her husband anymore.