So I know the universal complaint with sex can be that someone doesn't last long enough. I'm usually good with about 10 minutes or so. J can go a lot longer; like I think it was a 1/2 hour last night. I'm not complaining but that's a looooong time! I think condoms prolong things.
I FaceTimed with P this morning. Every single time I FaceTime with him xh always insists on being in the background, shirtless. Yuck, put some clothes on.
I was talking to my dad last night and he said something that made me believe he was considering proposing to his gf. Oy! That would be a xmas surprise.
So I know the universal complaint with sex can be that someone doesn't last long enough. I'm usually good with about 10 minutes or so. J can go a lot longer; like I think it was a 1/2 hour last night. I'm not complaining but that's a looooong time! I think condoms prolong things.
If it goes too long, I start to chafe. Probably because I am old and don't self-lubricate like I used to.
Post by lyssbobiss, Command, B613 on Dec 19, 2014 12:35:06 GMT -5
I'm not a big lengthy sex fan. I would rather doing fast and often. Bf likes to take a looooong time and I start getting a little overstimulated after a while.
"This prick is asking for someone here to bring him to task Somebody give me some dirt on this vacuous mass so we can at last unmask him I'll pull the trigger on it, someone load the gun and cock it While we were all watching, he got Washington in his pocket."
I don't chafe too badly and I don't have that much of an issue with lubrication. Perhaps I'm just selfish. After I'm done I'm like "ok hurry up!" Although sometimes he gets me off multiple times so that's a plus!
I like lengthy sex, but I'm a fan of quickies, too. The night I got pregnant with my son, it literally lasted 3 hours. There was some performance anxiety on stbxh's part though, since we had a lot riding on it (pun intended). I had some IF issues, and we had been TTC for 16 months, and we had just paid a ton for fertility meds.
My flameful...I have the feels for Vegas, but I am just turning them off, like a light switch. (it's a nifty little Mormon trick) (<---Book of Mormon Musical reference, LOL-sorry, I crack myself up)
When I got the really bad news about my Dad, he was the first person I thought about talking to, but I didn't call because we just don't have that relationship. That made me realize "oh shit, I haz the feels". But I won't be around much next month, so I figure I'll just see what happens. Maybe some separation will bring a little more clarity, so I am going to continue to push down the feelings until then. #AvoidanceFTW
Post by Emerald1486 on Dec 19, 2014 13:37:25 GMT -5
I'm a little sad that I don't get my stocking filled at Christmas anymore. I try to put something in my brother's stocking (good candy usually). And obviously DS gets his stuffed (with cars this year). But my stocking is going to be flat. Also, this will be the 4th year in a row that DS is my first kiss on New Year. Single life has been getting to me lately...
I'm a little sad that I don't get my stocking filled at Christmas anymore. I try to put something in my brother's stocking (good candy usually). And obviously DS gets his stuffed (with cars this year). But my stocking is going to be flat. Also, this will be the 4th year in a row that DS is my first kiss on New Year. Single life has been getting to me lately...
Hugs. I get it.
I love a lot about being single, but there are some things that just downright stink sometimes.
Thanks. I do love a lot of things about being single. But sometimes... it just gets lonely too.
I'm judging my cousin hardcore. Last year at this time she had just left her husband (who was arrested for solicting a minor. Long story, she clearly made the right choice there and filed papers the morning after his arrest). So it was clearly traumatic. She became a foster mom and has four kids right now. Now apparently also a new boyfriend who she is bringing to xmas. I'm pretty pissed she's exposing her foster kids to this guy. I mean they've been through enough and what if they become attached and it's another person who has left them. Also I'm like you have an entirely new "family" (quotes for the boyfriend, not the kiddos) in a year. I think she's avoiding hardcore and not making good choices. I don't verbalize this to her.
Also her new boyfriend went to high school with me. I was a super nerd and he was "cool" and his group was not so nice. It's bringing back some really traumatizing memories. Which is embarrassing because it's not like he bullied me personally or something. Also I'll be sober through this whole thing, because I'm not drinking on Xmas eve. My uncle has been sober for several weeks now. He hasn't demanded anything of course but I thought well it might be nice to be sober on the holiday so I don't need a drink either. I was WRONG so wrong.
I've been under intense pressure at work and I think I'm just totally losing it guys. I'm so ready for some time off.
I'm a little sad that I don't get my stocking filled at Christmas anymore. I try to put something in my brother's stocking (good candy usually). And obviously DS gets his stuffed (with cars this year). But my stocking is going to be flat. Also, this will be the 4th year in a row that DS is my first kiss on New Year. Single life has been getting to me lately...
