I wouldn't be hurt. It is my goal to make performances though, I don't care about parties. If I'm not there for some reason I'd appreciate getting the message.
Can't hurt to ask if they want you to continue to do it and tell them that you want to be sensitive to their feelings.
I always enjoy getting pics of my child. They may be sad they can't be there, but getting a picture doesn't change that fact and it gives them a chance to see their child.
I say keep doing it unless someone asks you not to
Post by stacyb1983 on Dec 18, 2014 16:03:50 GMT -5
I've always appreciated when H's teachers or chaperones send me a picture of H enjoying his day. C's babysitter texts me pictures all of the time, I love it!
Post by stacyb1983 on Dec 18, 2014 16:08:49 GMT -5
Today is H's school Christmas party. As soon as I hit post on my reply above, one of the SAHMs who is hosting the party texted me a picture of H. Honestly, I am happy he is having fun. I appreciate her effort to send me the picture.
Post by pinkdutchtulips on Dec 18, 2014 16:12:22 GMT -5
DD's after school provider sent me photos of the kinder part of the holiday concert and took a video that she shared w/ me when I picked up dd.
I don't mind it and told her that I appreciated her sending me the photos and taking the video. I make whatever events I can - I helped out w/ the thanksgiving feast in dd's classroom but my in classroom participation is nil due to my work schedule (1h15m commute + billables). DD knows that I can't make ALL of them but I try to be there for ones I know we'll BOTH enjoy and weekend/evening events (Halloween Carnival, School Play, etc.).
Post by InBetweenDays on Dec 18, 2014 16:39:46 GMT -5
I would definitely enjoy it.
Like others mentioned, I don't mind missing the parties, but I would be annoyed if all of the performances were during the day. Our school always does 2 performances - one during the day (for the other kids in the school and any parents that want to attend) and one in the evening for parents/families. We only have a few performances per grade each year, so maybe that results in more people trying to attend. But I'd estimate the student attendance/performance rate around 90%.
I would be grateful that somebody thought of that. Yes, I would wish I was there, but it would in now way bother or offend me that another mom sent me pics. Again, I would be grateful.
I would love it. I LOVE when daycare texts me pictures (it is rare as they are discouraged from using phones or texting parents) or tells me things I am "missing".
DCP tells me lots of moms are "jealous" of her & the other teachers- I will never understand that. I LOVE that she LOVES DD and that they have a good relationship. I want to see pictures of DD, even more so when it's of things I cannot be there for.
I rarely go to parties because I don't want to get a babysitter for them (there are tons since I have 3 kids in school) & love seeing the pics...either from teachers or parents. Two parents have really good cameras & will send out links to shutter fly albums from parties/sports which is nice too.
I would like it. It'd be a little odd if it were just a random parent, but if it was the "parent liason" or just someone I knew was very actively involved with school activites (like always signs up to chaperone etc.), I wouldn't bat an eye.
But I can see the sensitive person's position too.
Post by lizlemon19 on Dec 18, 2014 18:52:00 GMT -5
I wouldn't mind unless there was some passive-aggressive message or something. A friend texted me pics of a field trip last year and I thought it was cute.
I would love it. I love getting pics of my kids during the day, it makes me smile. Dd1 actually had something today I had to miss and her friends mom sent me a video, I was so grateful
Side note: why do they have these events during the day? I just found out that the school my DD will be going to next year has their JK and SK Christmas concert during the day. What is the reasoning behind having it when the majority of parents work?
They have them during the day because teachers, etc. don't get paid to be there in the evening. It would be too expensive to pay them overtime.
I would love to get pics of DD. I would be sad that I wasn't there, but I would be with or without pictures of the day, so I would want people to send away!