I feel you here. This will be my first Christmas single. I, however, will have a stuffed stocking. Because I'm stuffing it myself with some good chocolate, some make up, and other small things for me in it. Because, well I rock. And I don't want to not have a stocking. Is that lame?
I also don't want my kids to think santa didn't bring mommy anything for Christmas, so I wrapped a couple gifts for myself to open.
I'm a little sad that I don't get my stocking filled at Christmas anymore. I try to put something in my brother's stocking (good candy usually). And obviously DS gets his stuffed (with cars this year). But my stocking is going to be flat. Also, this will be the 4th year in a row that DS is my first kiss on New Year. Single life has been getting to me lately...
I feel you here. This will be my first Christmas single. I, however, will have a stuffed stocking. Because I'm stuffing it myself with some good chocolate, some make up, and other small things for me in it. Because, well I rock. And I don't want to not have a stocking. Is that lame?
I also don't want my kids to think santa didn't bring mommy anything for Christmas, so I wrapped a couple gifts for myself to open.
My son expects Santa to stuff my stocking too so I got my own stuff! Perfume, mascara, underwear and maybe some slippers if I can fit them in there. I also got myself some pajamas and the bathrobe came free with the perfume and a makeup bag with samples
I feel you here. This will be my first Christmas single. I, however, will have a stuffed stocking. Because I'm stuffing it myself with some good chocolate, some make up, and other small things for me in it. Because, well I rock. And I don't want to not have a stocking. Is that lame?
I also don't want my kids to think santa didn't bring mommy anything for Christmas, so I wrapped a couple gifts for myself to open.
My son expects Santa to stuff my stocking too so I got my own stuff! Perfume, mascara, underwear and maybe some slippers if I can fit them in there. I also got myself some pajamas and the bathrobe came free with the perfume and a makeup bag with samples
When DS is older I realize I may have to fill my own. But right now its just kind of sad. Luckily, having my brother as a roommate means there will be a gift for me under the tree that I am surprised by.
And girlsownlove2218 .... that isn't lame. I've stuffed my own for the last couple years. I think just this year is getting to me
TR I think that's really normal actually. Mine was actually a product of anxiety. I found that similar circumstances were happening within my daily life that I never even realized. So not to be all armchair therapist, but it could be related to another issue, not just that you are reliant on men for your moods if that makes sense.
Post by 1confused1 on Dec 19, 2014 15:26:03 GMT -5
I texted M last night and I am so glad I did. He was finally honest with me and I have the closure I needed. Guess the only flameful part is that I texted him.
I texted M last night and I am so glad I did. He was finally honest with me and I have the closure I needed. Guess the only flameful part is that I texted him.
I texted M last night and I am so glad I did. He was finally honest with me and I have the closure I needed. Guess the only flameful part is that I texted him.
My flameful...I have the feels for Vegas, but I am just turning them off, like a light switch. (it's a nifty little Mormon trick) (<---Book of Mormon Musical reference, LOL-sorry, I crack myself up)
When I got the really bad news about my Dad, he was the first person I thought about talking to, but I didn't call because we just don't have that relationship. That made me realize "oh shit, I haz the feels". But I won't be around much next month, so I figure I'll just see what happens. Maybe some separation will bring a little more clarity, so I am going to continue to push down the feelings until then. #AvoidanceFTW
+1 here w BT .. don't know what it is but I too stop myself from sharing something him bc we don't have "that" kind of relationship. I keep struggling bt inviting him over to my place for NY and not .... yes bc I think it'd be fun to spend NY w/ him but then NOPE !!!! don't have that kind of relationship.
I texted M last night and I am so glad I did. He was finally honest with me and I have the closure I needed. Guess the only flameful part is that I texted him.
I kinda suck at flamefuls.
Today you have closure. But tomorrow you may have something new that would give you closure. Trust me - BTDT. Closure is a myth and has to come from yourself. So if you get the urge again - do not text him.
I'm not going to text him again. And I don't think closure is a myth, I feel comfortable walking away from this now, whereas before I didn't.
I wish I could say it happened when I was 18 to make it less embarrassing, but it was only like 3 years ago!
Me and FWB were texting and he joked about coming over even though it was late and we hadn't planned it. I was on my period, so I Googled "how to make period end sooner" or something similar. I don't even remember what they said, but I was reading through the suggestions and actually considering it. Then FWB texted and said he was just kidding and he was going to bed.